My husband died almost to years ago. The problem is that im in love with his brother and have been for along time about ten years we joke and kid about thing all the time but i want to tell him but im afraid that he will not get invlolved with me because of what everyone else might think including the niece and nephews which do love their aunt and uncle I need to be sure that if I tell him it doesnt mess up everything else. By the way im pretty sure that he feels the same way but afraid of what i might think or do to. Help
2006-10-30 08:57:04 · 14 answers · asked by popcorn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's not married. He's always joked i married the wrond brother. My husband told the family he wanted us togehter. but i stayed away because I didnt want him only because my husband said to but i wanted him to want me and take care of me not his brothers family.
2006-10-30 12:10:38 · update #1
It is not wrong al long as your brother-in-law isn't married. I am sure the others will be open to the idea after they see that you both truly love each other. Ask him in person first and see what the two of you feel. This is a decision that must be made together. Yes there will be relitives that whisper but remember that after awhile no one really listens to them. I am sure all the nephews and nieces will be trilled for you both. This doesn't disrespect your dead husband he would want you to get on with life and be happy. Besides it should be comforting knowing that he loved both of you.
2006-10-30 09:09:02 · answer #1 · answered by Mark S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's a touch hardship-free situation. Your latest courting is probable slightly boring and that's no longer suited, and then there is this different guy, who's sparkling and exciting, and also you thoroughly romanticize how your courting with him might want to be. You forget that you nonetheless might want to ought to pay the expenditures, artwork on a daily basis, take care of the babies, take care of the day in day vacation themes of a courting. you've were given those blinders on because he's new and sleek and also you haven't BEEN in a courting (romantically) with him so chilly perplexing actuality hasn't slapped you upside the face like a lifeless haddock yet. Bu in case you unload your present day guy and initiate courting his brother, that haddock WILL slap you authentic contained in the face. possibly no longer instantly away, notwithstanding that's going to (and it probable will instantly away reason hi, drama city, authentic it is your guy's BROTHER!) rather of concentrating in this new guy, attempt to distance your self from doing such issues as mendacity in mattress with him, which will in hardship-free words make issues worse, and spend your attempt on making issues better exciting including your present day better 1/2 incredibly than fantasizing about Johnny Newguy.
2016-10-16 06:58:36 · answer #2 · answered by svendsen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the question you need to ask yourself is are you in love with him because he reminds you of your late husband? Or are you truely in love with him. If you are truely in love with him and he feels the same way, the family should be more than happy for you.
2006-10-30 09:00:43 · answer #3 · answered by raelynn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pack your bags and move to Tennessee! Load him up in the back of the pick up with the dog named Ralph... Have a happy life!
2006-10-30 08:59:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not wrong if he's not married. I wouldn't start by telling him I was in love with him though. Be more subtle than that. That way if he's not interested it won't be awkward between you two.
2006-10-30 09:02:36 · answer #5 · answered by lucy02 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is your brother in law married?
2006-10-30 08:59:12 · answer #6 · answered by Almack 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your borhter-in-law is not married then why not?
your family will be shocked at first but they'll come to terms with it after a while
2006-10-30 09:01:30 · answer #7 · answered by wingless angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need some grief counseling before you decide if you love your dead husband's brother.
2006-10-30 09:02:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Kinda. That's disrespecting your deceased husband.
2006-10-30 08:58:46 · answer #9 · answered by The infamous bongblaster 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
do what ever u fill like doing u can tell him or can keep it a secret for ever and not tell him on how u fill about him
2006-10-30 09:04:24 · answer #10 · answered by Thomas G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋