My mom lives with my sis and act as a live in babysitter for her. Whenever I try to get my mom get out of the house without my sis & her children my mother lashes out at me. I have made grand plans for spending time with my mother and at the last minute she will bail out saying she already had plans which i know is not true. I am at my wits end and dont know what to do. I dont want to die before my mom does and she be filled with regret for not spending more time with me. On the flip side i dont want all of our memories together to be of me trying to get her out of the house to enjoy life
I am not a needy child; I have a great life of my own that ocasionally includes a significant other but always includes 4 nephews and 3 god daughters all of whom keep me busy
Any thoughts, ideas or suggestions? Not looking for anyone to analzye my family-already know we are a cray bunch, lol. Just want a different perspective.
2006-10-30 08:43:50 · 2 answers · asked by msijg 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I like both of the answers so far in fact I have done both; I wrote a letter which she read but it didnt change anything
we went to the library and wrote notes back and forth but she referred to things that happened between us in the past b4 i was an adult. oddly enough her sisters have treated her badly and so did her mom for a few years before she died but when her mom died she was there with her even asking me to drive her to see her mom but she still wouldnt spend any time with me after her mom died. its pretty sad when you consider that my mom is not married and has grown children. she watches my sis kids every day after school but then she is free like a bird. Maybe i will show her this too and hopefully it will help.
2006-10-30 10:34:33 · update #1
Maybe you should try to write her a letter explaining to her how you are feeling. Write down your emotions and tell her how you have been affected by her not wanting to speed time with you alone. Tell her mostly that you love her and that you dont want to go thru life without having a mother daughter bond. Tell her you want her in your life, and that you would love to have some alone time with her. I think it very important in my family to give each child no matter if they are grown up or not some one on one time. Some times its easier to write it down on paper and let it all out even if you never give it to her.
2006-10-30 08:53:46 · answer #1 · answered by bobbiejo_12 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit her down and tell her all of this. My mom died young(46) and I regret the time not spent with her.
2006-10-30 16:49:20 · answer #2 · answered by homeschoolmama 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋