I've been seeing someone on and off for a year and now the dynamics are changing. How can both people be satisifed without one feeling cheated and the other feeling pressured? Is it possible to go from a sexual relationship with expectations to a sexual relationship without expectations and to always maintain the objective of the relationship; which is to be friends no matter what? This is a tough one, I know; but one worth exploring. Relationships are never as simple as: Ask a question///get an answer. But, please try. Thanks.
2006-10-30 04:35:21 · 18 answers · asked by boo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, it is possible but only if both people are prepared to talk openly to each other and agree that neither wants anything more than friendship from that particular relationship
2006-10-30 04:37:07 · answer #1 · answered by the phoner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a few friends that I was once sexual with and remained friends after. It is hard though to draw that line of just sex with no exxpectaions. One person may feel differently than the other and expect more. If you both know that its just sex when its convenient for both then it may work. If you want to keep this person as a friend, you may have to stop the sex part altogether. You may feel odd if you meet someone new and want to introduce them to your Friend that you are also having sex with. Also if its sex feelings do get involved over time so one of you may end up feeling hurt and used and could end the friendship. So i would suggest that you decide which in more important, the sex or the friend.
2006-10-30 04:43:01 · answer #2 · answered by slickgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's possible -- as long as both agree on where things are or aren't going.
I was with a girl for 5 years, we were in fact engaged to be married. By mutual agreement, we broke off the engagement...we knew we'd drive each other crazy and that getting married would be a mistake (but the sex was great!). We stayed friends, though...I was an usher at her wedding, she's godparent to my 2 kids, and us two "couples" get together often and are all good friends. We've been friends now for 20 years, and that's the kind of thing you don't just toss away.
2006-10-30 04:41:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the maturity of both parties involved. To me if I emotionally involve myself in a sexual relationship it becomes difficult for me to not over time want more from it. If it doesn't happen then seperation allows me to get on and get over it. A friendship AT THAT TIME would not be possible. If we are good enough friends then over time it can happen. (This actually happened to me and we've been close ever since) I do not however feel you can continue to have sex with someone and just decide you aren't going to care for each other anymore but still keep doing i
2006-10-30 07:10:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. In fact, I think that men and women can be better friends after a sexual relationship than before. This assumes that when they were involved they always treated each other with respect.
"A woman can become a man's friend only in the following stages - first an acquaintance, next a mistress, and only then a friend."
──Anton Chekhov
2006-10-30 04:41:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been through both scenarios; unfortunately, the clear majority of breakups tend to not foster much goodwill toward maintaining any relationship at all, much less a friendship.
If things were any good between the two parties, they wouldn't be splitting up in the first place.
2006-10-30 04:39:26 · answer #6 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, men and women can remain friends after having a sexual relationship
2006-10-30 04:41:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U both made you realationship complicated by the way you started. If you started with no expectations it may have been easier to go forward but since you started out with them then you both will always remember the past expectaitons. Now it will be virtually impossible to just be friends. Good Luck.
2006-10-30 04:41:28 · answer #8 · answered by From the "ATL"! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is possible to maintain a friendship after having sex, you just have to have that agreement that, that's all it's gonna be. If you both agree to it and learn to maintain yourselves friends can work through anything it may take a little time but it can be done.
2006-10-30 04:43:12 · answer #9 · answered by Mickey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what you're going through right now is lame. How can you think of yourself when other people don't even get to experience that kind of "love?" I know you're sensitive right now and confused but who isn't? Your relationship with the person is as deep as you make or un-make it. Keep everything honest and I know it will turn out for the best. Until then, please don't post such questions, they make me and my nonexistent boyfriend really upset.
2006-10-30 04:53:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋