Help, I do not know what to do?

Question

My son is 6 and in 1st grade. He has been coming home over the last 2 months with a stomach ache. I took him to the doc, they ran test and they cannot find anything wrong with him. He has been having some trouble in school. He cannot read as well as the other students. I am working with him and he is getting better, but it will take some time. I do not know what to do for him. I thought about changing his teacher because he asked if he could. I have talked to his teacher and she is working with him as well. He said she yells at him but, I raise my voice to him to when he gets in trouble, so I don't understand why that would be such a problem. I just do not know what to do for him. I am worried that he is going to fail 1st grade. Please help me. I called the school today to schedule a another conference with his teacher. I am really worried.

Obviously, he is trying to get out of school but, I know that he is getting a stomach ache some times because he has thrown up in class 3 times. Serious answers only.

Answer 1

I just held my 6 yr old back. He is in kindergarten again this year. I wasn't sure if it was right, but two months in and I'm thrilled. It doesn't even seem to faze him.

My point is this - if he needs to at the end of the year, have him repeat. It will never hurt him, it can only benefit him if he is still having issues.

For now, I'd also continue working with him. Ask at the school if they have a reading specialist to help out. Always have patients and try to encourage him while he's reading/learning.

The stomach issues can be because of nerves. It's a big change for kids to go into "big kid school", life changing! New faces, new kids, new responsibilities - homework. It's only been two months since school has started and he's been having problems the entire time. Think about it! Is the teacher "yelling" at him or is he simply perceiving it that way because he's feeling nervous or uncomfortable (put on the spot)? I'd want to find that out just to be sure. I can't see a teacher of 1st graders "yelling" at any of them, but you never know!

Being an involved parent is NEVER a bad thing!!
Good luck!

Answer 2

Ask the teacher for a copy of your son's reading book and to give you a schedule of the stories that are being read each week.
Let's say that next week the class will begin a story called The Fire Department.
This week, work with your child on that story so that he is familiar with it before he even goes into class.
Start by reading the story to him, and pointing out any big words that he might not know. then sit next to him the next night.
You read a page, point to the words as you do. Then have him read the same page either with you or by himself. Continue a few pages that way.
Ask him to tell you about the characters, setting, how he feels about the story, what he likes, etc. This will help him feel more comfortable when he reads it in class with all of his classmates.
Keep practicing the story all week. ( fifteen minutes a night is good) That should help alleviate some of the stress in reading and it will also help him become a better reader.
When he comes to a word he doesn't know. Have him look closely at the word...see if he can find smaller parts hidden in the word...or chunks of words that he knows asked ask or ed
He will need this strategy to solve bigger words.

Answer 3

honestly you are doing the best thing, keep on top of his teacher, is there a school social worker ho can maybe help. Why is the teacher yelling at him??? Teachers are not suppose to yell at the students, find out what that is all about. Does he have friends in that class? Talk to their parents and see if there kid is having any problems. Don't give up something is bothering him at school just keep on top of things with the school, talk to the principal. Good Luck.

Answer 4

have the school evaluate your child for any learning disorders.
he could be having the stomach aches because he is frustrated, also investigate the teacher thing further, talk to some of the other parents , it could be the teacher, my sons first kindergarten teacher was not very good , and she was kind of grouchy and my son did not do well with the way she related to him compared to what he was used to, and he had no problems in pre k or since so i would check that out, if it turns out that is the problem, insist that he be moved to another class.

Answer 5

I have a daughter who at age 10 and in 6th grade would have "stomach aches" and would vomit and have diarrehea, and all other sorts of "stomach ailments" This started when she was 10 and starting 6th grade--I went to dr for 6 mos, took her to counseling, had every test done (mri's, pet scans, cat scans, her kidneys checked everything)--nothing was medically wrong with her--dr's decided it was all in her head (she did very poorly with math and social studies--this is when her stomach would start to hurt)--While taking her to a counsler was doing nothing--the dr actually suggested giving her a "placebo" to make her think she is getting medicine to "fix" her stomach problems. The dr told us to go to the store and buy a children's vitamin (no shapes or flavors), put it into a prescription bottle (we fixed an old one of mine to show her name, dr, date, etc...) and give her one a day--the vitamin is good for her to have once a day--so we did that 3 weeks into taking her "medicine" the stomach problems stopped. Then as 7th grade started this year the stomach problems were back--instead of going through the hassle of last year, I immedietely started the one a day vitamin--2 weeks into the school year--no stomach problems--(however we also got her a tutor when we discovered her math and social studies problem)

Answer 6

Scheduling a conference is a good idea. Make sure you talk about your concerns openly with her. She is there to give your child an education in a friendly type of environment. She should not be yelling at him. Yelling is only going to make it harder for him to learn to read. While you are visiting with the teacher ask about his play habits with other kids(does he get along with them? are there any problems with him and others). If you are not satisfied with the outcome of the meeting, go to a counselor or the principal for another meeting. This is your child's education and is so, so, so important.

Answer 7

I could notread at all in the third grade. By 9th grade I was reading at the highest level they could test. Don't put that kind of pressure on him just work with him at home

Try to stop raising your voice to a child it does nothing but make you look stupid and forceing him to live in fear of his own parent....


Don't ignore a childs complaints of pain of any kind havent you seen all those shows where a kid has a problem they go to 30 doctors with none able to figure out what wrong eventually the kid needs a heart transplant and because no one listened to him

Answer 8

If he is throwing up, he may be upsetting himself so much that he is making himself sick. He's having some trouble in school and his teacher yells at him??? That sounds like a problem right there. It's one thing for a parent to raise their voice at their child and another thing for a teacher to yell at them. What's he doing when she yells at him? Is he acting up? If she's yelling at him in front of other students it might make him self conscious and afraid to talk to her. If he isn't comfortable with his teacher and would like to change teachers then I would seriously check into it. Sounds like a lot of his problem might be his nerves.

Answer 9

Where there's smoke there's fire. He is not yours, he is only here on loan. Do not let him down. Children are so special and also so mean. Get to the bottom of it no matter what you have to do and do not let the Teacher blow you off. It's her job to teach and to pay attention. Remember the worst thing that happened to you in school and the worst thing you did. See he's probably tell you the truth.
Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 10

hire a tutor if need be, his stomach hurts maybe to do with a ulcer some children really worry to much about how they are preceived during such times as reading in front of there classmates especially.