We were engaged for about a month, met online about 2 months before hand. It still hurts, will for a while, but I was asked out last night by a good friend of mine....
2006-10-30 04:38:31 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just so you all know...we met online..we hung out after that in person. So it wasn't just an online relationship
2006-10-30 04:44:26 · update #1
One more thing..I never kissed, or did anything sexual with my ex-fiance..just clearing that up..we were going to have our first kiss at the alter.
2006-10-30 09:18:38 · update #2
It is never too early.
Remember, he is going to find someone, marry her, and make her pregnant. Do you really want to be alone while he gets to be happy?
2006-10-30 04:45:39 · answer #1 · answered by me8md 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Angel,
We are all very simple yet very complex and complicated individuals.
The answer to your question can be found in your question.
First, you are in a state of greiving. It is important that you allow yourself to progress through each phase.
Second, take the time to get to know yourself. Take a Personality/Temperament Assessment, think about who you truly are and what you truly want in every area of your life.
Third, make a list of your personal and professional wants and needs and think about the safest and most productive way of fulfilling these needs. Be sure to ask your closet and most respected friends and relatives their opinion. If possible consult a reputible counselor or therapist.
Fourth, read the book - "Women Who Love Too Much". The reasons for doing this will become evident as you read.
Fifth, start keeping a daily journal. Tell your journal every thing you would tell God if you could see Him and talk to Him face-to-face. In other words reveal all of your wants, needs, hopes, desires, failures, succeses, etc. to your journal. You will be amazed at how well you get to know yourself. Be sure to write in your journal every day and never, ever allow any one else to read it.
Sixth, the most important thing here is to give yourself time, time to recover from what you are suffering and time to get to know yourself and what you really want. If you do these things you will be better equiped to make decisions that will help you instead of hurt you.
If you have any questions or would like to discuss this in more detail, please do not hessitate to contact me.
Dr. Brown
2006-10-30 04:59:15 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. Rick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go for it and try dating a while. 2 months isn't long to date before getting engaged. Especially when you just met and it was on the internet. You should get to know someone first. I say date and have fun!!!!
2006-10-30 04:41:08 · answer #3 · answered by Ask Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever you are ready to start dating again is when you are ready. There is no time limit on these things. I think you moved too quickly on this only knowing each other for 3 months. It takes that long to see if you can even stand each other enough to even consider being a couple never mind getting married. Slow down next time.
2006-10-30 04:42:45 · answer #4 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you should never been engaged to begin with.
I can hardly believe that a guy would ask you to marry him after 2 months, especially if a portion of that time was online stuff unless you told him you would have sex only if he would marry you.
Take a year before you consider marriage proposals, wait at least 6 months of regular "in person" dating before sex.
2006-10-30 08:52:43 · answer #5 · answered by bikeworks 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There used to be a set time by people's moral standards & way of thinking....but who cares now?? When the time is right for U!!! Go out with your good friend and have fun!! It will get U over the other guy too maybe.
2006-10-30 04:42:40 · answer #6 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should start dating again as soon as you get an invitation that you want to accept. If you want to go out with your friend, then go ahead and I hope you have a great time.
2006-10-30 04:43:15 · answer #7 · answered by Tallulah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out. You'll feel better if you do. You really weren't engaged that long so I wouldn't worry about it being too soon. Have fun and get over him!
2006-10-30 04:41:09 · answer #8 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a short engagement, start dating now if you like~
2006-10-30 04:48:19 · answer #9 · answered by Bubbles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on if your looking for another serious relationship. but the best thing to do when you get dumped is to have fun and remember your single again and can start flirting and having fun again. as of how long you should wait is up to you. best if you do it when you feel ready.
2006-10-30 04:43:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋