i just want to know what happened with an old lover. is that wrong to ask him? is it wrong to have closure?
2006-10-30 05:45:59 · 30 answers · asked by twisted 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no not really tho he does have the right to not tell you so be prepared for that possibility... but its never a bad thing to have closure... you cant move forward until you have closure with things that could possibility to hold you back from having the life you were meant to live... because we are meant to be happy...
2006-10-30 06:05:08 · answer #1 · answered by jeans0079 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not wrong, I recently went thru that with an old lover from 10 years ago. We found each other by accident and had a brief thing that we both knew wouldn't last but we got the closure we needed.
2006-10-30 13:49:11 · answer #2 · answered by vtxrider 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not wrong to have closure but it all depends on the questions that you want to ask. if it is about the person he chose to date or what he was doing the he will only tell you that its non of your business and that you should have asked when you had the chance. however if you go to him and let him know that he is constantly on your mind and you need to know what actually caused whatever happened between you both to end so that you will have closure in your heart then he will give you all the information you need. DON'T BE HURT BY THE TRUTH!! he will tell you that and believe me if it not what you wanted to here i will hurt so be prepared and Put GOD in first to guide you. GOOD LUCK
2006-10-30 13:50:58 · answer #3 · answered by O.E.S. Lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong to want closure or to know what happened, but most men don't like to share their feelings. Some just leave our lives without an explanation or a 'goodbye' and we're SO shocked and hurt. If it's been less than 3 weeks, perhaps you could ask him why he left but if it's been longer, please let it go. I realize it's very difficult not knowing but after a period of 'grieving', you should say 'goodbye' in your heart and move on.
2006-10-31 00:00:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh baby everyone asks this question. Okay, if you really want to know and it is that important to know; sit him down face to face and talk to him about it. Tell him you want closure. Plus with this it will make your relationship stronger. It's not a bad thing to want to know, just what ever he tells you, don't get mad. He's being honest and that's the big key.
2006-10-30 13:56:18 · answer #5 · answered by Jackie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not wrong, it does give us closure. If it has been a long time since you were together, it would not be wise to ask anymore. You should have asked then and there about the why's and why nots. If it has not been then long, go ask.
2006-10-30 13:50:26 · answer #6 · answered by notfreeinnh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to know he's alone and has never loved anyone else and still thinks about you every day? Or do you want to know he's happy, with someone he loves, getting married, very successful and can't understand why you're calling him?
Closure is when you decide to let it go, not when you find out he's up to.
2006-10-30 13:50:04 · answer #7 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knowing what happened to him won't give you any closure. You'll just want to know what happens next. You'll have to stop thinking about him. It's wrong if it hurts your current relationship, but even if you're not in a relationship right now, you're hurting yourself because you haven't cut your heart strings.
2006-10-30 13:49:01 · answer #8 · answered by Butterfly Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the person. Not everyone is going to give you a reason. Some relationships I have been given a truthful answer and some other I still pnder as to what has happened.
2006-10-30 13:49:21 · answer #9 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong to ask. However he may have enough respect for women in general not to go into detail for you. I know I couldn't do that for anyone I had any respect for. It's a tough one and he may feel that he would like to respond but obligated not to.
2006-10-30 13:52:07 · answer #10 · answered by dano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋