How long do you wait to have sex?

Question

I'm 30 he's 48 and is looking for a wife; I'm looking for a husband. We both want children, however, I keep getting this player vibe. . .

Answer 1

Well from what you are saying, it sounds to me like you're not sure about him at all. If you're not sure about the relationship, not sure about him, then I think waiting is probably a good idea. There is no set time amount to wait, but I do think you should feel good about the relationship and where it is going if you're going to do that.

Best of luck,
~Kyle

Answer 2

It sounds as though you may be worried that if you do have sex with him that he will not call back. If he is interested in you and you both have been talking about future issues, then I do not see the problem in going to that next step, sex. What really happens if he decides to move on, you gave him your love and he took it with no feelings. If you give him your love and he decides your the one he wants to share his life with, then you have a found a great person.
My wife thought I was a player also, we had our first child when I was 48, we since have had another and been together 8 years. It was one of the best decisions we made together. Good luck.

Answer 3

Don't really think there's a hard fast rule for this but for me, it used to always happen too soon. These days, I put it off for 4-6 months if possible. I don't think I can have a strong relationship until I know a woman at least 6 months. I figure the front we put up can only last 3-4 months before the real person shows through.

Answer 4

When yur're 40 he's 58. whemn he's 68 youir're 50.
It works for some peopkle but it's risky..I would go with my gut feeling, and at your age I would also date others a while.
Experience sex first before you tie the knot. The may be good sex and there may be little or no sex after marriage about 10 years down the road.

Answer 5

LOOK READ ME I AM DOWN HERE!!

if you are getting a player vibe 30 day wait!! if not a player 1/12 to two weeks!! that way they know your not a slut and not a nun either!!

Answer 6

Do what you feel like doing.
Do you think you are ready for another step in your relationship? Would you rather wait and spare possibility of your heart being broken? Is it that important to withold sex, or would you rather enjoy life?

As you can see, there are many different angles to see things.
Only you know the full extent of your situation. This is a decision you have to make on your own.
Don't let anybody pressure you into anything.

Answer 7

Not everyone waits for the same amount of time. If you don't feel comfortable having sex with him, then keep waiting. If he's worth having at all, he'll wait until your ready to be with him. It doesn't matter how old you are. What matters is respect and patience. Just don't lead him on letting him think you're going to give it up if you're not. Tell it like it is.

Answer 8

Do what I told my daughters to do...

Kissing OK after 2nd date, fooling around (no sex) after 3 months, protected sex after 6 months.

If you had a child today, keep in mind he will be 69 years old by the time the child is 21. Is that what you want?

Answer 9

Usually I like to adhere to an 8 date/2 month rule before having sex. There are verious reasons for this. You want to get to know and feel comfortable with someone before getting intimate with them. You also want to know what kind of person you are taking to bed. Lastly, you want to make sure you are not inviting risks of any STDs your partner may have. By waiting a little while before you have sex makes it better instead of a one-nighter.

Answer 10

I know this sounds old fashioned, but if he waits long enough to marry u first, then i doubt he's a player. Just make sure he's what your looking for and that u see his whole personality.