my whole family tells me that i shouldnt be with a guy who has been to prison should i folow what they aresaying or should i go with what i believe and that is everyone deserves a 2nd chance at doing things the right way.
2006-10-30 08:29:10 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It does depend on what he did. It is not worth putting yourself at risk from the actions of others.
However, probably the most important thing is his attitude towards his crime, conviction and punishment. Does he accept that what he did was wrong? If so, does he feel remorse and want to change into a better person?
Do you feel that he really wants to change and is he making the effort to?
Having a criminal record will put many obsticles in his, and indeed your, path. Many people will make judgements on what he was, and not necessarily on what he is now. Are you prepared to face these together?
If you feel that he wants to change, and is prepared to make the effort, then give him a second chance. It is only by giving people such a chance that they will get the opportunity to show that they need no longer be defined by what they once were.
2006-10-31 07:23:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough one because if your family mean a lot to you, you don't want to feel like you let them down if things don't work. On the other hand, if you have feelings for this guy you're always gonna be thinking 'what if' and that will drive you crazy for the rest of your life. You haven't said what he was in prison for but i believe that everyone deserves a second chance. Just follow your heart and see where it takes you. You never know it may open other doors you never thought possible or it may close doors that need to be locked tight! Good luck. xxx
2006-10-30 16:35:59 · answer #2 · answered by Little miss naughty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, actually it depends on what he did and how long he is going to be in the joint. If he is only committed a minor crime or is not going to be in very long, then it may be OK to stick with him. If he did something terrible and will not be leaving prison for a very long time, then you need to seriously consider breaking it off. You don't want to wait until you are an old woman before he can come back to you.
Other things you really have to consider as well. How will being in prison affect him both physically and psycologically? How much will he is going to change when he does get out? How coll are you going to be only sharing time together during visiting hours? How will your relationship with him affect how able he will be able to do his time?
I never dated a woman who is on the inside, but I have known a few people who have tried to carry a normal relationship with an inmate and it is definately not easy. You also may want to seriously seek relationship councelling as well.
2006-10-30 16:40:20 · answer #3 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what he did. I have dated two men from prison one was not a keeper, the other one I dated for two yrs, I was with him while he was in prison. The advice I have for you is not be blinded by your feelings and know enough to get out of the relatonship if needed. Hopefully your bf will not go back to prison, he should only get on get out of jail free card from you.
2006-10-30 16:41:15 · answer #4 · answered by jeanette b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in total agreement with Rich. It depends on his crime. If he's a good person overall and he made an honest mistake (bad decision) and he'll be out soon, then I'd say stick with him. If he purposefully committed a crime and has no remorse, then you should listen to your family and find someone who's more respectful and law-abiding. Good luck on your ultimate decision.
2006-10-30 16:34:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if being in prison should end a relationship, but if I were you I would keep my options open.
2006-10-30 16:33:47 · answer #6 · answered by stonedpigeon1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What has he been in prison for? If its Rape, battery, sexual harrasment, AND Murder. Id say no, but if its something like, Fighting, talk to him, and then think about it
2006-10-30 16:32:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may not sound fair to him, but for you, your family is probably right.
2006-10-30 16:32:05 · answer #8 · answered by Hey What You Think? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break up with him becouse he might do a bad thing again if he gets out of their
2006-10-30 16:35:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends on wat he did,did he kill someone,get drunk or something like that if he got drunk or killed someone would u want to stay w/ him the reston ur life?i kno i wouldnt wat if he tried to do it again ,w/ u in the car or by his side wat would u do then?i say leave him srry
2006-10-30 16:35:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋