all my family hates him, and his lifestyle is like Mr. Party man with NO morals.i told him I am preggo and he wants to be in the life with me but I dont trust him!
2006-10-30 06:01:14 · 27 answers · asked by gigerninfo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
who picked him? first come to Jesus and get self respect-realize your a princess and the baby is innocent-then live for Jesus happy in His joy-david in John 3 and Jesus amazing grace
2006-10-30 06:03:45 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that you have to go through a pregnancy hating the man who made this child with you!
If you are sure that he won't give up his party lifestyle (which you're probably right, he won't!) maybe you should distance yourself from him because you need to take care of yourself now, and your baby. And by all means don't feel animosity toward the baby because it's dad is a jerk. It's half yours too!
I have no clue what is best for you to do other than to rely on your family for emotional support, and focus on your health and your baby's health. It's all about you and baby right now.
Good luck.
2006-10-30 14:08:22 · answer #2 · answered by MissJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your pregnant Congrats , OK you hate him but at the time you must have loved him for some reason , but ask yourself this ,the child that is growing inside you everyday did he/or she ask to be brought into this world? did he /or she have a choice? The father and you had the choice and the out come is a very special infant ,
Now ask yourself how much love do you have for this child ? it does not matter the hate you have for the father but the love you have of something that has your blood running in its veins.
people that get divorced most of the time hate each other but do they give there children up because of it ?
maybe just maybe this is what he needs to grow up and stop it with the good times you just might be surprised at his out come but then you can still hate him .
But do not forget it is not about him or you it is about a beautiful child that you have been blessed with , you should thank your lucky stars for this , there are many people that want a baby to love I know my husband wants a child so bad but we can not have one , you are very blessed ,be thankful and listen to your heart
2006-10-30 14:26:56 · answer #3 · answered by asnowbird1961 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should prepare yourself to raise that child on your own. He can be part of the childs life, but I would keep a close eye on how he is when he does see the child. If you can talk to him and tell him your concerns about his partiying and how it would have to stop for the sake of the child, start talking now to him. Give him the chance to grow up now that he is going to be a father. If he chooses not to, let him know that you are not comfortable if he has the child alone and will make sure that he has supervised visitation with the child. Once you have a child it is no longer about you/him.. but about what is best for the baby.
2006-10-30 14:18:15 · answer #4 · answered by notfreeinnh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well ... hate to say it .. but he has every right to be in the childs life as the father as you do. You may not trust him and you may not like him, but you did choose to risk this by having sex with him.
Tell him if he wants to be in the childs life he needs to grow up and change his party habits because you do not want your child to be around that. If he refuses, file for full custody. If he doesn't want to change for the sake of his child, ask him to give up his paternal rights. There are many legal options for you to take, but initially, he should recieve the CHANCE to clean up his act and be a part of his childs life.
Most importantly ... no matter how you feel about it NOW ... never regret anything, because at one point, it was EXACTLY what you wanted.
2006-10-30 14:09:40 · answer #5 · answered by Daynuhlicious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should probably be careful before you bring innocent kids into the world because the cycle repeats itself and that's how so many kids grow up with no dads and a mom that works really hard to support the kid but as a result can't spend any time with the kid and so the kid ends up 1: being like the father and getting girls pregnant without taking care of them or 2: being a girl who gets pregnant just because. What's even more sad is that the child is denied the right to having both a loving mother and father under one roof through no choice or fault of their own.
2006-10-30 14:08:15 · answer #6 · answered by talktime 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately you chose to sleep w/him and you liked him for at least three minutes. Hopefully you've learned something for next time. Regardless of what you and your family think, he deserves to see his child. When the baby is born you need to get to court and set up boundaries as to what both of you expect from each other. Be the adult and try hard to get along somewhat for the child. Don't exclude him because it could backfire in the future. Good luck to you. Having a baby is hard work, but the best job in the world. It's got the best rewards.
2006-10-30 14:10:43 · answer #7 · answered by Phoebe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel. My friend is going through the same thing. When she found out and told him, he said the baby wasn't his. Now that he is under pressure from family, he wants to claim the baby.
The best thing to do if he wants custody is to wait it out. If he still wants to be a part of the baby's life, demand that there be a paternity test run and if it is his child, he has to sign the birth certificate as father. Then, if you wish to pursue it further to keep him from the child, take it up in court, but be sure to show that he is in some way unfit to care for a child, but you are also willing to negotiate if he will clean his act up. (try monitered visitation with payment of child support) Showing that you are willing to negotiate his availability to his child will show that you care for the child and that you are a compitent mother.
If you feel that you cannot care for the child, look into open adoption. These type of adoption agencies allow you to spend at least 48 hours with them child in case you change your mind, and if you still give the baby up, the adoptive family still has to allow you visitation and alert you before they move.
For further assistance in the matter, e-mail or call your state's Attorney General (TX- Greg Abbot) for information.
Hope I've helped!
2006-10-30 14:19:44 · answer #8 · answered by Shel K 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately we sometimes realize what type of person we are dealing with after the fact. Try your best to focus on your child and your own health, and see if you can have some good thoughts although the situation is tough.
2006-10-30 14:07:00 · answer #9 · answered by DownAndOut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok you have a 2 options here
1) you can let him be part of the babies life but not yours unril you are totally sure you can trust him.
2) tell him to get stufed and cut him out completely
these are assuming you have decided to keep the baby and are prepared to raise the child alone.
and yes he may have been mr partyman but now he is going to be a dad he may have got a bit of a reality check.
what ever the situation he is willing to face his responsibilities and be part of the babies life you must give him credit for that.
2006-10-31 13:31:41 · answer #10 · answered by rosierotweiller 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Shouldn't you have thought about that "before" you had sex with a guy you hate, your family hates, is like a Mr party man with NO morals & you don't trust???
2006-10-30 14:05:46 · answer #11 · answered by grrl 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋