Help! Should I go out with him? Should I say yes or no?

Question

I'm 19 and I like this guy I go to work with who is 52. We both flirt with each other. He asked me out today. I'm not sure if I should say yes or not. I like him a lot. I told him that I would think about it. What should I do?

Answer 1

Was he asking you out in a romantic way...one on one...a date? NO...I don't think you should go out with him. When I was in my late teens, I started being attracted to older men. (I think I was annoyed by younger boys and liked the way a mature man treated me...I also loved being found attractive by them.) I don't think the age difference is as much of a problem as YOUR age. I know you don't want to hear this...but you will change SO much in the next 5-10 years. This man (being soooo mush older than you) has way too much life experience. If I were you, I would give it some time. Flirting is fun...nothing wrong with it....but more than 10 years older than you (especially at your age) is too much for dating. Continue a playful work relationship...but keep your eyes open for new (younger) interests. When I was 19, I started dating my now fiancee...he is 8 years older than me...and we have been together since 1994. Very happy...but even with an 8 year generational gap...I notice it every once in a while. Good luck to you!

Answer 2

Girl are you nuts this guy is 52 and your 19 and still in school and then go off to college. I don't think so you still have your life ahead of you and shouldn't let a grown man take that away from you. You should say no way I'm planning my future to be somebody.

Answer 3

I'd say go on the date, but I wouldn't make anything out of a relationship past friends. I don't have any experience here but from what I've seen someone that age is usually looking for something particular...make sure he's not married. Have fun!

Answer 4

no no no no no no no no no no. if hes 52 and ur 19, thats quite a difrence. just imagine how the rest of ur life would be if u were maried to someone so much older then u. how would ur kids be affected. and dont say u dont want to marie him . u dont date people u cant see urself maring

Answer 5

Many people find that relationships work out because we like the person, it usually doesn't matter how old the both of you are. go out with him, just be careful, work conditions could get very tense if something ends up really wrong, don't let your feelings get the best of you.

Answer 6

hell nahh girl, find someone your own age!! 52yrs OLD is alottttttttttt compared to 19!! YOu should just go on a date. But dont really start dating the guy fluently! I knwo age is nothin but a number but this is a real HUGE difference!

Answer 7

If you had to ask this question, part of you is unsure. And, if you attempt something with mixed feelings it's a setup for failure. Maybe go on one casual date as friends first until you are positive of your feelings. Good luck! ♥

Answer 8

If you like him, and enjoy his company, and both of you are single, you should definitely go out with him. There's absolutely nothing wrong with a young woman dating a mature man!

Answer 9

If you really like him give it a shot, but think about that he's old enough to be your father, do you really want someone that old? He's 33 years older then you, don't find that a bit strange?

Answer 10

probly not, think of the future! He would die before you, just talk to him and try to get out, in a way you are putting yourself down because you think guys around your age aren't good enough.