Should I ask the man that Im in love with how he fels about that or should I wait until he brings it up. I dont wnt to waste time in this relationship if he has a problem with this.
2006-10-30 08:08:41 · 12 answers · asked by theresa kay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Theresa, I think you should approach the subject so that you have more than a guess about how he feels on the subject. You deserve an answer from the source and its best to ask him what he is looking for in the relationship. Sometimes you will find that men often assume that you know what he is thinking or that you can actually read his mind. Under those circumstances, he may never bring the subject up; especially if his mind is not going down the commitment road.
A lot of times, we make assumptions or uninformed opinions about something that we are so strongly tied to that we are extremely surprised when it is not what we had expected it to be. My sister is with a guy right now and has been for more than five years, waiting for him to bring the subject up. The most information she has learned from him is that he wants to have children. She just turned 45 and she fears he will not ask her to marry him as he is afraid her baby-making days are over. So she is sticking with him for futile reasons. My opinion is that he will find a young woman whose eggs are ripe and flowing, drop my sister, and enjoy the rest of his "aging" life.
I would certainly ask your man how he feels about marriage. Its better to know than to wonder or guess. :)
2006-10-30 08:20:24 · answer #1 · answered by terryoulboub 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's best to be upfront about something like that. I told my BF right from the start that I was in a relationship for marriage, and he said he was too. This makes things so much nicer, knowing we are on the same page.
2006-10-30 08:14:12 · answer #2 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well wat is the problem. Bring that ? up and he may feel the same way just scared to ask as all want to be fiances r. And u r not wasting time, a marriage ment to be is a surprise, planned out, and happiest day of ur life...give it time.>>>>>>so excited sounds like u have a nice and sensitive boyfriend!
2006-10-30 08:16:51 · answer #3 · answered by sexyme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely mention it right from the get go. It can't hurt to get it out there now, but can hurt if you wait until things get serious.
Are you sure you would never marry again? I always said I would marry again, but I would never, ever divorce again. I would have to be 120% sure.
2006-10-30 08:13:52 · answer #4 · answered by nottashygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you've heard this before, but never say never.
My mom said that she would never get married again and she's been married for 2 years now. She's actually the one who proposed.
2006-10-30 08:13:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are really in love then I think you should give marriage another try. It's not fair for him to love you and you not give him that chance.
2006-10-30 08:16:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him it will not be pretty if he in the end wants to and you did not tell him from the start.
2006-10-30 08:13:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were him I would want to know right up front. It would not be fair to just string him along. I am sure you would want him to be that upfront and open with you.
2006-10-30 08:12:06 · answer #8 · answered by willinkc 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it's important enough to you that it determines who you will date, then ask.
2006-10-30 08:16:58 · answer #9 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask.
2006-10-30 08:10:59 · answer #10 · answered by bikeworks 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋