My very best friend recently left for deployment a couple of weeks ago. We are so close, we're like family. I've heard a lot of people say that when you have someone over there, it's best to not watch the news. Is this true? Also, I have formed the habit of checking the CNN list of casualties....I know this can't be healthy to look at everyday. What's the best way to avoid thinking about it?
2006-10-30 05:20:31 · 12 answers · asked by LibraT 4 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
i am a navy veteran, i am married to an active duty service member, for almost 6 years now...he is gone most of the year and sometimes i dont hear from him for weeks...it sucks because you sit there and wonder if they have been hurt or even killed...
i try not to watch CNN as much as i used to...it will keep you up at night when you hear that a unit in Iraq was attacked and everyone was killed...
the only real thing to do is just go on with your everyday life, i know its almost impossible to not think about it, but you need to try to keep your mind off of it a little....there has been times where i have worried myself so much, that my hair started to fall out.
all you can really do anymore is hope that everyone comes home safely...
2006-10-30 08:48:02 · answer #1 · answered by sherichance79 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How will you know what your friend is facing daily unless you actually watch the news. Better yet maybe use the Internet as your source and choose the least negative source. Write as often as possible (email or letters or both) and with returns come reassurance. Send care packages and STOP checking the casualty list. You will know personally through mutual friends or family before you read it on the Internet.
2006-10-30 06:07:42 · answer #2 · answered by Nob ody 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is probably best to avoid the news. They only tell you half the story anyway. The news won't tell you what a difference our troops are making in Iraq, they will only give you a daily death count. That is not good news for anyone. My brother is over there right now, and my husband was there last year. Find another activity to keep you mind off of it.
2006-10-30 06:13:29 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Watching the news is probably the worst thing to do. I know it is hard, my husband is over there. You just have to keep yourself busy doing other things, and pray that he is ok. Should anything happen, the family would be notified before his name will show up on a casualty list.
2006-10-31 12:01:16 · answer #4 · answered by Flyers girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex/father of my child served in Iraq for a year. I did not watch the news and we had more contact with him than I though we would, which was good for our daughter. My daughter was able to communicate with him through e-mail and instant messenger. I will still never forget hearing on the radio that his unit was the convoy that got hit on Good Friday a few years ago. He was fine and I am sure your friend will be too. My advice is to not watch the news and keep in contact as much as possible with your friend via the internet.
2006-10-30 05:28:08 · answer #5 · answered by Softball Mom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I read the list of casualites probably monthly. Mainly to read the names and honor them kind of. IF that makes any sense.
Yes, it's best not to listen too much to the news. It can tend to freak you out a little - esp when there is a casualty and you expect to hear a knock at your door.
Happened once to me actually. Scared the crap out of me. My hubby was deployed and there was a knock at my door with men in dress uniform. But they were only wanting to ask about my former neighbor for security clearance info.
2006-10-30 05:37:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
With the news media the way it is there is no way you can not hear about it we had a son in IRAQ for a year and a half and got to where we listened when they mentioned the branch of service he was in But WORRY you will you can't help it Just pray that he will come home safe AND BY THE WAY THANK HIM FOR ME
2006-10-30 05:32:23 · answer #7 · answered by Jack C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Libra - avoid the news.
It's OK for you to be missing your friends presence in your life. Your friend probably isn't even in Iraq or Afganistan yet. It takes up to a month for them to get fully trained up.
You don't have to stop thinking about it, but dwelling on it is another.
Make yourself a deal, until someone calls you and tells you something has happened, your friend is fine. If you don't, you'll drive yourself nuts.
You can shoot me an email if you like and we can talk about it...
2006-10-30 05:31:43 · answer #8 · answered by Miss Vicki 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend is over there and i would say if you can stand the not knowing if they are hurt or have been killed . I watch sometimes but most of the time i do not , he has all most died over there he a major in the Army so do not keep up with the news, my heart can not take not knowing if it is him.
2006-10-30 06:12:16 · answer #9 · answered by Krissy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My "boyfriend" was in Iraq, and he told me not to watch the news. So I didn't. I didn't ask questions about it either, I just listened. And I also knew that it would only scare me if I did watch. So I didn't, and he returned safely!
2006-10-30 05:29:08 · answer #10 · answered by Coulson #14 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋