if a girl is happy in her new relationship . . would she still be calling her ex that she dumped for this new guy every couple weeks? . . .even though he hasnt answered or sent her something back in 4 months? and she still tries to contact him . . also . . can girls act completely happy on the outside and really be torn up on the inside? is there any way to tell if a girl is feeling like that? . . and if she wanted her ex back why would she still be with me and acting fine? why wouldnt she go back to him? maybe because she dumped him and doesnt know if he will take her back? they did go out for 2 1/2 years so i dunno . .. whats goin on?
and she hasnt told me that shes been calling him . . . and we have been dating since april and have been in an actual relationship for like 2 months . . . how long would she use me as a rebound if thats what i am? wouldnt it be over by now? it been about a month since she called him now since she was calling him. . . so maybe she will stop . . .
then just today she sent an email to him . . . it was this
hey! i just wanted to tell you that i hope you had a good birthday. i was going to call but i figured you wouldnt answer like usual or stop by and give you a card but you would have probably acted like you werent home lol. so i hope you had a good one. it would really mean a lot if you just sent something back lettin me know how ya were doin and stuff...i'de really appreciate it (name)! kayyy bye. . .
so if he hasnt responded to her since june why is she still trying to get ahold of him . . . when he hasnt responded since june?
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and then she just sent this message to him today
"look i know that you are getting my messages...i really just dont understand why you cant even say hi or something?? can you honestly please just give me a reason, like if it still upsets you or something, i mean thats fine. i just figured you could atleast do that for me...so please?"
2006-10-30 04:44:11 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
her heart is with him, not with you. you are not the one for her. she is on the rebound and the rebound person always gets the shaft. no she is not happy, even if she dating you. why be there if she isnt really there for you. you deserve better, someone who will give you all of them self and not part of them self. unless you like drama, then stay where you are.
2006-10-30 05:00:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alright, she's what you call "very greedy". She is only thinking of her feelings, no one else's obviously. First of all, you dont' need to put up with that! WHy are you doing that? Second of all, it's her ex! She shouldn't be contacting him anyways.....she dumped him. He has moved on and she can't stand it. She wants attention from him. Just to have the satisfaction that he's still 'in love' or 'talking' to her. I say you need to RUN from her. You can't be serious! How will you ever trust her? You can't tell me that her trying to contact her ex all the time makes you happy? HE is over HER! She may be over him, but still wanting attention from him. I don't think she's a very loyal/trustworthy person if you ask me.
2006-10-30 04:53:54 · answer #2 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I know what's going on cause I've been through this before! She is contacting her ex cause they were together for SO long. She isnt quite comfortable in a new relationship. It doesnt mean she doesnt love you or any of that. She's used to being with him and now she's not so its messing with her emotions. You need to confront her and tell her that you know she's talking to him and it hurts you. Tell her that you dont mean to be a control freak or anything but she needs to stop. Tell her that its just hurting her, trying to contact him. Tell her that you love her and you're there for her. Tell her that if she ever needs to vent about her past relationships or her current feelings, she can talk to you. Maybe you should start out by talking about your past and say "has that ever happened to you?" Get her talking and feeling like she can trust you. Be calm and hug her lots. Tell her that she shouldnt be upset that he wont talk to her cause she doesnt need a jerk like that anyway!
2006-10-30 04:52:13 · answer #3 · answered by katie-bug 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has not closed the door on the last relationship. You can bet she'll email you as well if you two break up. She has an issue with letting go. In my opinion you should cool it with her so you don't get hurt. And you will. Tell her you want her to deal with her past issues w/her ex and if you really want a relationship with her step back for a bit and wait and see.
2006-10-30 04:50:42 · answer #4 · answered by areyoukidding 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's obviously still hung up on him or thinks she is. Some people want what they can't have. BTW, quit torturing yourself by reading her emails. Tell her you're dropping her so she can spend more time emailing her ex. (Maybe he has blocked her) Then try to find someone else or just take a break from love for awhile.
2006-10-30 04:51:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she could be confused. She might wonder if she did the right thing when she dumped him or she might just like the idea that two men want her even if she wants just you. The only way to tell what is going on is asking her straight up.
2006-10-30 04:50:59 · answer #6 · answered by Eileen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is having a hard time letting go and upset that he is not all broke up about it. I would just ask her up front what is going on and why she keeps trying to reach him. It is obvious that he is over it, but she is not.
2006-10-30 04:49:10 · answer #7 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We Ladies are very busy ask your question in 2 lines.
Sorry could not read your question which runs like a china wall.
2006-10-30 04:50:22 · answer #8 · answered by SKG R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only person who would know what is going on inside her head is HER. My suggestion is that you as HER what is going on.
2006-10-30 05:00:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh wow. she hasn't gotten over him yet. poor thing. she needs more time. or she's a nutcase. either one, leave this one alone. she still hasn't gotten a clue that her man has left her.
i been there.....so i can sympathize. it can take some time.
2006-10-30 04:50:58 · answer #10 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋