I been dating this guy for 8 yrs and I am tired of waiting! What should I do?
2006-10-30 06:54:27 · 25 answers · asked by Cowgirl Joe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ultimatum
Tell him, I am sick of waiting, I want to get engaged, by Christmas.
- Don't need to add the if not its over part, he'll already know.
When you see your friends , tell them, Oh we' should hopefully be getting engaged by Christmas.
Tell everyone, and When Christmas rolls around
and he doesn't get you the ring, don't say I am angry disappointed , or anything, just stop talking to him.
if you are already living together you have pretty much screwed yourself. You'll need to move out.
But if you are, you show how sad and disappointed you are. everyday.
while he's in the house people will call and ask about your ring, or if your engaged, tell them not , I guess he doesn't love me, and after they say what they have to say- tell them No there is nothing you can do , and Your just gonna start looking for a new place.
and everyday bring home a box from work and start packing **** in it!
Just one box a day, actively look for a new apartment. something you can afford, even if its in a dangerous neighbor hood. ( guilt )
If he loves you he won't let you leave,
If not then your ready to start over, cause they won't miss you if they already have the Cow.
GL
Meg
2006-10-30 07:04:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
OMG 8 years is a very long time.
Do you guys NOT have any communication? This should of been discussed years ago.
A man wants to get married when he is in love with a woman and wants to spend the rest of his life with her.
Have you heard this expression.....
Why buy the cow, when you can get the milk for free.
The big question is WHY HAVE you let so many years go by before and not deal with this?
Might be time for you to move on and find a guy who wants to marry you. Why waste one more day with someone who have no interest in making a commitment if that is what you want.
2006-10-30 07:00:26 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you living together? If you are , then you are married. You've been together for 8 years, do you really think he might not be committed to you?Don't throw away 8 years for a formality . He must be a decent guy for you to be there this long.There's a whole lot of miserable married people out there so be careful what you ask for.
2006-10-30 07:03:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask Him Not The Best Answer But Its Not All Old Fashioned Plus Maybe He Dont Want You To Say No
2006-10-30 06:56:31 · answer #4 · answered by Cryss 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting married is a thing of the past. Statistics show that married couples are more likely to split up than couples that are "as good as married" living together. All you need to do is to get pregnant that will create the strongest link possible between you and your partner, being married means nothing!
2006-10-30 06:59:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After eight years you should both know each other pretty well. And after all this time if he hasn't brought up the subject maybe you should. You could remind him you don't want to grow old dating someone. You would rather grow old committed to the man you love. And you need to know if there is a future together. After all this is your future we're talking about, you deserve to know what his intentions are. Good luck.
2006-10-30 16:59:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him some guys just want to be sure that the girl they will marry is the the girl they can spend the rest of their life with, for example me and my wife were together 6 years before we got married but we been married now for 17years.
2006-10-30 07:02:37 · answer #7 · answered by richard f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he know u want to get married?? if yes and he has done nothing then you need to decide if you want to continue to wait but. if it has been 8 years I don't think he will unless u insist. You can try telling him you would love to be able to say "my husband" because..... you love him enough to make him yours (husband)
2006-10-30 07:00:17 · answer #8 · answered by alheseas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a guy's perspective, he probably doesn't consider marriage a big thing (i.e. it's only a piece of paper). If I were you, drop some hints - perhaps big hints - and make sure he understands that marriage IS what you want.
Good luck!
2006-10-30 06:58:43 · answer #9 · answered by gene177 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to marry you, unless you just want a rock. If you are in it for love, ask him, don't wait.
2006-10-30 06:57:12 · answer #10 · answered by Clints_wench 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋