Is it normal for a 19 year old man, who has a girlfriend of over 1 year, friends, and a job, to sit at home with his parents [when he lives home in the first place!]? And go so far as to designate a day when he won't hang out with his girlfriend so he can hang out with his parents? I go places with my mom and if she really needed me I'd be there in a heartbeat but.. I just find it a little embarrassing for someone that age to have his mom make him come home for dinner and get mad when he doesn't. Or yell at him for never being home. And he has an xmas party for work that he invited. Then he said, "maybe i'll ask my parents to come too". I was just thinking, if i was someone else, i'd laugh my *** off at a man who bought their parents to a work party.his mom seems to not be able to let go of him. It's hurting our relationship and the relationship with his friends. Every time I try to talk to him about it, he accuses me of trying to take him away from his family. is this normal?
2006-10-30 08:28:43 · 12 answers · asked by KS 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Later, he told me that he only said he wanted to ask his parents to see "how far I would go with telling him 'not to spend time with his family'". I think he was lying.
2006-10-30 08:30:22 · update #1
I'm from europe and i love my family but i also have a life..
2006-10-30 08:34:04 · update #2
No that is not normal. There should be a time in a young man's life where he is able to move on and get out on his own. If he has a full-time job, friends and everything else, he needs to move out and move on. Personally I wouldn't laugh at a friend who is doing that, however, I would question why they are still living at home and still hanging out with their family. Also, he shouldn't get mad at you for bringing it up. He should be mature enough to discuss the situation and then move on with it.
2006-10-30 08:32:02 · answer #1 · answered by nice_guyminnesota 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
This is a very hard questions to answer I personally do not think that this is normal. My brother in law is the same way he will jump when ever his mother says to and he is married and has three children and one on the way and he still does what ever his mother says and he is also 28 years old so I think that once you have a mamas boy you will always have a mamas boy I think that it is all on how much you are willing to put up with. personally I would run I would not be able to be in a relationship with someone who always thinks of his mother before his own family needs are met.
2006-10-30 16:33:32 · answer #2 · answered by Daigsmommy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok you think that is bad??? well it may be but not as bad as me... im 26 and trying to get out of my parents home... they say i cant go out more than 3 or sometimes 4 times a week... always complain when im never home but i have two jobs and well i dont like being at home up my mom does the same things... he just needs to get to a point where he can gently tell her that he is a grown man now and should be able to make the choice for himself to do what he wants and when he wants... oh and i pay rent...
2006-10-30 16:38:58 · answer #3 · answered by jeans0079 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow dont plan your future with him.sounds like a prissy lil mommas boy,its all good to love your family,but to invite them to a work party ummmmmmmmm is weird.he should put you first 7 days a week for personal time,work is work and sometimes overtime is required so hes got no choice.he lives with mommy and daddy and still designates a "parent" day,thats funny,hes basically a really non independent man,who needs the guidance from his parents on decisions he cant make on his own,thats sad,you dont look like a girl who would have trouble finding a man who wants to spend time with you,dont wait for that fool,move on and get a real man,let me know where to apply muah
2006-10-30 16:35:22 · answer #4 · answered by milf man 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He needs to cut those apron strings. At first it sounded kinda cute; that this guy really enjoyed his parents, but now he sounds like a Mama's Boy.
Normal maybe. Likely to have a healthy, thriving relationship with a potential MONSTER-IN-LAW? Unlikely.
2006-10-30 16:35:15 · answer #5 · answered by Bathroom Graffiti 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In most other countries (except for America), family is a big portion of one's life. It is completely normal to designate one day to spend with your family. This should be a good sign to show you that this person is a family man...and that's nice...and rare in the USA.
2006-10-30 16:31:42 · answer #6 · answered by Ladybug 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sounds like he is just really close to his family, now taking them to a work xmas party, that is a bit much....but it shows he cares about his family. try talking to him and tell him you're not trying to take him away from his parents.
2006-10-30 16:33:36 · answer #7 · answered by S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is he an only child? First born? Only son? Youngest? or just a mama's boy? I say he needs to leave the nest and fly on his own but that's just me. Good luck darlin'.
2006-10-30 16:33:55 · answer #8 · answered by Whynotguy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I find that very cool, admirable,
good for you, be proud of who you are,
love your parents, time on earth is short,
2006-10-30 16:30:35 · answer #9 · answered by rich2481 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
grow up. i mean so he loves his mom. dont hate. if he loves you he'll start leaning more your way. give it time. maybe the mom doesnt like you, and doesnt want him dating you. and hopes youll get the hint and leave him.
2006-10-30 16:33:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋