My girlfriend doesnt want me to hangout with my female friends, because she thinks were doing something were not suppost to, and she is always calling me to check up on me to see if i am with someone else,its really getting annoying. What do you think i should do? Should i stay with her? Or leave her?
2006-10-30 08:08:08 · 16 answers · asked by Blazed and Confused 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dont mind when she hangs out with her guy friends, because if she cheats, then she really didnt like me and that makes thing much easier.
2006-10-30 08:42:06 · update #1
If she can't trust you,then she doesn't deserve you. Your friends are your friends,so if you end up likeing them then,so what? It's your choice,& your life,not her's. Good Luck-
2006-10-30 08:10:54 · answer #1 · answered by Jeremy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you cheated on her before? If you have then you probably shouldn't have female friends because she will continue to not trust you, she has a reason to be annoying.
If she is having issues and you haven't cheated, then maybe you could hang out with her and your female friends once so she is more comfortable with the situation, and you would have to introduce her as your girlfriend.
If she continues to not trust you after that, then maybe you should break up with her. She might have trust issues from a previous relationship that she needs to settle before she is in this relationship with you or anyone else.
It all depends on how much you like her and what your willing to put up with.
2006-10-30 16:15:04 · answer #2 · answered by jbvo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a lucky man with the woman I married, but I know alot of people who have this problem. People today are so insecure and it is a shame, because it detroys all relationships....the second reason being self centeredness......both are destructive to no end...and both can be traced to all failed relationships.
All this said, I would explain to her that if she cannot feel more secure with you, maybe a change is in order.........I say these things on the basis that you have not done something to make her distrust you.....
2006-10-30 16:13:00 · answer #3 · answered by novamanassas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to keep your female friends, you must break up with the girlfriend. Some girls are jealous, some aren't. Find one that doesn't mind.
Two questions - 1) How would you feel if she had male friends that she went out with when you weren't around? and 2) Why isn't she with you when you're hanging out with your female friends?
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2006-10-30 16:09:43 · answer #4 · answered by FozzieBear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been where you are Blazed! Sadly, she is not going to change, until she grows up. You should cut your losses and find a real woman, who is not worried about you having friends to talk to other than her. I have male friends that I have known since High School. They have been in my life longer than the man I see now and I tell him when and whom I see and what we talk about. He is always welcome to walk in at any time on any conversation. I believe he is content enough with himself that he is not jealous. If not, he sure knows how to keep a lid on it, besides, it is him that I go home to, not the other bloke. We all need friends, just be careful that your friends are not ALL female, you know? Best of Luck. Nana
2006-10-30 16:16:40 · answer #5 · answered by nanawnuts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Friend is going through the same thing so this is what I told him. Tell he the truth, what you wrote as you question say it to her face, tell her you are annoyed with what she is doing, the main reason girls do this because they are very insecure about themselfs. Sometimes all it takes is a kind word from the bf.
Hope this helps!!
2006-10-30 16:15:43 · answer #6 · answered by jeanette b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you aren't doing anything, let her hang out with you, with them sometimes. Let her see the vibe. Sometimes we need to see things for ourselves. Maybe the fact that you are hanging out without her makes her wonder. For good reason. Don't blame her for questioning it. If there is nothing going on, humor her, and prove it. Once you do, I am sure she will back off. But, trust is earned, and you have to understand that. Flip the table.......think about if she hung out with male friends.
2006-10-30 16:12:30 · answer #7 · answered by kimmypoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently your girlfriend is insecure. If you are doing nothing wrong as far as these female friends are concerned, than I would have to say lose the girlfriend. It will only become worse.
2006-10-30 16:13:08 · answer #8 · answered by lariat_sonata 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well shes insecure maybe shes been hurt in the past. Just talk to her and explain that you have female friends. if she doesnt except this then maybe she not the one for you.
In the end the decision is yours how do you feel about her?
2006-10-30 16:18:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her that trust is build on a relationship and if you can not trust me its not going to work. If your female friends been their before her, i chose them because i problem look at them as my sisters that could advise me on certain stuff. you should also tell her i need my space to breath i can always be around you, i also have friends too.
2006-10-30 16:23:35 · answer #10 · answered by Danille 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should express to her that the way she is acting is annoying. And, tell her that she is pushing you away by acting like that. Also, you should tell her that if this keeps going on like this. You will leave because you haven't done anything wrong.
2006-10-30 16:14:43 · answer #11 · answered by loves2dream2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋