Three months ago I got drunk with friends and cheated on my girlfriend of three years, immediately after telling her I was dumped and have been trying to repair the damages I've caused since. Presently I'm now talking to my exgirlfriend everyday, and eventually I will be given a second chance. However, I'm going to also have to give her parents a very sincere apology and ask for forgiveness for all the pain I've caused them as well. My question is if your daughter was cheated on by her boyfriend, and he sought forgiveness, would you allow him into your home again?
2006-10-30 08:51:43 · 20 answers · asked by ilovemyfiancekatie 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I'd let him back into my home so I could chew his scrawny little butt out!
2006-10-30 08:57:59 · answer #1 · answered by momof3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first instinct is to say NOT IN THIS LIFETIME! But then I have to look at what my daughter really wants...and how old she may be at the time. If your a teen...hit the road. If your early 20's big maybe...with lots of reservations. If your 30 somethings...I don't know...it would at that point all have to do with my daughter.
You can't excuse that kind of betrayal on getting drunk. Even drunk you knew what you were doing...and you knew that it was wrong...and if you have no control when you drink you shouldn't be drinking...and if you did it once, what makes you think I won't think that you have done it 100 times before...and risking my daughter's life (Aids/Hiv) right along with your own. None of this is good and there are no easy answers...and bless the folks that can rise above all this and give you a second chance...DON'T BLOW IT.
2006-10-31 01:53:17 · answer #2 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being drunk is no excuse. All you have to do is drink responsibly. And this is the key in my response. If you can't behave responsibly around booze and booze is always available the risks that you will do something wrong when drunk is fairly high.
Though there may be little doubt you regret what you did, some things can't be undone. (just think of people getting killed in a drunk driving accident)
If she was my daughter I would respect her choice, whatever she decided, but as to know if I would trust or respect you, you
And if you ever made my baby cry. You had better be ready for a world of torment. I would NEVER forgive you.
2006-10-30 09:03:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being drank is no reason to cheat. There might be another reason to do that - a sexual one, irresponsibility, looking for you self only etc. Sincere apology will be helpful to see that your intention in the end is a good one and you might regret what you did but is it enough to trust that it will not happen again? No. You may learn tow things from here: 1. You can do it again, somehow it will have a acceptable end and you can't help you self 2. You regreted so much, you lost something that will really change you. Is it?
2006-10-30 09:13:37 · answer #4 · answered by Vlad P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the question is how did you cheat on your girlfriend? Any cheating is terrible, and you know this, but what line did you cross? If I was the father, I really couldn't answer that unless I knew you personally. Everyone must forgive one another, and I am sure I would forgive you, however I don't know if I would allow you to date my daughter again. Don't blame drunkedness on your mistakes. I hate sounding like a father, but don't drink if you know you will make a mistake. That's it man, and I really hope it works out for you. You can make up for it if you never do it again! ha God Bless pal.
2006-10-30 09:12:27 · answer #5 · answered by joeyschiliro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, i believe your "mode" of cheating on your gf of THREE YEARS is a total cop out. but that's just my opinion. if you've committed yourself to a girl for three years and threw it all away and hurt her so much she broke up with you, i wouldn't get my hopes up that the parents would forgive you. this is their daughter you hurt and when you say "eventually i will be given a second chance"...that's pretty cocky of you. i wouldn't count your eggs and put them in the basket yet...and i wouldn't count on the parents or the girl fully forgiving and forgetting what you've done. but again, that's just my opinion. and as for my answer? nope...wouldn't forgive you if that was my daughter. once a cheater, always a cheater. you don't deserve the chance, and i hope she and her family aren't ignorant enough to give you another chance to hurt her again.
2006-10-30 09:10:45 · answer #6 · answered by celticstar84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'd have to do some real soul searching...you're the problem here, and what you don't realize is that : YOU did it before, you'll probably do it again.
I'd have a hard time forgiving you, or letting you into my house. What my daughter does is her business. If she's ignorant enough to let you back into her life in that capacity - then she has no one to blame but herself.
2006-10-30 09:00:38 · answer #7 · answered by vamedic4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let my daughter make her own decisions (especially if you are over 18) but it would take you a REALLY long time to earn my trust back, and if you are under 18 that could really put a damper on things. If you are truely serious, the best thing you can do is spend time w/ your girlfriend and her parents so they know you are serious. Good luck to you.
2006-10-30 08:55:49 · answer #8 · answered by chelebeee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i would not because the boyfriend has already broken our trust and we would be stupid to let him do that again and if our daughter would take him back i would be very angry because she would be allowing him to do it all over again. i think that once you cheat you will always cheat because you think you can find something better but what most people don't realize is they already have it in front of them.
2006-10-30 09:02:18 · answer #9 · answered by littleangelof5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would allow him in my home NOT because I forgave him but because I would rather my daughter and her boyfriend spend time together where I can keep and eye on them. Not welcoming him back would probably result in my daughter sneaking out and getting into trouble.
2006-10-30 09:06:00 · answer #10 · answered by mahree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, i would not let my daughter date a guy who drinks. Second of all, what do you mean by "cheating"? having sex? then no, I would not forgive you and if I found out you had sex with my daughter, you'd have another problem on your hands.
2006-10-30 08:53:57 · answer #11 · answered by april_hwth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋