if a girl is happy in her new relationship . . would she still be calling her ex that she dumped for this new guy every couple weeks? . . .even though he hasnt answered or sent her something back in 4 months? and she still tries to contact him . . also . . can girls act completely happy on the outside and really be torn up on the inside? is there any way to tell if a girl is feeling like that? . . and if she wanted her ex back why would she still be with me and acting fine? why wouldnt she go back to him? maybe because she dumped him and doesnt know if he will take her back? they did go out for 2 1/2 years so i dunno . .. whats goin on?
and she hasnt told me that shes been calling him . . . and we have been dating since april and have been in an actual relationship for like 2 months . . . how long would she use me as a rebound if thats what i am? wouldnt it be over by now? it been about a month since she called him now since she was calling him. . . so maybe she will stop . . .
then just today she sent an email to him . . . it was this
hey! i just wanted to tell you that i hope you had a good birthday. i was going to call but i figured you wouldnt answer like usual or stop by and give you a card but you would have probably acted like you werent home lol. so i hope you had a good one. it would really mean a lot if you just sent something back lettin me know how ya were doin and stuff...i'de really appreciate it (name)! kayyy bye. . .
so if he hasnt responded to her since june why is she still trying to get ahold of him . . . when he hasnt responded since june?
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and then she just sent this message to him today
"look i know that you are getting my messages...i really just dont understand why you cant even say hi or something?? can you honestly please just give me a reason, like if it still upsets you or something, i mean thats fine. i just figured you could atleast do that for me...so please?"
2006-10-30 08:17:59 · 10 answers · asked by osb2904 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Girlfriend thinks some how the grass was greener on the other side however, she cant see the forest for the trees. You seem very sweet and you like her a lot, but you may have to cut her loose because she is trying to prompt some sort of reaction from the former bf. Are you sure of the main reasons they broke up? Sounds like she is looking for something to start back up. You may want to stop checking behind her also, she is dragging you into her "hilly-billy drama by proxy". Don't do it to yourself. Hang in there with her for as long as you can stand it, but trust me, she is cruising for an emotional brusin'; she wants attention from someone who basically could care less if she is alive. Watch out, and good luck.
2006-10-30 08:33:30 · answer #1 · answered by Lucky Lola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you need to worry, it sounds like they were good friends and she hoped to keep that even though she's lost her attraction to him and found better in you. two and a half years is a long time and it's hard to just cut people out of your life if you've cared for them. Maybe you should talk to her she might appreciate someone to talk to about it,the loss of a good friend is tough whatever the circumstances. Don't be all 'why are you calling/emailing him,do you want to be with him' just try and ask her how she's feeling,if she misses his friendship and comfort her.
2006-10-30 16:28:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to tell you but she still has it for him. And the fact that he is ignoring her is making her want him more. She might like you but I think that she is still in love with the ex.
I would back off for now. Let her get it out of her system and make her realize that you are not going to just sit around and wait for her. She has to have time by herself to figure out what she really wants. So I would tell her that you are going to give her some space so she has time to think.
You dont want to be stuck in the end if the ex starts to call her back and they decide to give it another try. That is what it looks like would happen when he does finally call her back.
2006-10-30 16:25:02 · answer #3 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a girl dumps a guy she always has second thoughts. Maybe he caused her to dump him and she still wants him. In this case she should catch on pretty soon unless he throws her a bone. Then she might go on begging for a long time.
2006-10-30 16:24:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably feels like she needs closure or something from the past relationship. He's not responding - so it doesn't seem to be anything you need to worry about there. So I guess it depends if you want to wait it out - or find a girl who really is emotionally available.
2006-10-30 16:22:09 · answer #5 · answered by Rebecca 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her you know about these attempts at contact with him and although you may understand, it is completely disrespectful and thoughtless to your relationship. You need to ask her what it is she wants from your relationship and if she still has feelings for him then she needs to come clean now because you deserve more respect than she is giving.
2006-10-30 16:21:50 · answer #6 · answered by JC 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She wants her cake and eat it, too. She is still clinging to this guy and probably wants him back. She still has feelings. Don't get attached to someone like that.
2006-10-30 16:21:18 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look at what this relationship is doing to you. Is it really worth it ? Sometimes you just have to walk away for your own sanity.
2006-10-30 16:22:30 · answer #8 · answered by JustMe 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
she still hasnt gotten over him and you are obviously her rebound guy. i think ya'll need a break for her to sort that issue out.
2006-10-30 16:33:09 · answer #9 · answered by Obria 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This question is way too long... I mean with one is the question.
2006-10-30 16:22:04 · answer #10 · answered by Carameltye 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋