dont get me wrong i love then all but they need to stop they are getting to old to handle them and it seems like the two kids they have right now are MINE but they arent i feel like the mom and i am not even a mom yet what do i do
2006-10-30 05:29:53 · 7 answers · asked by *MiSsInG hIm* 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Maybe mom and dad fear growing old! Or maybe it's just that they need to feel needed. As parents grow older, and the kids move out of the house, they sometimes feel they have no purpose. Mom's and dad's want to be needed and even if they say they don't, deep inside the desire to feel wanted and needed takes over. If they have someone who depends on them, such as a child, that gives them reason for going on.
Alot of parents as they grow older, the children seem to pull away as they mature. Whereas leaves the parents with no real reason for existing( in their own mind), and therefore they begin to degenerate and lose what since of meaning they have in life.
The only advice I can give on this is to stand beside what ever decisions they make. Affirm that you love them, and let them know you still need them. Maybe just ask advice about something even if you already know the answer. It makes them feel that they still have a purpose, even if it is minimal!
2006-10-30 05:41:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There really isn't much you can do, Other than maybe talking to them? And letting them know how you feel? But ultimately it's their choice as to whether they adopt more children or not.
My parents have done the same thing, Only they adopted all of their children when they were a bit younger, The only 'problem' is, Most of the children that are still living @ their house, Are handicapped in one way or another, And my parents aren't capable of dealing with it as well as they were when they first adopted them, That, And the kids are A LOT bigger now...
Maybe you can explain to them that you feel like what is to be mainly THEIR responsibility, is becoming yours??
2006-10-30 05:34:27 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its a very good thing your parents are doing, and since u don't have any kids yet im assuming that your parents aren't that old. if u think your parents are too old to handle the kids then i guess when u do have kids don't bother letting your parents have them for the weekend or anything right. they must love what they are doing and u are being selfish for not wanting them to do it. help them don't try to stop them
2006-10-30 05:39:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well this might be mean, but you could always refuse to babysit (if you don't live at home yourself). This would give them a reason to rethink what they are doing with the adopting kids. Good luck, I do hope your parents consider what they are doing.
2006-10-30 05:38:50 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk to your parents and let them know you will not be helping out anymore. They must be wonderful ppl to bring children into their home.
2006-10-30 05:36:37 · answer #5 · answered by KRH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible to return the kids? or get somebody else to adopt the kids...
2006-10-30 05:38:52 · answer #6 · answered by Girl in The World 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
There isn't really anything you can do about it.
2006-10-30 05:32:41 · answer #7 · answered by Miriam Z 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋