We have been engaged for 2 1/2 years, and we have set 4 wedding dates. But we keep pushing them back because of money since we have to pay for it ourselves. Well my sister offered to use her house, and instead of wedding gifts all my sisters would pay for the food, decorations, etc... basically the whole wedding. When I told him this, he said her house was too small, and we needed to keep looking. I think this is perfect since we cant afford a wedding. Im getting ready to say forget it, this is stressing me out. I just want to go to the JP but he doesnt want to do that either. What does he want ?
2006-10-30 07:16:23 · 13 answers · asked by Kuiper 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It really sounds like he is just trying to put off the wedding.
2006-10-30 07:19:02 · answer #1 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
probably both, not that there's anything wrong with you, but he probably isn't as exited about getting married as you are. mariage is scarry. you'er being a bit paraniod, don't worry it might even be the fact that he want's to wait until things are set, think about it marriage is forever; he want to make sure the 2 of you set off on the right foot. either way you'er not getting married anytime soon, if he's waiting for things to be "right" then you need to tell him they will never be right ie. there's always something.
if he can't get over that, then ask him honestly "are we going somewhere?" if he can't answer or says no, then leave him. you'er still young, there is more out there for you.
2006-10-30 07:33:30 · answer #2 · answered by hero08291997 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being paranoid. He wants to do things right, it's his wedding too! He knows that you deserve a bigger wedding other than a backyard wedding, although, it was very nice of your sisters to make such a generous offer.
Myu suggestion to you is to find a party hall, and then have your sister cater and decorate the hall instead. Youc an accomodate all of your guests without worrying about the lack of space.
Good luck,
2006-10-30 07:22:44 · answer #3 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, you said in your sentence that "we" have been changing the dates. Were you not in agreement with those four times, or were you just using the royal "we"? If finances are the problem, obviously you are doing something very wrong with your budgeting, because you should have both been able to come up with the money in two and a half years! Talk it out with him one more time and set ONE more date.
2006-10-30 07:30:05 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is terribly sad to read. 2 1/2 years is a very long time to be engaged and not to have set a date.
I strongly advise you to read, "He's Just Not That Into You". It was an eye opening experience for me when it came to my ex.
Can you say, without a doubt, that he is the man you want to spend your life with? Is he trying to save money? Is he actively helping you with this struggle?
I truly wish you luck, but do not get caught in a web of waiting. YOU ARE WORTH MORE THAN THAT!
2006-10-30 07:26:53 · answer #5 · answered by Allison F 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He doesn't want to get married... Someone's offering you a place to get married, and pays for the whole deal, and it's "too small"? Bullsh!t. What's more important - the wedding or the marriage? He's leading you on, girl.
2006-10-30 08:24:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
look i don't want to sound mean but if you guys are engaged for 2 1/2 years maybe he's getting cold feet i mean it was really nice of your sisters to say they would do that 4.Or he wants you to have a great wedding.
maybe you guys should talk but stay calm and don't fight. good luck
2006-10-30 07:36:01 · answer #7 · answered by meow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, he doesn't want to marry you. He hoped the ring would be enough but knows it isn't. Give it back to him and move on.
My husband proposed after only 3 months of dating. He asked me to go ring shopping after 1 month. When a guy wants it, he knows right away and asks immediately. This guy is just waiting for someone better to come along. You're not the one for him.
2006-10-30 07:25:25 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I agree with you and your sisters that sounds absolutely lovely. Cut the list to the most intimate family and friends. He might have cold feet. Talk communicate be open with him about how you feel. No way to start off a marriage. Good luck and GOD BLESS!
2006-10-30 07:19:46 · answer #9 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he obviously isn't ready to get married.
now, whether it's because he's scared or because he's got another woman... you're going to have to take a good look at your relationship at the PRESENT moment. not in the beginning, not a year ago- but right now at this very moment.
is he being distant with you? working late?
or is he the same dude you hooked up with?
consider these things and decide.
only you can make the correct decision.
2006-10-30 07:25:37 · answer #10 · answered by miss advice 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋