How do you tell your Mother that you are the parent of your child?

Question

She contradics what I tell my child. I love her but I have different house rule then she did when I was growing up.

Answer 1

I would just tell her that you appreciate her input, but you have different rules in the house. My mom used to be the same way and I just had to say, "You know, I'm grown up now and I need to live my own life without you telling me or my child what and how to do things." She is really good now and only says something if I ask for her opinion. Just the other day, she decided to wash my daughters hands with the dish sponge and I just kindly asked her not to as there are so many germs on them. She agreed and I showed her where the wipes were. Problem solved!!

Answer 2

EVERYONE has to deal with this! And it seems like no matter what you say, your mother, or mother -in-law, or both, will always feel like they know better or more than you. Once someone gets to a certain age, you can't change them or how they think. To avoid hurting anyone's feelings, its best to just ignore it. Sometimes saying nothing is more effective at making a point than having a talk. When she's telling you that you do this this way, or whatever, hold your tongue, man! You'll have bigger problems when you're not around and she is taking that time to implement her personal strategies for the way she thinks your child should be raised.

Answer 3

You should sit down and have a heart-to-heart talk with her. Tell her that, while you appreciate her input every now and then and that she is still a great mom, she needs to know that the way you will be raising your kid may not be the way she wants you to. You need to firmly, but gently let her know that you are the parent in this situation and that you should have more say in what your child can or cannot have is up to you, not her.

Answer 4

Just like you said it, with some minor tweaks. "Mom, I love you and respect the way that you raised me. Now that I am the parent, I expect you to honor me with the same love and respect that I give you, when I ask you to support the rules I have laid out for my family so that I can raise my child/children in a consistent environment and you can be a part of his/her/ their lives without interfering."

Answer 5

Sit down your mom in private and tell her that although you value her opinion and she is a great mom, you have a few different opinions as children this day and age are different. Explain that you prefer if she does not contradict what you tell the child.

Answer 6

Tell her...No dis-respect Ma, but I would prefer if I raise my own child. My child will be confused if I tell him/her one thing and you tell him/her another! Thank you but I want to handle it! Also tell her that if she has any thing to add when you do tell your child something...talk with you about it somewhere away front the child and you will decide if you want to check your child about it or not.

Answer 7

Hey momma,
This is my child and I appreciate you wanting to help..but I think you did a good job and now it is time for you to step away and see your child at work..........You raised me so I have your values, convictions, & morals I want to pass them on to my child.........please allow me to do so

Answer 8

Privately tell her that she's raised her children, and now you have the right to raise yours.

Answer 9

Just tell her, look ma this is my child, you raised me know let me raise mine.

Answer 10

my mum did the same thing i told her straight im the mother they are my kids and they will follow my rules.
harsh i know but it worked.