I have been dating this woman about once a week for the past couple of months and we talk on the phone almost daily. First of all, when I do I know when the right time to pose the question of being boyfriend/girlfriend and that being said ....how is the best way to ask the question to her.
I am going to a football game tonight with her, but it just doesn't seem like it would be the place to have the talk, nor would be if we meet up and drive from there etc and doing it before or after being she may be dropping me off at my car etc....I was thinking more along the lines of the next time we get together or if anyone has an idea how I could approach it tonight....but mainly how do I ask the question being we are adults in our 30's?
2006-10-30 04:11:44 · 5 answers · asked by chewey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tonight might be a bad time, but the way to do it is to ask if she's seeing anyone else. If she is, change the subject (unless you've thought that answer through and know what to do). If she isn't, let her know that you aren't either, and how much you like/love her and that you don't want anyone else, and hope she says the same back to you.
Most women your age look for committment after a couple months, so if she is standoffish when it comes up you need to evaluate whether you can stay in a relationship that isn't exclusive. You can try to pin her down, but this probably won't work.
BTW--if you haven't had sex with her yet, blkdawg is right--you won't be her boyfriend, you are already her girlfriend. You have to see other people and stay her friend--you may never have a chance with her, but seeing other people and having her see you with other women will be your only chance to change this and get her to see you as a man, and a man she wants.
2006-10-30 04:18:30 · answer #1 · answered by wayfaroutthere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i might say they're 2 multiple issues. there are various first dates the place human beings do no longer click and don't see one yet another returned. i think of boyfriend/lady buddy shows extra of a committment to proceed the relationship.
2016-12-08 23:50:55 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're in your 30s and you have to ask this question. I swear I thought you were a teenager when I first read this question. Come on, you already know if you have to "ask" to be her boyfriend, you're not there yet. Let things take their natural course and enjoy the journey. If it's meant to be, it's meant to be. Period.
2006-10-30 04:19:59 · answer #3 · answered by wineboy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, it sounds like your pretty exclusive now, just come out and tell her, that you really like her, and you would like to be exclusive with her, put the ball in her court, older people rarely, ask people to be there girlfriends, you'll now if she is or not, just spend all the time you have with her
2006-10-30 04:20:49 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude you are gril friend now
2006-10-30 04:15:20 · answer #5 · answered by Blackdog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋