i left my husband of 12 yrs, just 9 weeks ago. i met this guy who ask me out and we have started dating frequently. i find that this person is absolutely fabulous and we have alot in common. he likes to watch old movies, and play scrabble, he likes to cook for me and reads books with me (even the bible) hes smart and he respects my intelligence also. hes not competative, although he likes a good debate, he is not a baby about it when he is wrong. the thing that makes me feel apprehensive is that my best friend of 30 years, thinks it is just a rebound relationship and she thinks i should date other men. i dont want to, i really like this guy and have found nothing to indicate there are any risks in dating him. i just wonder what others have experienced in relationships that seemed perfect from the begining, is it possible to fall in love so soon? please be honest with me, i want to move foward in this relationship with my mind at ease.
in peace,
lily
2006-10-30 06:16:03 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why is it that we feel the need to time line dating? I believe that you meet someone, you enjoy each other, have things in common and are treat the way you need to be treated who cares if it is only 8 weeks???? Life is to short to question why?? Being recently divorced myself and did date around but I also have meet I think my soul mate who I have only been dating for almost 3 months....Enjoy your like and your relationship!!!!!! Good luck
2006-10-30 06:24:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about whether it is "just a rebound" or "falling in love" or what... just let it be what it is. I've had "relationships that seemed perfect from the begining" a couple burned out quickly, one lasted a year and another lasted 4 years. Any which way I always feel the important thing is building on a geniune friendship and caring about each other, while remembering YOU are number one and you have to take care of yourself first and foremost. Right now you need to deal with the ending of your marriage, especially if you have kids (you didn't say) so I would be cautious not to jump too deep into something new and just let it develop over time. If you are not completely happy, figure out why and deal with that issue... if you are happy and not hurting anyone, just enjoy it!
2006-10-30 06:24:52 · answer #2 · answered by zmj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One month ago I met the woman of my dreams. Next month I plan to ask her to marry me. I knew I wanted to marry her after the first week. She lives 3000 miles away and we have never met face to face, but we talk on the phone and txt each other every single day. She's 33 and I'm 25, and I have never been in a romantic relationship before in my life (where the other person liked me back). We are both very much in love and I'm going for it. Hope that gives you an interesting perspective on life decisions.
2006-10-30 07:50:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I met as friends and fell in love soon after. He told me later when I first walked in, he knew he wanted to marry me. I believe that when somethings right it just is. I don't know what happened in your first marriage, but if it was rough on you, maybe this is God's way of blessing you with a great guy. Don't listen to your friends, listen to your heart and to what God is telling you. Pray on it. I would definitely wait on marriage until your completely sure. As far as being a rebound is concerned, I got together with my husband a month after he got out of a seven year relationship. We will be married five years next month and together for six and we love each other just as much. Good luck and God bless.
2006-10-30 06:26:47 · answer #4 · answered by Phoebe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone assumes the 1st new person after a break-up has to be a rebound. Not true. If you get lucky with an immediate replacement you should not look a gift horse in the mouth ;)
2006-10-30 06:29:56 · answer #5 · answered by vegas_iwish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋