I lied to my fiance .We've been through worse b4 though..We broke up back in june for a month and realized that it was a mistake cause we were still so much in-love. I lied to him about how i got my car. My parents paid for half, and when i couldn't get the other half financed myself, a "friend" offered to co-sign. No strings attached since i am making payments. I told my fiance that my parents paid for it all. Come to find out, this "friend" had alot more feelings for me than just friendship. When he realized that i didnt feel the same way he told my fiance about paying for half the car. (well, co-signing 4 it)..I know i should'nt have kept it from him, but i knew how'd he react. We've been together for almost 2 yrs. Is this something big enough for us to call it quits? I've tried talking to him, but right now he's so angry that he doesn't want 2 hear what i have to say. It also came out infront of some of his friends so i know he's also embarrased. What can i do to save our relatshp?
2006-10-30 05:58:02 · 15 answers · asked by teeny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
give him time to cool off. Understand that he's pissed and let him do the talking when he's ready. If at all possible try to cut things off completely with the co-signer guy. if you can pay him off or something so that he has no ties to you, it'll do a world of good for your relationship.
best wishes, and remember there still is hope, even if you have to take a step back anticipate the day you'll take a leap forward.
2006-10-30 06:03:30 · answer #1 · answered by myfianceisamonkey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
right now there is nothing you can do to save the relationship, it's in his court ... he needs to deal with the feelings he has towards you ... you lied and that's a big thing but you were found out in front of his friends that's the worst ... what you should do is have the car re-financed and have the co-signer removed and find someone else ... give your fiancee some space, don't push him, in a few days write a heart felt letter to him and tell him how sorry you are, but don't push for an answer ... he'll let you know how he feels ... good luck
2006-10-30 06:02:40 · answer #2 · answered by emnari 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your fault for not making things clear to guys who offer up their lives to be with you.
I can't beleive any guy would just help you finance someting as big as a car if he thought he didn't have a real chance with you.
Lies, you real what you so, hun. Give him time, ball is his court whether he would take you back or not. I wouldn't. To me it would sound like you have a sugerdaddy you have to "take care of" and I was this fool thinking like I the only one.
You might not have been doing anything, but good luck convincing him.
2006-10-30 06:04:11 · answer #3 · answered by MisterO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you have any choice in the matter, other than leaving him alone. If he changes his mind- he will call you.
You betrayed his trust and now you have to live with the consequences.
If you really thought the co-signer gave you the backup for your car with "no strings attached" than maybe you should learn from that as well.
2006-10-30 06:04:56 · answer #4 · answered by jarhed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all give him space and time. leave him be for a while and when he is ready to talk about it he'll make the first move. honesty is the best policy in these situations so just tell him the truth and sincerely apologize. for the future maybe you need to make an added effort to tell the truth in every situation even if you think your fiance might get mad. good luck.
2006-10-30 06:02:05 · answer #5 · answered by Btieti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this was done prior to your relationship then it really shouldn't be a big deal, but if you did this while you and your fiance were together then I could understand his side. By asking another guy to do it you are taking a stab at not only his pride but his manhood.
2006-10-30 06:01:53 · answer #6 · answered by not meant to be tamed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you cant lie to your man about things that small to him it seemed like you were hiding much more than that and also to add that some of his friends found out. EGO!!! male ego that it, don't call it quits but you are going to really have to show him rather than tell him that it was nothing and that you love him dearly. First Let GOD come in between you both and help you work out this problem between you. remember if don't anyone else love you GOD loves you best.
2006-10-30 06:03:24 · answer #7 · answered by O.E.S. Lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just. Stop. Lying. You've dug yourself into a huge hole. You knew that it was wrong of you to cosign with this dude, that's why you lied about it, and now you've dragged him into it as well. You're going to have to be honest from here on out. From now on, you should be talking to this dude by email only. Cut out personal contact if you value your relationship. If you don't, then don't worry about it.
2006-10-30 06:04:22 · answer #8 · answered by SAjivemuffin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
re-finance the car with your fiance co- sighning for the friend half , if he really loves you this is a small matter if you havent done the other friend a "favour" aswell
2006-10-30 06:01:25 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let his anger cool a little, then talk straight to him. Do not make excuses, own up and accept responsibility. Be convincing when you committ to not be deceptive with him moving forward. If you are credible, and he loves you, you may be able to make a fresh start.
2006-10-30 06:03:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋