I am seeing this girl, we have a VERY special connection (we both feel it) She is also dating this other guy that she meet before me, that she really doesn't like too much. But, they were dating first. I told her at dinner the other night how much I cared for her and my feelings towards her (very hard for me to do, to put myself out there like that). Well she said she feels the same, but she needs some time to figure things out, because she already is dating this guy. But she still wants to see me while she figures it out. Should I see her again soon ? Should I giver her flowers or a poem ? Should I try to win her over ? ..... Or, should I play it cool ? and let her contact me (not what I want, because I am nervous and waiting is making me crazy...haha) ?
2006-10-30 08:47:06 · 7 answers · asked by Richard J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Write the poem and send her flowers after she starts dating you!
2006-10-30 08:50:45 · answer #1 · answered by Mark S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys are on the same level like you say, then she would not really have to think twice about leaving the guy she was dating first. I mean if they were just dating and not in a committed relationship then there should be no reason why she has to think about it. All she has to say is, I am no longer available to date, I am in a relationship now. I dont know, that is how I see it. I mean I do not want to say she does not like you, but I think that your feelings might be a little stronger than hers.
If you want to wait, wait. But I would not wait to long. I would just straight out say, listen I would like to be in a relationship with you and the only way that is going to happen is if you leave the "dating" behind.
That's it. If she says she still does not know, then back off big time. If she really cares and she gets the feeling she is losing you then she will come back to you and make that decision. That might be the only way to test it.
2006-10-30 16:54:15 · answer #2 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give her space right now. In fact, more than space, if you want her to fall for you. By not being so available, you will make her think about if she misses you or not. If you hang around too long and just let her date this other guy, then she will wonder if you think very much of yourself. So, you don't have to be mean to her, keep being the nice person you are, but have "plans" on the days that she wants to go out, even find a date for yourself besides her, after all, that's what she is doing. Who knows.......maybe while YOU are dating around, you might find someone better then her, who doesn't make you wait!
2006-10-30 16:52:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead, see her again. A woman can date more than one person without being with one of them. There's a difference between dating and having a relationship. Don't go all crazy on her. If she likes you, it's because of who you've been so far. Just keep things cool like they are and see where it goes. Try, but don't try too hard.
2006-10-30 16:50:14 · answer #4 · answered by krisski 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women, we're known to drive men crazy. If she needs more time then what can you give her but more time. She's not ready to make that kind of commitment from either of you or maybe she's not sure of whom she really cares for. She's got to make her own decision and trying to persuade her decision could be a mistake in the long term. So, be patient and be there when she needs you. You wouldn't want someone to force you to make a decision you wouldn't be happy with later, would you?
2006-10-30 16:51:41 · answer #5 · answered by Betty Boop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like shes stringing you along a little just tell her straight its either you or him make her choose then you'll get your answer a just hope its the answer you want.
2006-10-30 16:51:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not do both play it cool and ask her out...
2006-10-30 16:53:03 · answer #7 · answered by Thomas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋