i need help in trying to talk to my father whom i haven't talked to in years he lives about 100 miles from me i need to resolve some issues with him he disowned me in 1992, he wouldn't talk to me cause of his wife now exwife, but he has a new 3rd wife now and i would love to talk to hime can anyone give some very good advice in this matter. He has always stuck close to my other brother whom im not close to either. My grandfather died in 2000 and i saw him as a father but my father won't be a father to me and these are the times that i really need him. I don't even have his home phone # or addy. His wife now has girls and they treat him like he is a piece of dirt but won't have nothing to do with his own daughter that won't treat him like they do course they are alot younger than me too, there only teens.
2006-10-30 04:08:46 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
talk to your father it is hard because of the years but do it because life is to short and you need to know him and he need to know you
2006-10-30 04:17:06 · answer #1 · answered by Summer G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you go and talk to your Dad - you should go with an open-mind and approach him as a friend and never bring up anything from the past. He has never been a Dad to you - so you should just try to be friends with him. If you plan on going to him and bringing up all sorts of stuff from the past - You can rest assure your Dad will probably not want anything to do with you. Be an adult and just be your Dad's friend. Father Daughter relationship will fall in place after you have known him awhile.
2006-10-30 12:34:04 · answer #2 · answered by dally d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see where you are frustrated with the sistualtion I can simpithise my oun father refused to come to my wedding because his wife told him that he couldn't go because I didnt put her name on the invite(Ihave no relationship with this woman) anyway its hard, but if you think that this new wife would be willing to let you have a realationship then go for it. you can use peoplefinder.com to try and find his phone number. it will probably be weird at first but you will get through it. Good luck
2006-10-30 12:15:11 · answer #3 · answered by JOJO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think now is a perfect time and you should just be real with him. Honestly I think that is best. I think if you don't then somewhere down the line you will regret it and it might cost too much in therapy.
2006-10-30 12:36:58 · answer #4 · answered by Brandi H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you decide to talk to him I think you should just be honest and tell him how you feel. Tell him that life is to short to continue on this way. Tell him that you miss having a father in your life.
2006-10-30 12:11:58 · answer #5 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want to talk to you then just let him wallow in his solitude. He's probably making you out to be a personification of all that he failed at in life... don't take it too personally.
If you push him you might just end up getting more hurt.
2006-10-30 12:17:54 · answer #6 · answered by meilin h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a long time!
Just contact him, and tell him what you are saying here.
Ask if he's going to let his THIRD wife run his life again.
say, 'either you want me in your life, or you dont, do let me know'
2006-10-30 12:19:38 · answer #7 · answered by Jas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one. You have to do what's best for you and if it doesn't work well at least you put forth the effort. Best of luck.
2006-10-30 12:16:27 · answer #8 · answered by Monty L 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your dad is very selfish to treat you the way he does. Put him in your past the way he has put you in his past. This is not always easy but we each need to go on living our own lives!
2006-10-30 12:13:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was 4 yrs. old when my dad left.... he came back
when I was 14yrs.. old...... gave him a chance..... he
stayed 5 yrs...... left again...... has never saw his
grand children..... there 20 and 17yrs. old. now.... It's
his lose.... he is still living.... he calls my older sister
every thanksgiving to let her know he's alive.......
but ya know....... I don't even ask about him anymore.......
2006-10-30 22:35:35 · answer #10 · answered by jojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋