Hey there. I keep asking this question over and over again but i dont really seem to be finding the answers i am looking for. Actually this is so embarrasing to ask you this question, but its really important, thats why i am going ahead with it.
The idea of having sex scares me, and makes feel insecure about myself. Is there something wrong with me? And if there is how can i prevent it? Thanks
2006-10-30 06:42:30 · 11 answers · asked by Angel From The Hell 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
there is definitely NOTHING wrong with you! it's totally normal to feel a little insecure or scared about sex. but you will find that there's nothing to be scared about really. i do, however, have a couple of tips that will make the experience better:
1) DO pick the right guy to lose your virginity to.... you'll remember him for the rest of your life. so if he's a good guy and it was a good experience then you'll always have a good memory.
2) get to know your body. the more comfortable you are with your body then the more comfortable you'll be with him. don't be afraid of what your body does. sex should feel good!
3) the more relaxed you are, the more you'll enjoy the experience.
4) take precautions--use a condom, birth control, etc. don't forget to protect yourself before it gets too hot and heavy.
5) have a great time!
enjoy yourself, sweetie! and don't fret... it will happen when it's meant to happen!
2006-10-30 07:22:06 · answer #1 · answered by Aly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok so what you're like 16 or 17 right?? Sex scared me too then. You don't have to be ready for sex. You don't even have to do it. You should wait until you are with someone who makes you feel really special. The person that treats you like a freakin princess. Don't just go out and have sex because you want to get over this fear. When the time is right you will definently know it. Whether it is on your honey moon or on friday night in the back seat of a car??? Only you know what you want to do and when you want to do it. The first time will make you nervous but the lucky guy you're with will help you and make you feel more comfertable. You will get over this fear when the time is right. Trust me I was there. Now I am more comfertable then ever. My boyfriend tells his buddies every detail and it doesn't bother me anymore. Time will help I promise. Good Luck.
2006-10-30 07:01:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The idea of sex always scared me, until I found the right guy who made it the most comfortable for me. I am not always happy with my body (not that it's bad but I could bare to lose a few pounds here and there) but when you meet the right guy, he will just love every inch of you and not be afraid to tell you so. As funny as it sounds, make sure it is someone that you would want to do it with. The reason I was so scared is that I was insecure and uncomfortable with myself and not doing things right, but with guys...they will like basically anything you do.
2006-10-30 06:45:52 · answer #3 · answered by Mia Anne *6.6.09* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is any thing wrong with you most girls are scared and feel insecure about sex . Many girls get that way and it's mostly normal and it's good to not want to or be to scared to have sex because then you will make better choices.
2006-10-30 06:49:02 · answer #4 · answered by megan s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Id best say no if i didnt like her. Id say sure if i inspiration there used to be a hazard of it going someplace, however....... im no longer gonna lie whilst ur unmarried for a whilst lads requisites can drop, if thats what your getting at. But that's from a entirely shallow appears factor of view, please dont take it the unsuitable manner, and possibly we are saying sure to a woman we wouldnt customarily. The so much worrying factor a woman can do, is be quite flirty whilst out with yet another man! Its terrible, and that i don't have any time for any ladies who're like tht! Hope this is helping!
2016-09-01 04:47:25 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say..CONGRATS!!! to u for being a virgin. People shouldnt have sex until they are with someone they love and are married to. But back to ur question, you could be afraid of having sex because ur just not ready yet or because if u are a virgin..then u are afraid of messing up because u are not sure of what (or how) to do it. As for being insecure about urself..we ALL go thru that. There is absolutely nothing wrong with u. When u do decide to have sex, have it with someone that truly loves u and that u truly love. Sex should be special..not just with someone that says.."if u love me,then u'll have sex with me"..that isnt true love..thats just someone that only wants sex with u. I encourage you to wait til u kno for sure that ur first time will be with that special someone and that someone that will be patient and will wait until u are ready and well help u.
2006-10-30 06:53:08 · answer #6 · answered by Roz 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From the sounds of it, you are too young for sex and it should scare you. There is nothing wrong with you. It's normal to be scared or curious about sex, but you should wait until you are with someone who really respects you (for at least six months or so) and you yourself are ready to take a really big step. You shouldn't keep asking this question only to try and get the answer you are looking for too--whatever answer that may be.
2006-10-30 06:48:59 · answer #7 · answered by ANGEL 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Thats alright.Every girl is a little scared of having sex.Esp if u have been sexually abused as a child.I dont knw if u have been, but i dont think u really need to worry.Given the right time,with the right guy, u'll shed ur inhibitions and realise that sex isnt so scary after all.
2006-10-30 06:46:54 · answer #8 · answered by Sunrise 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u know what ur not alone to be feeling like that. i use to feel like that but now i'm loving it, but ur have to be 100% and u don't seem to be ready take ur time, sex isn't everything. when the right person comes a long u'll know and u won't worry about how u look etc. i use to be soo insecure about my body but when i meet the right person he made me feel good about myself and that helps. so jus don't rush into it ok
2006-10-30 06:54:34 · answer #9 · answered by DaRkAnGeL 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your not scared you are just begin very careful with yourself you dont want to come out pregnet do you? the only reason you feel like that is because your taking your time there is no rush your time will come just wait. just be safe and think twice before you decide about what your doing
2006-10-30 06:47:39 · answer #10 · answered by Samantha R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋