My boyfriend moved in with me and now after about a year, still no help with bills. He says it's because he isn't getting enough hours and spending more than usual. He does help with food and does house work on the weekends when he's not working. My bills are about 1000 per month with my own kid. He has no kids, 2 small credit card payments. He does spend about $150 on gas per week because he drives two hours both ways per day. We've talked about it, but there always seems to be something else that comes up for his reason "not having it". I only ask him for $280 per month, but still feel "bad" for reminding him. He's only remembered once. Am I being unreasonable? How do I know if he's just using me? He did give up his own place two hours away, which he didn't have any problem paying the bills there, which equalled out to more than the $280 I ask...
2006-10-30 06:08:56 · 20 answers · asked by trooper 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
he is a mooch,, throw the bum out,
2006-10-30 06:10:29 · answer #1 · answered by rich2481 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Scare him, tell him im going to have to find another place to stay as i cant afford to pay the bills on my own so ive got no choice... he'll probably react and say ill help out and then you just have to explain that 'look, if i dont pay these bills ill have a bad credit with the companies and i dont want that, so help me, if not i need to bring in a lodger etc' i know that may sound a lil dramatic but hey it might work!
2006-10-30 14:12:55 · answer #2 · answered by jattyjattj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know if he's using you. You have got to be kidding me!
Is it not obvious that he's using you? If you have to "remind" him about paying you rent then there is an issue. Why would he offer up money when he knows you'll pay for everything.
You need to grow some balls and set some ground rules up. If he wants to continue to live there the rent is $280 - if he can't pay it then he will be evicted. Plain and simple.
2006-10-30 14:12:41 · answer #3 · answered by OohLaLa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's messed up!
You gave him a whole year to figure this thing out. I think you should give him an ultimatum, pay 1/2 the rent, or leave!
Why is he driving 2 hrs to work for a job that dosen't give enough hours? He had enough time to find a better job.
You don't need this crap.
2006-10-30 14:14:24 · answer #4 · answered by lynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he didn't have problems paying his bills at the other place he should have no problems paying at yours. He's using you. Stop allowing him to! $280 a month is a steal and even than he's taking advantage of you. There is no reason for you to absorb the cost of his housing. If he is unwilling to pay his fair share, get rid of him ~ he's a looser..
2006-10-30 14:15:49 · answer #5 · answered by Kwk2lrn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he’s using you. If he could pay the bills at his own place which were more then he can give you $280 bucks. There’s no excuse for that. Don’t be anyone’s fool! Good Luck!
2006-10-30 14:15:03 · answer #6 · answered by dangerously in love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going thru the same thing right now except its my husband, he is taking advantage that you are settled and had been doing it all by yourself before he sees no need to help you because you haven't brought it up, I would seperate your half and his half of the bills I know it sounds dumb but that way it is fair you should not have to pay for him you have a child that you take care of and it is not right that you need to take care of him too. you only gave birth to one child not two so he needs to grow up and help you with the responsibilities if he's grown enough to be on his own then he's grown enough to pay for himself not have you as a sugar mama....Sit him down and set him straight
Good Luck
2006-10-30 14:51:01 · answer #7 · answered by Tia 1113 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is using you. If he could pay his own way before and now has trouble even helping you out, he's a moocher. Either make him pay his fair share or have him move on. Always reasons not to help pay, but he seems to have the money to do as he wants.. I say give him the boot if he doesn't pay up.
2006-10-30 14:12:24 · answer #8 · answered by notfreeinnh 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So he is driving 2 hrs each way to work to be with you, right ? Its costing him $600/month on just gas. I think you should take that into consideration. If he didn't move in with you he would have to spend that much on gas.
2006-10-30 14:20:57 · answer #9 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either he is using you or he just doesnt have the money. So he needs to find a second job to help more or you need to sit down with him and go over what he can afford and just deal with it. So see what you can come up with to make ends meet and if he doesnt help more then he is probably just using you.
2006-10-30 14:14:45 · answer #10 · answered by 2wild4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE'S A FREELOADER!!! KICK HIM TO THE CURB. HE'S NO GOOD. YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE TO ASK HIM FOR MONEY. HE SHOULD KNOW TO GIVE IN. SERIOUSLY. WHEN YOU GOT TO THE POINT TO ASK HIM FOR MONEY THAT'S RIDICULOUS. DON'T FEEL BAD AT ALL FOR REMINDING HIM. HE THINK HE CAN GET AWAY WITH IT EASILY. i WOULD CHARGE HIM MORE. HE'S THE MAN. I MEAN IT SHOULD BE 50/50 IN A RELASHIONSHIP. NO 80/20.
FIND YOURSELF A REAL MAN THAT WILL TAKE CARE OFYOU AND YOUR KID! don't let that man use you like that.
2006-10-30 14:16:05 · answer #11 · answered by blah blah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋