If u felt someone was 'the one' for u, even though u split up, n looks unlikely to get back together, is it possible to get over that person, and fall in love again? Or do u think u should fight for what u want, even if it means u making a constant fool of urself?..thanx
2006-10-30 04:51:59 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
People lose and find someone every day. You will too.
2006-10-30 04:54:59 · answer #1 · answered by Joe 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I can't speak for others and my situation is not quite like yours, but here it is.
I found "the one" about 5 years ago. We spent 3 years together, and she passed away. It's been two year since August. I haven't been able to get serious with anyone at all, and my datings with people don't usually last for more than 1-2 months now.
I've tried to just go for the gold all at once, open up give someone a chance, and I've even slept around a bit recently, NOTHING helps. I'm just not the same person. I used to joke a whole lot and laugh just as much. Not now.
Which doesn't mean that I don't believe it may never happen again. Just that I think it's terribly hard for it to occur twice.
Now I don't mean to put anyone down, but ALL of my "true love" relationships when I was a teenager, in HS, in college, meant NOTHING compared to her. It was all me trying to find love, sharing brief moments of mututal delusion that we were in love, I never understood, until her. Now, I may never have a chance again. Good luck to you as well, if you know what I'm talking about, you know that it's one in million once, let alone twice.
Then again, didn't some lady in NY just hit the lottery twice? Anything is possible...
2006-10-30 05:02:38 · answer #2 · answered by MisterO 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's possible to fall in love again because the one you thought was "the one" obviously wasn't, otherwise you'd be together. When we're young, we meet a number of people we think are "the one" but they are just stepping stones on the path to true, deep love.
Yes, it's possible to get over the other person. It takes time, and it takes you making an effort to divert you thoughts of him/her to other things.
No, you shouldn't fight for what you want. You can't force or bully someone into loving you.
No, making a constant fool out of yourself is not good. It will only lower your self-esteem and make you dislike yourself, and if you're suffering a break-up, you need to do things that make you feel more confident and stable, rather than foolish.
Take care of yourself, don't fight, and understand that the "one" is still waiting for you. This wasn't meant to be.
2006-10-30 04:59:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look around you and in celebrity magazines. Some people marry more times than I have fingers, and each is "supposed" to be the "right one", - AT THAT TIME! A lot of people fall in, out of love, like a race car on a track, "around and round we go!" So, sure you can fall in love again. Fighting for a certain persons love, that you tried to do before, and seem to have lost, is probably not worth any additional efforts on your part. Your expending energy you can use toward your next "Only One!" They say a "fool" is born every moment, don't be one of them! Hold you head high and go searching and soon you will forget this "other".
2006-10-30 05:05:52 · answer #4 · answered by doowoprobert 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah you can because once u get out there again and start dating u think back and realize there were alot of things that make you see that "the one" really might not have been. Its hard to move on but in some cases its better to. I've had to do it and it hurts but I've got a great husband and a little girl now and I couldn't be happier. And that will ahppen for u too you just have to give it some time and try letting love come to you. Some times its right under ur nose and you dont see it until you stop looking and try letting it come to u.things will brighten up i promise.
2006-10-30 04:57:42 · answer #5 · answered by le_le_06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey , even i m in similar condition. but i m slowly forming some opinion. the thing is that nobody cannot be 'the one' if they hurt and leave you suffering. 'the one' is special,caring and compatible to you
i broke up with this girl, and my efforts to reform the friendship was turned down, and to this date she has not accepted her fault in the break up, so i dont go about asking her again. it was once and not after that. And i see, that i did the right thing coz recently i found that she still is the same egoistic person AND THAT SHE HATES ME, AND IS NOT AT ALL GUILTY
BUT THEN THERE ARE SO MANY OF THEM IN THIS WORLD.
LIKE , UR ATTENTION WAS DIVERTED TOWARDS THIS PERSON AND U LOST UR SLEEP AND CONCENTRATION, THERE WILL BE MORE LIKE HIM/HER WHO WILL DIVERT UR ATTENTION FROM THIS OLD bad RELATIONSHIP. U WILL ONLY HAVE FAINT MEMORIES OF THAT PERSON AFTER BEING SOME TIME WITH UR NEW LOVE AND WILL FEEL MORE HAPPY AND CONTENTED WITH HIM. U WOULD ALSO LOVE BETTER. EVERYTHING ELSE WILL BECOME JUST PAST INCIDENTS.
THIS MIGHT TAKE TIME. U HAVE TO ENGAGE URSELF CONSTRUCTIVELY AND CREATIVELY AND SHOULD AVOID GETTING INTO UNNECESSARY COMPLICATIONS
2006-10-30 05:25:06 · answer #6 · answered by metallixan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's possible to fall in love again, I broke up with my kids dad about 7 years ago and I never thought I would get over him because I was so much in love and I felt like I had been hurt so bad. I couldn't imagine my life without him. But I finally got over him and life is easier now, it just takes some time. If he's not loving you back then I think it's worthless to keep trying and getting hurt. Because you can't make anyone love you, you're just making it harder on yourself than it has to be.
2006-10-30 04:58:23 · answer #7 · answered by Mickey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you should fight for what you want but if the other person doesn't feel the same way at all then you should move on with your life. I think that if he was really the one you should be happy that you at least shared part of your life with him...He will always have a special part in your heart and you'll never forget him, but that doesn't mean that you won't be able to learn how to love another guy.
2006-10-30 05:03:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't get to the stage of trying too hard to win him back,being humiliated,rejected and getting hopeful again. Once you have realised he is no more in your life, you can and will, want to put your trust in someone else. I think you will accept that he was not the one when you feel the love in your new relationship. Don't compare though just come to the point where you can say the past is history and leave it behind with memories but no regrets.Cheer up all will be well.XX
2006-10-30 05:02:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You wouldn't want someone that does not want you. You should move on, you will soon think less and less about her when someone else comes into your life. I feel that we don't always get over the person as much as think of them in a different way. There are all types of love. Garth Brooks has a song called "Unanswered Prayers". You should listen to it some time. Best of luck to you I hope you find happiness with a wonderful woman.
2006-10-30 04:58:54 · answer #10 · answered by june clever 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have never moved on from breaking up with "the one" when I was a sophmore in college. I have gotten married, had children, but my heart is spoken for. Do I regret having married someone else/having children? Yes and no. I do wish I had at least stayed in touch with the old boyfriend because maybe we would have gotten back together. But I have had a great life, great kids, great career, etc. Who knows if I would have had all of this with him? Sometimes your heart is not rational. Look, I would say to you that you should try and stay in touch with this person as casual friends, live your life, and be optimistic. This leaves your options open and who knows.
2006-10-30 04:58:24 · answer #11 · answered by I'm Trying 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋