ok, i"m 17 yrs old me and my ex just broke up about a month ago. we were togther a year and 4 months .The reason we broke up because i needed my space and he wasn't respecting that, he wanted to be up under me 24-7,he was to contolling didn't want me to go places unless he was with me and was jealous of the relationship i had with my friends, saying that i treated them better.so i figured that it was unhealthy, so i broke up with him. The relationship we had was kinda strong because i was so use to him and he was use to me. he says he's gonna change, and wants us to work stuff out but i have developed feelings for this other boy, he is really sweet but like no one he isn't perfect he has his flaws. but i still have feelings for my ex, i don't want to break neither one of there hearts and i don't want to break mine by making the wrong decision. Any advice please. Sould i go back to my ex or move on a take a chance at something new.
2006-10-30 05:58:41 · 12 answers · asked by shay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
your an enabler-and by nature you will seek an abuser-let Jesus into your heart to get a new start-and let him guide your heart-youre worth the part-david in Jesus amazing grace with thanks John chapter 3
2006-10-30 06:02:30 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take a chance at something new. You're very young and have a lot of life ahead of you. Being with someone for over a year at your age is pretty significant and a long time. Take the chance to discover new things and new people. I know it can be scary and your ex represents some known and comfortable to you - but that's not experiencing life and living it to the fullest.
You are absolutely right that your past relationship was unhealthy. You did the right thing by breaking it off. My guess is that he will not change and actually grow worse in his jealousy. Be careful.
2006-10-30 14:03:38 · answer #2 · answered by betsymaemae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are soooo young. PLEASE MOVE ON. There are too many instances where young people such as yourself get caught up w/ a guy who you know is not good for you but choose to stay with because you are afraid to leave the comfort zone.
He is telling you that he will change because he is afraid of losing you as a girlfriend and a friend.
I think once you've been intimate it's very difficult to stay "friends" especially at your age.
Don't try to justifying staying in the relationship to save a friendship because there can't be a friendship after you've broken up w/ him.
Move on!
2006-10-30 14:08:50 · answer #3 · answered by Petra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should not give yr ex an second chance. What I've just heard is called the Violence dating cyle trust me you need all the guys you can get, this new guy sounds so sweet like you'll have your ups and downs but jealousy isn't part of him.
FYI jealousy is the unhealthiest thing in a relationship!
2006-10-30 14:05:57 · answer #4 · answered by ~Pitbull 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to tell you this is tough, but you should move on I've been in relationship with someone like this for almost two years, believe me you don't want to deal with a controling b/f. It makes life a million times more stressful. I should left a long time ago, but I'm stuck now. So just move on you can do alot better trust me.
2006-10-30 14:25:57 · answer #5 · answered by freeky_chick_02 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a chance you're 17 you have atleast 65yrs to go,relationships will come and go,you've just begun,i'm 32yrs old 33 Nov 3rd and have met the perfect person more than twice,and i'm single.Don't jump on the 1st 2nd or 10th person, you're young,be careful.
2006-10-30 14:04:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obsessive, controlling behavior at his age is not good. It is a red flashing sign that says "caution, future spousal abuse!" Chances are someone that controlling will not change. If you are confused about your feelings, take a step back and don't date anyone for a while.
2006-10-30 14:05:41 · answer #7 · answered by joeanonymous 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should give ur ex just 1 more last chance
so in times you wont regret by giving him a chance
2006-10-30 14:02:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well go for the other guy not your ex he is not going to change he says he is but dont belive him go for the nicer guy
take a chance let you be happy
2006-10-30 14:03:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's his fault.It's good that you're thinking about you first and that's how it should be if you don't think about yourself then who would.I think you should let him think about wat happened and let him realize that his wrong and if he really loves you then he'll come back 4 you and if he doesn't then yall weren't ment 4 eachother. Go on with you life and if yall are ment to be then he'll come back.
2006-10-30 14:05:57 · answer #10 · answered by ***i <3 Mi BABi*** ^:J&K:^ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋