I'm 24, is that too young to be worrying about finding a girlfriend? Or should I just play the field?

Question

I'd like a girlfriend, but it it really true that if you stop looking, they will come or is that false? It'd be nice to have a girlfriend to share things with, to compliment each other, etc. Sometimes it sucks being single, sometimes it doesn't and sometimes it sucks just hooking up, cause it gets nowhere....any advice on what to do? Should I be worrying about this and just live my life day by day? I just hate going everywhere, whether it be bars, parties, the mall, anywhere where people exist and seeing couples holding hands, holding each other, uuuggggh its annoying but im envious....its just been too long since I've had a real gf ( 2 years). I just want something more than a hook up.....should i be worrying, thats the question....

Answer 1

Who says it's a rule that guys have to "play the Field?" That's how so many end up getting into trouble one way or another. Those who want you to play the field simply want you to be miserable with them. Trust me. It gets old real quick.

And yes, I stopped looking after three years of searching and Mr. Right came knocking on my door as soon as I stopped. But whatever you do, when that girl comes your way, build a friendship first. That's going to be one of the foundations of your relationship.

Answer 2

I really feel for you... know how you feel. I am a 19 year old girl and single. Where i work i see a lot of happy young couples everyday and sometimes it makes me sad, and i get so jealous and wonder why i havent found someone. 'But on the other hand i just live my life to the fullest day by day and i know the rite one will come at the rite time. dont worry and be patient but in the meantime enjoy ur sosial life and try meet as many new people as possible. good luck...

Answer 3

You are not too young or too old. To each their own. Everyone wants someone. Just because you don't have a fulltime girlfriend doesn't mean anything bad or good. It simply means you haven't found someone you are happy with for now. Think about what kind of girl you want to meet and put yourself in that situation where you are bound to meet someone. Don't panic. Don't worry what folks say. Be yourself and no one else. Just because others are out sleeping around or hugging and kissing in public doesn't mean they are necessarily happy. Do what makes you happy. Be patient and in time you will find the person you feel good with. Best of luck.

Answer 4

I'm a 23 female and I feel the same way. I'm completely ready to be in a "real adult" relationship. But, I dont' really want to meet a guy at a bar...and how do you approach someone in like a library or store. I dont' know! I would suggest hanging in there, maybe Actually approaching a girl you see in the store or such, that way you are putting yourself out there and perhaps things will work out for you. maybe asking your friends if they know of anyone who's single and perhaps interested in dating. Good Luck, the dating scense sucks.

Answer 5

It sucks being alone and wanting someone special in your life.

It sounds that emotionally you are ready and you sound mature.

Some get involved in special interest group/clubs, some search for and get involved in singles activity groups. There is less of stigma of using matchmaking services these days and more and more people are turning to those. If you choose that route, just research them.

Hang in there. Whatever route you choose, continue to follow what is important to you in your life and try to be the person you want to be. Keep your heart and eyes open. That way you will find a woman that will match your needs, lifestyle, and values. I wish the best for you.

Answer 6

It is true that love happens when you least expect it or when you aren't looking for it. I was at the point that I hated men. I didn't want a boyfriend or a husband. I didn't want anything but the occasional hook-up. I have two children with a deadbeat father. I honestly just wanted to be alone. Then I met the most amazing guy and completely fell for him. He was also not looking for anything serious. So just be patient. You will be hurt and you will feel lonely but eventually it will happen.

Answer 7

I think it's normal to "worry", 'cos I'm 22 and worried about the same thing and I don't wanna think I'm abnormal. But, on the flip side, I'm not really envious of couples......but it does bother me when people question me about my singledom. I mean, it's not like I CHOOSE to be single, it's just that I haven't met Mr. Right yet. Plus I'm kinda picky about choosing a mate, so I'm more worried about whether I'll ever compromise and settle down with anyone. Yeah, yeah, I am aware of the fact that I AM NOT PERFECT, but you know, I just want someone I'm truly comfortable with. And, until then, I'm just going to have to wait.

Answer 8

Dude, you are still young. Start worrying when you turn 30.

I am so sick of everyone thinking that they should be married and/or in serious relationships by the time they graduate from college.

Just think of it this way: When you are 60 and have been married (hopefully) to the same woman for the past 30 years, whether it be happily or unhappily, you'll have those memories of the great hookups, well what you can remember.

Answer 9

No you should not be worried...Good women are hard to find these days, especially at the bar, parties and malls. Usually those women are only looking for a hook-up and nothing serious. If you want a decent women, look for her in a decent place.

Answer 10

I know the feeling. As much as we try to fool ourselves as men, if you stop looking, it's over. Get out there and find a girlfriend. If she says no, it's a step back, if she says yes, that's a step forward. But you NEVER get anywhere by standing still