I am 21 and have been with my boyfriend for eight months now and I do love him. Recently I have had a crush on another guy I met at work. I have been thinking about him alot and can't get him off my mind. He says he has an intrest in me, but he has a girlfriend as well. Is this normal? Does this mean my love for my boyfriend is not real?
2006-10-30 05:45:03 · 9 answers · asked by Dreamer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's hard to say. Give it alittle more time. If you have a good relationship with your boyfriend now, don't throw it away. That's my advice.
2006-10-30 05:47:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not necessarily. it probably means that you are in a familiar situation and something new has come along and sparked your interest. its like having a good cell phone and then a new model comes along. yeah, you'll be interested, but if there's nothing wrong with the old one, then you're wasting money. now, first off, even if u left ur guy for him, what about the girlfriend? would he do the same? u got a crush on the new guy, but you really don't even know him. my advice to you is to see if you are really happy with your boyfriend and are willing to throw away something good for something you have no idea how its going to turn out. also, to leave this new guy alone. you have a boyfriend and even though its not as exciting as when you first got together, you have established something real and he hasn't done anything to deserve you dropping him for a stranger. i almost did this when a new guy started at my job and i even thought about leaving my boyfriend for him because we were having problems, but some stuff happened and i realized he was nothing but a dog and i was lucky i didn't lose what i had for someone that turned out to be a fake and a complete liar. so please don't be a fool. you're infatuated with your crush, but like all crushes, they fade away when you don't entertain them.
2006-10-30 13:55:10 · answer #2 · answered by melanie c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure it's normal - especially at 21. It doesn't mean your love is not real -it probably means that you are not ready to settle down yet with one guy. However if the other guy has a g/f already be careful - you could be walking into a hornets nest. You could also ask yourself if he is "interested" while he has a girlfriend what would happen if you were to become his girlfriend??
Take it slowly....Good luck!
2006-10-30 13:51:07 · answer #3 · answered by seamust 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is perfectly normal. Relationships can get routine, and a little innocent flirting or fantasizing is just fine, as long as it doen't go any further. If you are having problems with your boyfriend, talk to him about it. Open communication is the only way to go.
2006-10-30 13:48:28 · answer #4 · answered by msteachernj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will always find or see others that you are attracted to. Its all in how you react to the attraction both of you are in a relationship so just chalk it up to you being attracted to someone. I see no reason to hurt others by cheating.
2006-10-30 13:48:22 · answer #5 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it's just flattering when another guy pays attention to us but if i were you i wouldn't pursue it for the fect that he also has a girlfriend and maybe he's just a cheater.
2006-10-30 13:47:57 · answer #6 · answered by juicy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have doubts its not the right guy
just my opinion though
2006-10-30 13:49:21 · answer #7 · answered by attila 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess but does ur bf like u as much as u like him ?
2006-10-30 13:47:12 · answer #8 · answered by ♥angelbaby♥ 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you have to ask..prolly not
2006-10-30 13:47:24 · answer #9 · answered by cjordan23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋