I try everything to make him happy, I cook, clean,laundry give him my last I'll do anything but It always seems like I'm bothering him, he screams and yells for nothing. Say if I ask what do you want for dinner he will say what the f*** you can't just make something and he can't hold me because I'm the female only I should show affection. I'm so confused I can't even explain it properly. He calls me a retard when were driving or I park to far away from the door, I have no common sense just everything is wrong and my fault. I love him so much what should I do to help our relationship or him????????????????
2006-10-30 05:57:29 · 9 answers · asked by jfurlerbaby23 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What do you love about him? Is it the way he calls you names, the way he doesn't show you affection, or the bad way he makes you feel? Do you really love him or the idea of having him? Reciprocity is important in relationships. You should NOT have to try all those things to make him happy and do everything "right" for him and then he STILL treats you poorly. You deserve someone that will treat you the way you treat them. You should re-examine the reasons you are together and seriously think about if this is a relationship you want to stay in.
2006-10-30 06:03:54 · answer #1 · answered by Ci Ci 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might think you're in love but the question is does he love you? You are being mentally abused and it's not healthy, look at the way he's got you thinking, you can do so much better and you don't realize it. maybe you can sit down and tell him how you feel, if that doesn't work , drop him like a bad habit because you deserve much better treatment.
Good luck!
2006-10-30 14:07:16 · answer #2 · answered by shay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a one sided love yours not his...if he truely loved you as much as you him he wouldn't yell at you or call you names and would be more than happy to show affection to you. How long have you been together maybe you can talk to a conceler or some one that is if he is willing to do so. but also you should think about your own happiness, I understand that you love him but would you rather love a man that from the sounds of it doesn't love you and be miserable or leave and be happy?
2006-10-30 14:05:28 · answer #3 · answered by shellie11985 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you stay with him for one more night you are plain NUTS! what are you thinking, have some self respect and kick him out or you move out! I wouldn't out up with that from anyone! your not a dog and shouldn't be treated like one! the longer you stick around the worse it is gonna get! You could be missin out on someone really amazing! I'd tell him to hit the rode!
2006-10-30 14:08:49 · answer #4 · answered by --Br0oklYn-- 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
has he always been like this?
If not then you need to leave because he's over you or cheating. Lashing out is a sign of both.
If he has been you two need to separate, you stay with a friend or something.
Sounds like he may need some professional counsiling, and the two of you may need couple therapy.
If he's unwilling to go, you should leave.
Emotional abuse is just as bad as physical.
2006-10-30 14:01:53 · answer #5 · answered by attila 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the classic female syndrome. You want to be abused. It's not conscious, but it is there. Love should not over shadow abuse, but women who are almost beaten to death go back to the same man. No one knows why. You have to decide if you are more important to YOU that he is. You have to make a decision for yourself, not for him or what he wants.
2006-10-30 14:07:56 · answer #6 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's emotionally abusive to you and you take it. He's not happy unless he's putting you down. He either needs to get some serious help or you need to pick yourself up out of this situation.
2006-10-30 14:08:00 · answer #7 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. Why would you want to stay? Does your love for him make up for how he treats you? I say your love for him because I do not think it goes both ways. I do not think he loves you, he wouldn't hurt you if he did.
2006-10-30 14:01:34 · answer #8 · answered by momofmodi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may think you love him but he DOESN"T LOVE YOU. leave him and dont think twice about it or him!
2006-10-30 14:03:56 · answer #9 · answered by Btieti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋