right i like this boy, he is cute, funny and likes me for me, but i have a problem as when I'm friends with a boy i like i can be flirty and have fun, but as soon as i say i will go out with this guy i know that that its gonna go wrong.
the reason from this is i think that he is gunna want something from me (it doesn't help that i heard a rumor that he only wants me for sex!!) and i make stuff up in my head, and it gets all complicated so i dump them.
Plz help me what can i do, i really like tis guy i don't wanna lose him
2006-10-30 07:24:41 · 20 answers · asked by xx-bbz-xx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hi huni, you dont wanna get all 'deep' with him and scare him off but dont assume he just wants sex, what boys say to thier mates and what they are really thinking can be two very different things also taking into account the 'chinese whispers'.
if you like him just take each day as it comes and put those thoughts out the window as he has never said it to you so how can you believe what is said??? And if he tries anything on and you are not ready, tell him!!!
if he gets funny about it then he doesnt deserve to have you,
good luck baby girl.xxx
2006-11-01 08:29:47 · answer #1 · answered by only me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said, "this boy, he is cute, funny and likes me for me," but you are worried about the rumor that "he only wants me for sex!!" Now I think, why do you believe these rumors? Also why are another person's desires a threat to you?
My advice to you is:
Repeatedly affirm your own self-value and judgments to yourself (at least one time every hour for the next several weeks). Even if some girls are not trying to sabotage your relationship because of their own jealosy or whatever, all you need to know is that you will maintain your safety and your respect by avoiding risky situations, clothes, and behavior. Trust yourself to know what you want and don't want in the relationship and to know that you will naturally achieve those ends without the need for any worry or anxiety on the subject.
The only complicated parts about relationships are fear, anger, and conflicting internal interests. Be confident, be at peace within, and never fight your intuition or your rational mind (both of which will be in harmony when the first two conditions are in place).
PS: Ignore the rumors and judge for yourself with the idea that the rumors are probably not true. By all means, DO NOT bring up the rumors to him unless you want him to worry that you believe them and to ensure that the relationship gets off to a very bad start.
2006-10-30 07:40:13 · answer #2 · answered by Andy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mind control
2016-05-22 12:09:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you don't have the best reputation around if that is the rumors going around.
If you have ANY doubts about WHY the boy wants to go with you, don't put out to him. You will find out VERY quickly!!!
Good luck. Pops
2006-10-30 07:29:03 · answer #4 · answered by Pops 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you heard the guy only wants you for sex, then why do you want to go out with him? If you're cool with that, then by all means go out with him. But it sounds like you like him more then he likes you. This can only end badly.
2006-10-30 07:30:07 · answer #5 · answered by newname_01 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you get nervous thats normal just try to relax as for the sex thing set your boundries early make sure he knows and if he has a problem with them then he doesnt respect you so move on hes not worth it
2006-10-30 07:30:01 · answer #6 · answered by getcuriouswithgeorge 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hold out and bring up subjects that concern you after the first couple of dates,
2006-10-30 07:27:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he only want u for sex then there is no point dump him and dont worry i am sure mr right will find u soon
2006-10-30 07:29:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you feel is right. Get to know him a little bit more before you commit urself
2006-10-30 07:42:31 · answer #9 · answered by Ozzy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just remember it is just a rumor, the best way to find out for sure that he likes you for you is to tell him of the rumor and see what he says to you.
2006-10-30 07:29:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋