There's this guy that goes to my school and I can't get him off my mind. I am afraid to ask him out or show my affection because I value being his friend and don't want to alieanate him, but it's driving me out of my head! I like him a lot, but I don't understand guys and so I can't figure out what he'll do if I ask him anything. For that matter, I don't have any experience whatsoever about anything about dating or anything like that. I don't know what to do to get him out of my mind. And, I'm new at this school so I don't know who to ask about him. Please help me! Thank you very much!
2006-10-30 07:14:56 · 10 answers · asked by Sanya Truesword 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok sweetie, I am a 57 year old male with lots of experience. You don't have to ask him out, use your instincts, and lure him to you!! Look into his eyes, use your body language, and if that don't work, just tell him how much you think of him. Listen, no one is worth your peace of mind! You are younge and just learning, so what if you do screw it up-big deal. There will be plenty of other times coming! Now if you do screw it up you will have something to go to get him out of your mind. You will be able to see what an *** he really is, or how insensative he is, and this will help you realize that he is not "Mr. Perfect". When I feel like I am getting too close to a woman, I begin to look for her faults and to know that she is not perfect. No one is sweetie, and you need to learn that about people. Wish you luck!!
2006-10-30 07:24:11 · answer #1 · answered by compassion 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-21 00:22:42 · answer #2 · answered by genthner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really value being his friend, then you shouldn't let this fear get to you. It's natural for this to happen. Just take a couple of deep breaths. Remember, he's still your friend. If you want to ask him out, the best thing to do is wait. I know it sounds strange, but make sure it's what you really want to do. If you don't know a whole lot about him, you don't want to get your heart hurt if he dumps you (not saying he will). Who knows, maybe he'll ask you out. Whatever you do, don't stop being yourself. If you suddenly change yourself just to impress him, he'll notice and that will alienate him more than you think. I know it's hard and it hurts, but the best thing to do right now, is wait. I'm sorry, but this is the only advice I have. I hope everything goes well.
2006-10-30 07:22:21 · answer #3 · answered by jessi.swimchick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay first be calm trust me you can work this out! Okay this is what you can do, If he is a good friend of yours ask him to go to a movie that you know he would like. Tell him you have been wanting to see it but noone will go eith you because they think its stupid. IF he is your FRIEND then he will probably agree. Make sure you say I will pay my own way this isnt a date or anything I just need someone to accompany me. This is how you can start getting to know him and what he likes and dislikes and figure out if you really do like him. It also gives him a chance to get to know you on a one on one basis.
Look if he doesnt agree then hes nto interested, boys dont mind hanging with girls as long as it doesnt hurt their image in high school and if you guys are cool then he will probably agree. But if he doesnt please understand where hes coming from! dont get mad or even or anything just realize that you are not what he likes at the moment, then move on. Its much easier to be told no when the guy is friend.
2006-10-30 07:22:04 · answer #4 · answered by ask me again 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First: How old are you?
Second: How old is this guy?
Third: I still adhere to the old time system, Boy asks out girl.
It's OK to smile and maybe catch hold of his hand to say goodbye when you are being friends. It's OK to flirt and try to get the seat next to him. If you don't know anything about the dating stuff, I suggest you approach your mom and talk to her. As hard as it is for you to believe that she too was once your age and had the same questions. She worked it out, suck up some of her experience, I'll bet she would want you to ask if some one else asked her. Give the old lady a chance. I've answered a lot of questions from my kids that I never thought I'd have to. It's been fun for me though.
2006-10-30 07:30:47 · answer #5 · answered by marciacarter@sbcglobal.net 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, I've been in the same situation before, and if you like them that much you can just hang out with him and slowly go from friend to potential girl friend and it's not really that hard, and if you have any problems when talking to him (and probably you would the first time), just take a deep breath and think (he's just a guy, nothing can go wrong), be confident with yourself, whenever you're confident, it'll show.
Bottom line if you get to know him, you'll know what he likes and how to get closer to him, and then it's just a matter of time and playing your cards right.
2006-10-30 07:20:38 · answer #6 · answered by Harp 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Or Take A Step Up And Say Do You like me If He Says No Friends If He Says Yes Take it From Their
2006-10-30 07:21:16 · answer #7 · answered by Cryss 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
guys are really simple creatures unless its me anyway, Id probably just find out what his interests are and say "we should hang out" and do whatever it is you think he might enjoy most and flirt a bit, he'll take it from there long as he isnt shy, but be sure he knows that you really value his friendship.
2006-10-30 07:22:19 · answer #8 · answered by oww76 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
try to go up to him say hi what is up and let it go from there of ask him a question about a class you share or ask if he knows what the test mighgt have i=on it
2006-10-30 07:18:30 · answer #9 · answered by newmom3272002 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stop being so scared.... fear is not letting you enjoy what you want to do
2006-10-30 07:17:15 · answer #10 · answered by _DestroyingAngel_ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋