I thought he was going to be away for several days, but he came back early. He has a key to my place and just walked in and caught us right in the middle of it. Instead of getting angry though, he asked if he could watch. So we let him. He enjoyed it very much. Is this wierd?
I was thinking about marrying him, but now am afraid that our relationship is ruined or that he will cheat on me.
2006-10-30 07:16:54 · 43 answers · asked by JessicaZ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The other guy was my boss and I had to do it or I could loose my job
2006-10-30 07:35:29 · update #1
YOU cheated on him and you are worried that he might cheat?
He would be smart to NOT marry you.
It is sick on his side for watching..... I would have beat the crap out of you.
mandy
It was wrong of me to call you a sl_t........how old are you?
Why are you sleeping around to begin with? He obviously cares nothing about you, still it is not okay to cheat. Leave him, then learn how to respect yourself.
Then quit your job..........does it mean that much to you?
2006-10-30 07:20:34 · answer #1 · answered by cking_pOise... 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, there r plenty of married couples out there who do do ur kinda thing. But my guess is, that that wasn't the kind of relationship u were bankin on havin wiv ur boyf. So now, u need 2 reassess the situation. What do u want? Both short & long term. U should try 2 b upfront wiv ur boyf about this. I don't mean 2 sound as tho I'm preachin, cos believe me, I can't judge u, but he already has dealt wiv the whole u-havin-sex-wiv-another-guy INFRONT OF HIM so there r not so many other boundaries really, r there.
My OPINION on whether or not he will cheat is this; he prob will stray, tho he prob wouldn't c it as cheatin (indicated by his casual response 2 ur cheatin). I think he has another side 2 him (sexually) that u didn't know about b4. It will NOT go away. So u either have 2 accept this, embrace it infact, or walk away b4 u get hurt. That's if u have deep feelings 4 ur boyf, which I think u at least think u do.
On a positive note, maybe u have that multiple-partner thing in u after all. U did have sex wiv another guy while ur bloke watched, after all. Explore ur own feelings 1st.
Good luck, & I hope it all works out 4 u. x
2006-10-30 07:29:53 · answer #2 · answered by viv friend 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You cheat on him, and you're worried he's gonna do the same thing to you? It would serve you right if he cheated on you. Think about this, him catching you gives him a free pass to cheat on you without hearing anything come out of your mouth about it. Him wanting to watch doesn't make what you did right. To answer your question, he IS weird for watching, but that should be the least of your problems. I know it's none of my business, but in a way you made it everyone's business, but I just wonder why you even cheated on him in the first place, especially since you were thinking about marrying him. Examine your infedelity before your boyfriend's weird fetish.
2006-10-30 07:37:53 · answer #3 · answered by viva_bamm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I must say you are a cheat and not to be trusted. Your man travelled and you brought a man home and allowed him to watch you do it. what a shame! Just forget about the marriage you can't even boast of a relationship anymore so, forget it. I am happy your boy friend caught you with another man while still courting and not when you are married to him because a ten year old engagement is easily broken than a day old marriage.
2006-10-30 07:33:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend had a freaky side before he ever walked in on you and whoever and you knew it. My husband would have thrown me and the guy out a second story window. The guy you got caught with was happy to go along with the two of you resuming sex with your boyfriend watching. You just HAPPENED to find another freak instead of a guy who would have jumped out of that bed and ran for his life when your boyfriend walked in. Yeah, you two get married, have a few dysfunctional kids and drive everybody nuts.
2006-10-30 07:28:59 · answer #5 · answered by Debra D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the last one that should worry about whether or not your partner will cheat. As regards to his watching, some people find this very pleasurable. However, both partners need to be comfortable with the types of activities that take place in their lovelife. Somethings we only need/want to do once. Is this the case for him? Or if you are going to continue to stray, is this a way to happily include him? Figure it out together, but if you are not both completely comfortable with the decisions, hold off.
2006-10-30 07:22:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, you DO owe him that, but no it's not weird. he's a voyeur. He likes to watch sex. Do you like to watch porn? Same thing only live. ;D You should try watching him with someone sometime...or suggest a threesome with another woman. These things MAY get you off the hook. Actually since I'm a voyeur, would probably do the same thing, only I might not have asked, I might have watched and when you were done, applaud........lol
2006-10-30 07:23:23 · answer #7 · answered by flashpro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will never understand why single women give men keys to their apartments or houses. That right there is stupid especially if you are going to cheat. I don't think you have to worry about him cheating, I believe he will leave that up to you since he likes to watch. That's what life will be for you, sleeping with other men while your husband watches or joins in. You have open Pandora's box now.
2006-10-30 07:20:11 · answer #8 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like to me you are the cheater. But on the other hand, marry him. You know now that you can have a husband and anyone else you care to screw. He dont seem to mind. Its not wierd if that was his fantasy.
2006-10-30 07:23:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were gonna marry him but your sleeping with some other guy?
Your a winner! He likes to watch you have sex with someone else. Sounds like a Jerry Springer couple. Which trailer park you in?
2006-10-30 07:21:11 · answer #10 · answered by Just Me baby 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋