I am seeing this girl, we have a VERY special connection (we both feel it) She is also dating this other guy that she meet before me, that she really doesn't like too much. But, they were dating first. I told her at dinner the other night how much I cared for her and my feelings towards her (very hard for me to do, to put myself out there like that). Well she said she feels the same, but she needs some time to figure things out, because she already is dating this guy. But she still wants to see me while she figures it out. Should I see her again soon ? Should I giver her flowers or a poem ? Should I try to win her over ? ..... Or, should I play it cool ? and let her contact me (not what I want, because I am nervous and waiting is making me crazy...haha) ?
2006-10-30 06:20:10 · 18 answers · asked by Richard J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
give her time..dont push her. if you push her you may lose her. just wait. but not to long
2006-10-30 06:22:25 · answer #1 · answered by twisted 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient...I know it's very difficult especially if you have an imediate connection with this female. If she's really that "into you" she should drop the other guy and see only you. Don't let her make a blubbering fool out of you because you where human enough to tell her how you felt. If you don't hear from her and get an exclusive agreement then chalk it up to experience. If this be the case, at least it happened early. If she wants to be with you solely, than just TAKE YOUR TIME. Believe it or not, some females get a little more than nervous when a guy comes on too serious too early. Good Luck!
2006-10-30 14:26:10 · answer #2 · answered by US Lisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can't put you on the back burner while she she figures out where she stands w/ the other guy! It's not fair for you. Don't go out of your way to win her over by giving her flowers or writing a poem. Putting yourself out there and being honest is enough. She should embrace and respect that.
Completely remove yourself from the situation and let her figure out where she stands w/ boy #1. AGAIN don't shower w/ her gifts, attention, or phone calls. Once she knows she has you hooked she will play both of you. The cat and mouse game is only worth playing when you're the mouse.
2006-10-30 14:30:18 · answer #3 · answered by Petra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's nice to see a man not being scared to express his emotions to a female.
I think you should play it cool. Pressing the issue may just scare her off. I think the best thing you should do is tell her...("I will give you your space to figure things out and then once you have you know how to get in contact with me"). Telling her this will simply be a challenge and may speed the situation up. It's worth a try. Besides at the same time you don't want to waste your time waiting for her to figure out what she wants to do. So, by telling her that I will give you your space you will know how she truly feels.
2006-10-30 14:32:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play it cool. By this I mean tell her to call you AFTER she figures everything out. By chasing her and trying to win her over, you will not only loose your dignity (highly under-rated these days) but most likely make her think you are a looser. Women really don't like puppy dogging guys. Overcome your nerves and leave her alone so she has plenty of time to think about why she is still dating a guy she likes less just because he got there first. What is she... the last slice of cake or something?
2006-10-30 14:25:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she already gave you the answer to your question, she said she needs time to figure things out, so do just that give her time and if you can't do that then you need to move on. If you don't give her the time she needs to make her own decision, unpressured, then you're going to end up pushing her away. So I guess you need to decide, is she worth waiting for! People say communication is the key to any good relationship, but listening is just as important, so listen to her and be there when she wants you to be, that's the best thing you can do.
2006-10-30 14:25:55 · answer #6 · answered by Scott B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she seriously felt the same as she says she does, she wouldnt have to think about it. I would play it cool now and let her come to you. Let her see that you arent going to be there for her while she plays the dating game. (Theres nothing wrong with dating more than one person at a time but in your case since you've made it clear thats not what you want I would hold off til she decides youre worth being exclusive for).
2006-10-30 14:24:41 · answer #7 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll tell you one thing. What she is doing to the guy she is with, she will do to you if you get together and she meets someone else she likes more than you. Never date a girl who is willing to tell you she has feeling for you while she is with someone else. Because she will do the same thing to you when her feeling die out for you. Leave her alone and find a girl who is not with someone.
2006-10-30 14:27:25 · answer #8 · answered by johnsonjrod 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well in my opinion, if you are this great guy that you say you are and she is still seeing the other guy that is a loser, then it is up to her to make the decision, it kinda sounds like she is using you for what ever but she knows you are a nice man and she is using that to her advantage. So let her call you, don't beg for her she needs to realize what she is missing out on.
2006-10-30 14:25:30 · answer #9 · answered by melissa052572 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLAY IT COOL. YOU HAVE DONE ALL THAT YOU CAN. NOW IT IS UP TO HER. IF SHE TRULY DOESNT WANT TO BE WITH THIS OTHER GUY THEN SHE WOULD LEAVE. SHE WOULD NOT BE SNEAKING AROUND HIS BACK AND THEN SAYING TO YOU THAT SHE IS IN TO YOU BUT NEEDS TO THINK. IT IS SIMPLE REALLY YOU DUMP THE ONE YOU DONT LIKE AND DATE THE ONE YOU DO.
HANG OUT WITH YOUR FRIENDS AND DO ALL YOUR NORMAL STUFF DONT SIT BY THE PHONE AND WAIT. WHEN SHE IS READY SHE WILL FIND YOU. AND IF YOU MEET SOMEONE IN THE MEAN TIME GIVE IT A TRY. YOU MIGHT LIKE HER.
2006-10-30 14:24:27 · answer #10 · answered by becca_2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she need sto get off the pot and make a decision, and that you will not wait forever. Don't see her, or call her, and move on with your life, you should have not started anything with her to begin with if you knew she was dating someone else.
2006-10-30 14:24:35 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋