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my 5 year old girl like to wear spiderman shirts and baseball hats. her hair is cut short. and for christmas's or her birthdays she always asks for boy toys. my sister wont buy her boy stuff. eg my sister bought her a skirt and top for her b-day but my daughter will not wear it. i told my sister she wont wear it and it was a waste of money. i believe in letting my kids have there own style. ( to a point). i have bags and bags full of clothes that my daughter wont wear that are brand new. i gave them the the women shelter. should i make my daughter wear these clothes or let her have her own style?

2006-10-30 07:13:33 · 18 answers · asked by twisted 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting Parenting

18 answers

What you are doing is fine. If she needs to dress up for a special occasion, just have a few dresses handy and explain to her that it is a special occasion so it is time to wear special clothes and then let her pick.

2006-10-30 07:21:08 · answer #1 · answered by curiositycat 6 · 0 0

Of course, she should be able to exercise some control over her choice of food and clothing, but don't forget a parent's responsibility to prepare a child for adulthood.

There will be a point where her choices will be far from appropriate. There will be occasions such as weddings and funerals where her tomboy outfits will not be welcomed.

Teach her that appropriate attire is somtimes as important as appropriate behavior. Just as parents can teach a child the difference between an "indoor" voice and an "outdoor" voice, they can teach a child the difference between casual dress and more formal dress.

May I suggest starting with an age appropriate pants suit, or similar outfit? That way she can get gradually used to dressier outfits. When she starts seeing more and more girls in their finery, she may seek these types of clothes more. As she grows older, keep an outfit or two aside for special occasions. If family still wants to buy her "girlie" stuff, you will not be able to stop them. It will, at least, save you the expense of haveing to buy as much of those.

2006-10-30 07:42:49 · answer #2 · answered by Vince M 7 · 0 0

Let her do her own thing. Teach her to be polite to your sister and others who give her girl things and thank them for thier thoughtfulness in remembering her birthday, ect. After all, it's the gesture of giving and graciously recieving the energy that is really important, not the gift. You can always exchange unwanted clothes.
Maybe your sister could take your daughter shopping next time and let her pick out something she wants. There are lots of options that are not gender specific.

2006-10-30 07:27:18 · answer #3 · answered by Rumproast 1 · 0 0

i'm a universal instructor and function taught reception for 8 years. I certainly have additionally been performing head for 2 years. i discover this completely unacceptable and if I had a be certain coming to me with this issue i might have taken direct action on the instant and ensured that the project not at all handed off back. i discover it astonishing that the youngsters are no longer supervised heavily adequate to enable it happen interior the 1st place as each and every college I certainly have worked in, baby's lavatories and unstructured circumstances alongside with lunch and play are often the place artwork stress are maximum vigilant. there are extremely some avenues you could take however - you could talk to the LEA your self and make a complaint and additionally touch the pinnacle of govenors/ be certain govenor on your college - this might propose your complaint will might desire to be dealt with and exterior forces will act on your behalf interior the college. good luck and act now using fact as you're conscious the beginning up years are so significant to how your baby will progression by college

2016-11-26 19:39:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

She needs to have her own style, but she also needs to learn that mom is the final authority and she can't have things her own way ALL of the time. It would be good for her to learn that now and then she should dress different according to the place she is going and the occasion. That is a good thing for her mother to teach her, so don't pass up the opportunity.

2006-10-30 07:44:52 · answer #5 · answered by Jane 3 · 0 0

let her have her own style all people young or old have there way of expressing there selves so just let her do her thing then when she gets older she will most likely grow out of it then that's when you will wont her to wear boy clothes to cover every thing shes got by the time she is 15 or 16 she will grow out of the tom boy stage if not sooner so don't stress its normal!!

2006-10-30 07:21:49 · answer #6 · answered by got2luvbabygurl 1 · 0 0

Let her wear the clothes she wants to most of the time, but if you want her in a dress for a special event, make sure that she wears it. She shouldnt have it all her own way!

2006-10-30 07:32:40 · answer #7 · answered by huggz 7 · 1 0

does she have brothers? i think you should let her be her self to a point. like when your dressing for a holiday or something like that,otherwise just let her wear what she likes after all shes just a kid...i have a 4 yr old daughter myself shell be 5 in 3 months and she also has her own style and thats good for them. i think....

2006-10-30 08:24:31 · answer #8 · answered by juicy 3 · 0 0

lol, i'm a kid and I'm the same way. all the clothes my mother buys for me that are skirts or something "girly" i don't wear them. my mother doesn't make me wear them all the time, but she makes me wear them on special occasions (like graduation). i think you should give your daughter her own style..... that way your daughter will be your daughter and not what other people think daughters should be like.

2006-10-30 08:28:04 · answer #9 · answered by K-chan 2 · 0 0

I think that you need her to have her own style. I think that you need to let children express themselves. I think that is what makes each one of us unique. I don't like the fact that society tells us what to wear and what to do I think that if your little girls wants boy toys and wants to dress like a boy than I think that you should let her.

2006-10-30 08:18:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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