i do not like my sister's boyfriend. i wasn't keen on him when she started dating him (i wasn't keen on my brother's girlfriend either, but i gave them both achance, and i like her now.) i starting losing patience with this boy when he swore in front of my younger siblings, and stopped trying to like him when he called me to ask me if he could borrow my credit card to rent a car to go to canada. i have tolerated him at family events, and being in my house all the freaking time (he has his own family, shouldn't he spend sometime with them?) i fear that he will consider himself invited to my college graduation. i don't want him there, it's an evening about me, don't i have every right to be selfish? my mom thinks i should be nicer, and that i don't want to want to upset my sister. my relationship with my sister is already strained, between fights over a phone bill, and her boyfriend. How do I make it clear to her I don't want him there, with out hurting our sisterly bond?
2006-10-30 06:03:48 · 16 answers · asked by viennagirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you may not like him but you are not dating him you are going to have to tolerate him and i would just let him come bc if you tell your sis that you do not want him to come then she may not want to come either. Or you can try to tell her that you only want family members to come to your graduation and just have it as a family affair no friends ect.
You are going to have to deal with her bf though it is her business and it is her bf and not yours so if you want your sisterly bond not to be broken do not do it over a stupid boy. Just tolerate him and maybe he wont stick around that long specially if he is not that good of a guy.
GOOD LUCK
PS DO NOT LET HIM BOROW ANY MONEY!!! i do not care for what reason.
2006-10-30 06:09:12 · answer #1 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're right. He's a jerk. Personally, I would confront your sister and tell her plainly that you do NOT want him to go to your college graduation. The end. And if he shows up, have a bunch of your friends kick him out. (if there's a lot of your friends then a fight won't start. Well, not usually. Use your judgment) If she refuses to tell him, then you need to tell him. Face to face, maybe infront of your best friend/boyfriend so that he doesn't freak out. If you just send him an e-mail, then he could claim that he never got it. Same with snail mail. Also with IM 'cause he could claim that you weren't actually talking to him. It's a pathetic situation, (not you. Your sisters boyfriend.) Well, I hope I helped a little!
2006-10-30 12:03:11 · answer #2 · answered by S. Elizabeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your sister that you really don't want him being there at your graduation. Then the day after graduation, throw a graduation party to which he is invited. Also, even though you like your brother's girlfriend, maby if you only invite the family to the actual graduation it will not be so offending to your sister. Good luck!
2006-10-30 06:25:42 · answer #3 · answered by offlights 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I to went through his with one of my sisters.
You do not want him there, tell her you would rather have just the family there.
Why should you have to bend for this person? You don't, you are not going out with him. Your sister will always be your sister. Not all siblings stay in touch and do everything you see on TV.
If you do not want him in your house, let your sister no he is not invited to your house, if you live with mom this wont work. Go to your room and let your sister make her own mistakes, mine did!
2006-10-30 06:11:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't bash him in front of her too much. Your relationship with your sister is very important. She'll be your sister forever, and trying to force her to choose between you and him would be a bad idea. I wouldn't let him borrow your credit card though; that was totally unreasonable of him, along with swearing in front of your younger siblings. When you're talking with your sister, just try to be careful about what you say about him, since she loves both of you.
2006-10-30 06:09:11 · answer #5 · answered by Lola 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't help who you don't like, when I hated my sisters boyfriend I found dirt on him and told her, she isn't with him anymore LOL! But honestly it's your day and if your sister can't understand that maybe she doesn't need to come either. You realize that when you say HE is uninvited she might not come either? Is him being there going to make all that big of a difference? I know his presence could be URKING! But examine what you are doing befor eyou say anything!
I FEEL YOUR PAIN,
BEEN THERE DONE THAT GOT THE T SHIRT!
2006-10-30 06:07:49 · answer #6 · answered by violet.starr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Newsflash - by not inviting your sister's boyfriend you will be hurting her feelings - that's a given. Like you stated you want to be selfish, so tell your sister she is invited only. Is it rude? Yes. But if you hate the man that much then that's the way it is.
2006-10-30 06:06:38 · answer #7 · answered by OohLaLa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with her. Tell her that you dont have a problem with her dating her as it is her choice but you personally dont get along with him too well. You want her there so much and please may she come alone. It wont be easy to say but if it is said calmly in a nice way then hopefully she'll be fine. Also tell your mum and she might be able to help back you up. After all it is your special day.
2006-10-30 06:08:44 · answer #8 · answered by Elle :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow...tough one. I'm not sure there IS an easy out on this. If you tell her "Look, I don't want him there spoiling my night", she'll get angry. If you send her an invitation that mentions her, and only her, no gaurentee she would pick up on the hint, and if she did, again she would get angry. I'm afraid to say you may be stuck on this one:(
2006-10-30 06:07:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
make the graduation Family Only ... no b/f's, no g/f's just family and as far as not liking him I would distance yourself from him, your sister has made a bad choice, just be there for her when he dumps her.
2006-10-30 06:09:58 · answer #10 · answered by emnari 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋