Colleague At Work Asked If I Had A Girlfriend?

Question

I’ve just recently started a new job; the team I work in consists of me and three other people. We all get on well, there’s one girl who’s three years older then me, and during one conversation regarding another co-workers marriage, she asked me if I had a girlfriend (which was totally from nowhere, and was directed to me whilst other colleagues were still talking to each other, so no one apart from me actually heard what she said). Me being rather shy, I just said “no” and laughed it off, she then apologised and said she shouldn’t of asked (considering we don’t even no each other that well at all).

Now, I’m just wondering if this in fact means anything. Because I do really like this girl, but I’m not sure if I should flirt with her, or should I enquire why she asked me that question? I would just like to know people’s thought’s, it probably might not have meant anything at all LOL.

Answer 1

It probably just came up in conversation. I don't think it means anything.

Answer 2

don;t ask her. that would be so embarrassing if she did not mean anythign by it. Most likely she asked because she was just making conversation. But since you like her, why don't you just give it a little time and see if you get any vibes from her. But by the sound of it I think it was probably an innocent question.
One more thing. do you really want a office relationship... things can be tricky. .. also some companies don't allow for that to happen

Answer 3

In what context did she ask you? She might have just been asking to be asking... when you meet someone new, it's a fairly common question, once you've spoken with them for a bit. If she said it in a flirty way, she could be interested in you. Definitely don't ask her why she asked you that.. lol.. that would be an awkward question for her to answer. I think if you like her as well, just keep getting to know her in a friendly way. Maybe it will lead somewhere, although remember, you don't want any annoying "love" drama at work.. especially if it's a new job you just started!

Answer 4

it sounds like she asked that question for a reason. if you really want to know ask her to go to lunch or have breakfast with ya. dont make it out as a date but just a friendly invitation. then when your aloneask her some low keyed personal questions, like are you involved with any one or what she does when she is not at the office. then find something that both interest you both and do it together.
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Answer 5

She is your co worker don't flirt, and it could have just been a innocent question so don't worry to much about it. But don't get mixed up with a girl you work with

Answer 6

You can always just ask her why she asked, but you might want to be careful in the work place because you can get fired if she doesn't she can say she felt uncomfortable and jobs usually are about their employees feeling comfortable expecully girls can get away with that easier. good luck =}

Answer 7

Hmmmm. So far no one has pointed out that this is the same approach if your co-workers think you're gay. Just a thought.

Answer 8

It was just a question. Dont read so much into it. They dont know you and maybe this was just her way of getting to know you and getting you to open up.

Answer 9

They say,when a boy is born it ia a problem for the parents.
when a girl is born it is a problem for all.
Why are you reading between lines.
Are you sick.
Do not get near that Girl.
Mind your work,work hard.earn & a good name.

Answer 10

I would say she likes you and saw an opportunity to ask.