My girlfriend is pregnant by her ex-bf. We met after they split up. Now I'm fairly sure I can't be named as the father when the child is born still I'm not the biological father; but since we intend to raise the child as if it were mine can we give it my surname.
2006-10-30 06:56:51 · 21 answers · asked by spear_1021 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
We live in England.
2006-10-30 07:02:59 · update #1
Of course you can. If the ex does not know or more importantly is not going to take the legal and financial responsibility then you must look to the childs best interests and only the childs best interests. If you are going to treat this child and love this child as if it were your own then you will be the parent. I did this 16 years ago and have just told my daughter the truth. She says I am her dad and will always be her dad and sod the miserable bastard who did not want to be her dad!
Callum
2006-10-30 07:09:01 · answer #1 · answered by R S 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Naming the child on a birth certificate
The mother of the child can give the child any first and surname she chooses. She may give the child the father’s surname if she wants and she does not need the father’s consent to do this. In Northern Ireland details about a father who is not married to the mother may only be entered in certain circumstances.
A man registered on the birth certificate as the father of the child has no right to insist that the child is given a particular name, for example, his surname.
A married couple can also choose any surname for their child. It does not have to be the name of either of the parents.
http://www.adviceguide.org.uk/index/family_parent/family/birth_certificates.htm
hope this helps :)
2006-10-30 15:16:22 · answer #2 · answered by Karen J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can, along with the responsibility of raising that child. It is up to your girl-friend. Also what are the chances that the biological father will find out about the pregnancy and insist on paternity rights? This is a huge responsibility so make sure all the grounds are covered. Good luck!
2006-10-30 15:02:34 · answer #3 · answered by vanityspice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can name that child what ever you wish, well, within reason. I feel that you must know though, that IF you and your woman ever break up, that child will be your financial responsibility, whether you then decide you are not the father or not, because YOUR name is on the b.c. I know this to be very true. As long as your name is on the b.c. YOU ARE DAD PERIOD. Now, IF you are one of the rare individuals, who does not care who donated the sperm for your child, then by all means, proceed forward. IF you are in love and don't know any better, then heed my warning. I am 100% certain this will end badly for you.....Be wise spear and be informed. I wish you the very best of luck and love. Congratulations on your baby, and I hope that you get your Happily Ever After. Loves. Nana
2006-10-30 15:04:17 · answer #4 · answered by nanawnuts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can name the child whatever you want, the child can have a totally different last name to its parents , and if you want to put you name on the birth ceritifcate (many who have had ivf and AS do this) who is going to know any different if you are planning to bring the child up as your own then personally i'd put my name down. remember any man can father a child it takes a real man to raise one. But if you do put your name down as the father you have to go to the register office with your girlfiend if you were married to her you would not need to go. if a women is married her husband is assumed to be the father so he is not needed to register a birth or he can do it himself( never a good thing he might name it something silly)
2006-10-30 15:17:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF the baby's biological father doesnt want anything to do with the baby then yes..u can give the baby ur name. To be on the safe side tho, have the babys father sign off on all parental rights,this way u can also adopt the baby if u and ur g/f plan on staying together.
2006-10-30 15:04:20 · answer #6 · answered by Roz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!!! You two will raise this child as your own and YOU will be this childs FATHER. So give the child your surname and live happily ever after.
2006-10-30 15:10:45 · answer #7 · answered by daddysgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes if you want to be part of the child's life, but if you go by your self you have to have you marriage certificates and i.d but if your not married you both have to go to name the child.
BUT if the father take you both to court and ask the court for a DNA test he will be able to play a part in the child's life but its up to you partner and weather the father wants to be a part
2006-10-30 15:19:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is good idea if you both want to marry, but why not to marry now and avoid all the problems. Does she intend to establish paternity? and request the child support from the father?
2006-10-30 15:15:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
.I would give the baby your partners maiden name and if everything goes well with you and your partner (as it must be early days) maybe you could give the child your name by going to a solicitor and changing it by deed poll, then the child can legally use your name on passports etc... but you still won't be able to change a name on a birth certificate.
2006-10-31 06:55:33 · answer #10 · answered by T - C - B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋