My brother is really hurtful to me : verbal as well as physical. He is quite strong and will easily hurt me physically...He also says some really hurtful thigns such as 'No one gives a f*** what the hell you think' and stuff like that. Why is he like this?
2006-10-30 07:48:23 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He once hit my other brother ( who I am fond of-he's supportive and friendly ) in the temple in his head with the end of a golf club. He was so lucky to be not seriously injured-but stuff like this shouldn't just slide, should it?
2006-10-30 08:22:42 · update #1
You need to let your father and mother know that your brother has hurt you and that he speaks to you like that. Do it in private. Not as a confrontation.
Also, you should realize that he has a lot on his mind, just like you do. He does not want to be bossed arround by his sister. I don't know what culture you represent, but boys don't want to be told what to do, especially by any girl, much less by a little sister.
Rudeness is kind of a rite of passage in some neighborhoods. I didn't say it is good, just talking that way is what his friends expect of him. Don't get in his face. Don't correct him---even if you think you know better. We are all allowed to make our own
mistakes. (If you see something really tragic comming, by all means, tell your mother or aunt or some other adult, quickly, but otherwise let him learn)
Still, you should put on your sweetest sister face and tell him that you are glad to have a brother, and thank him not to hurt you, or you will see to it he regrets it!
I TAKE IT ALL BACK !!!!IF HE IS USING GOLF CLUBS, TURN HIS BUTT IN!!! NOW! LET YOUR PARENTS AND THE SCHOOL COUNSELORS KNOW.
2006-10-30 08:32:03 · answer #1 · answered by WhoKnows?1995 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many possible reasons your brother acts this way. You said he is physically hurting you and you are afraid. This is not simply sibling rivalry. It needs to be addressed. If you are a minor; tell your parents. If you are an adult; still try getting help from your parents. If they can't or wont help, look up the local women's shelter or domestic violence center. They will listen and offer options. They can probably set up counseling for you and possibly get your parents and brother involved. It's confidential (but they are mandated by law to report child abuse).
Other possible places to go for help are school counselors, your church, and other trusted relatives. Keep asking for help until you get it. You deserve to be safe.
2006-10-30 16:45:21 · answer #2 · answered by Karrose 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Brothers are just big buttheads. Growing up I was a middle child and all of my brothers and sisters beat me up. My brother was later diagnosed ODD (Oppisisonal Defiensey Disendrim) It is where it made him happy to hurt other people, and to make them upset. When I was 14 he tried to bash my head in w/ a hammer because he wanted me to die...all my mom could do was say please don't do it...If she would of told him to put the hammer down, or if she was to punish him for it he would of killed me right then and there. He was later put in a boys home, and he stayed there for a year and then he was put into foster care to help protect me from him. Now that we are older we see that we are just a like...well minus the behavior problems. He has straigtened up since then as well. Have you tried to talk to your brother? Also sometime you just have to ignore what he says...it hurts but if you ignore it than he'll get mad because your bigger than what he thinks he is.
2006-10-30 16:11:56 · answer #3 · answered by Heather W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably got some deep rooted problems with females. but enough bout him this is about you. You should REALLY tell someone about this, parents/ gaurdians / or even authority figures. What he's doing is serious abuse. And trust me, you may feel like you're betraying him, but in real life, you're saving him. Because he may end up doing things like this to other people later in life that could land him some "jail time". Help yourself by helping him. P.S. if you tell the authorities suggest Therapy, if you dont want him to get in trouble.
2006-10-30 15:59:53 · answer #4 · answered by demonic_gatekeeper_666 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My brother was the same way. He was harsh verbally to me. He used to tell me I was fat, stupid, ugly, I had a bubble butt etc. None of it was true. I was a skinny little kid, and in PEN classes. He once gave me a bear hug, and as I was screaming he was hurting me - he squeezed harder, and when he put me down i fell to the ground, i was having a hard time breathing, and he kept kicking me in the side of my stomach telling me to stop acting like a baby and to get up....... finally my mom came in the room, and she took me to the ER - he cracked my ribs!
I kept my distance from him, and when things started getting rough I'd separate myself from him. I think it's a boy thing ----- they try to act all tough!
It will get better, well at least it did for me. Now he'll still call me names, but I know they aren't true, and I let them go in one ear and out the other. We have a very close, friendly relationship now. Good luck
2006-10-30 16:32:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cant explain why he is like this. Maybe he enjoys the fact that it upsets you so much. Now, its time to fix the problem.
The boy has to sleep sometime. This is actually gonna take some courage on your part. After an altercation (physical), wait until he goes to sleep. Get one of those big oversized plastic kid bats and start beatin the hell outta him with it. He may get up and kick your butt, but after this happening to him a few times, he will stop.
2006-10-30 15:54:16 · answer #6 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Honey just ignore him
or u can talk to him nicely by saying
stop hurting me
and just act normal around him
and if he doesnt change
well GOD HELP U!
2006-10-30 15:51:57 · answer #7 · answered by Pinky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are your parents divorced? If so, he may be taking his frustrations about it out on you. He is controlling and needs to realize that his behavior is unacceptable. Maybe just tell him that he needs to treat you better. It is still illegal for him to be hitting you....tell your parents.....and if they don't do anything about it, it is their fault and you may need to let the authorities know that your parents are allowing this abusive behavior...
2006-10-30 15:51:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my brother was the same way when we were younger i hated him i thought he hated me but when i moved out and left the state at 15 he was the one who came and got me he was the one who wanted to kill the boy i was with we arent close and still arent but i no he loves me when your older you will get closer im guessin your brothers a teen hes just in that "phase" just try to deal with it when push comes to shove your bro will be there at your side
2006-10-30 16:01:22 · answer #9 · answered by getcuriouswithgeorge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he can. If he ever touches you again, report him...and stick to it. Press charges. If he can do this to you, he will continue to do it to all the women in his life.
2006-10-30 15:50:49 · answer #10 · answered by Bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋