almost 3 yr old not potty trained yet....HELP!?

Question

My daughter will be 3 in december and she is not potty trained. she doesn't even do #1 in the potty. She understands how to use the potty. She will sit on the potty after she goes in the diaper. i need help in getting her to use the potty the right way. i give her pull up training diapers but she refuses to use them correctly and she ends up with a leak. Is there any advice that anyone can give for this situation?

Answer 1

Hi,

I have a daughter who wil be 3 in April, she is semi potty trained. She will do number 1 (pee) but not number 2 on the potty... I have been training her since she was 18 months old but stopped for a while because I was pushing her to hard and she became afraid to go.. then one day she decided she was ready again. Have you tried a reward for when she goes potty, A sticker each time she goes? just try not to make it seem as a chore or punishing her... and how about potty movies? Barney has one i believe and there are many other ones out there... It is very fustrating and expensive! i know, Just remember when she is ready she will go but also keep on encourging her to use it.... My first daughter was almost two and fully potty trained, then this one of mine is so stbborn and different... LOL... good luck!

Oh yeah have you also tried the cloth undies with the plastic covers? I am using them now and they hold the PEE in pretty well, and lets them feel the wetness more to a point where they do not like it.

Answer 2

I potty trained my son at 26 months...although he really made it pretty easy on us :) What we did was reward him everytime he went with something he LOVED. For us it was a stamp on the hand or foot and then at the end of the day if he had a stamp on each hand or foot he got a hot wheels car (it was around Christmas so they were wicked cheap!)

NOW I must warn you, I have a very smart little boy and it didn't take him long to figure out that if he sat down every 20 min and tinkled a little bit he would get a stamp...SO we ended up adding to the rules that we would sit down and go only every 2 hours (unless it's an emergency of course). This all worked out beautifully and he has only had a few accidents since then. (He is now almost 4).

Good luck to you and just remember that whatever you decide to try, just make sure you are consistent and patient.

And just for a little extra encouragement: I do in-home daycare and currently have a child that will be 3 tomorrow and still isn't even close to potty trained :)

Answer 3

My daughter will be 3 also in Dec. I'm happy to say we're on our 2nd week of full potty trained success. She's been in her big girl "wonder wears" (as she calls them) since the 20th. I didn't rush her, I just tried several methods. When she is ready she'll tell u. Keep trying the pull ups but put a pair of big girl underwear over them. I would tell my daughter, "Don't wet those ok? When u need to go potty tell momma." At first it was hard but if u praise her when she tries she'll understand. I also tried the sticker rainbow from Kandoo. She loved that. Every time she went to the potty or tried, she'd get a sticker. For a while i tried just having my daughter walk around stark naked and that's when the potty concept started clicking in her head.

Just be patient with her and don't push her. Its all in good time. Good luck!

Answer 4

None of my three kids were potty trained by three.What is your rush?

Make sure she has one of her own small potties they only she can use.Set a schedule. If you know that she moves her bowels after breakfast , have her sit on the potty for a few minutes everyday after breakfast.You can make a chart to put in the bathroom with stickers for every time she simply sits there.She will love it.Eventually it will sink in.The more you push, the more she won't do it so lighten up.

One more thing : make sure she sees you using your potty.Have her look at what you did and say goodbye to it and help flush.
Take your time- It will happen when she is ready.

Answer 5

Make it a game. I gave my son a cookie each time he used the chair. He loved it. Also....I have found that the pull ups don't do anything for them. It's too much like a diaper. You really need to put her in some "big girl panties" and if you are worried they have those plastic things to go over them. Keep an eye on her and have her sit on the chair every hour or so just in case. That's how I got mine trained! Just use the diapers at night for a while.

Answer 6

My son was 3 in Sept & will use the potty for both but only if he isn't wearing a nappy or pull up. If he's wearing a nappy then he'll go in the nappy & not ask for the potty.

Have you tried a star chart or bribery so she gets rewarded when she uses the potty?

Letting her see other children use a potty usually helps as kids love to copy other kids.

Could she just not like that potty ?
Have you taken her to the shop to choose her own? or maybe put stickers of her favourite characters on it?

Answer 7

I can't speak for girls, but my son who will be 5 in march got potty-trained right b/f he turned 3... He didn't show me any signs.. that was the last thing that he wanted to do, so I just sat him on the potty in the morning right after his breakfast and I kind of had to make him, but it worked.. the second that he did number 1, I cheered him on!! And I also took the pullups away.. I put him in underoos.. It was a mess in the beginning, but that's what really made it a success... I hope this helped!!

Answer 8

When we were training my grandson it seemed like we did everything. And we were the only ones getting upset by it, he definately wasnt. But one weekend he was at his dads, his stepmom started telling him that everytime he used the potty he got money to put in a jar. It wasn't much, like a nickle or dime for #1 and a quarter for #2......and at the end of the week, or every two weeks, if he was real good about using the potty and not going in his pants, he could take the money and buy a toy. Well...we started doing this at home too. With-in 2 months, he was completely trained and had new toys that he got to buy all by himself because he earned it. We had to throw in a littel extra money, but it was well worth it to us. Good Luck !!!!!

Answer 9

I am in the exact same situation. my son will be 3 in december also, and doesnt care if he sits in soaking wet or stinky underpants alllllll day long. he just doesnt care.

the only thing that helped a little bit, is that im thinking about putting him in preschool but he cant go until hes potty trained. we went and looked at one and he loooooved it. I told him that kids at preschool wear underpants and make peepee and poopy in the potty, and that if he wants to go back and play with those kids, then he has to start doing it too. that helped for about 2 days. lol.....

ive also heard that there has to be some kind of consequence for wetting... time out or something to make them understand that its wrong. because theyre used to wearing diapers, they dont understand why all of a sudden they have to swtich to potty.

i wish us both luck! ive been working on this since he was 18 months..... still not trained.

Answer 10

my son did the same thing. does she go to daycare? do you have friends with the same age children who are potty trained? i had a friend come over everyday for about a week and everytime her son went potty my son went too. he even talked to my son about going in the big potty and after that my son told me that he was ready to use the big potty. you cant push kids too hard. if you do they might rebel and not do it just cause. my son was 3 1/2 when he finally got it. he told me that he wanted to be a big boy like davion. after that he wasnt even wearing pull ups at night. and im lucky enough to have him not have any accidents yet. just give her time and she will get the hang of it.
good luck