this is a true and real question. This morning my gf called me and said she got raped last night. She wasnt crying and was talking ok. She said that wade, a friend of hers, went over to her appartment, where her and her girl friend was. She said that wade was drunk and when he got there that he pined her down and kissed her. Then she said that he got into her bed and got naked. She told me that she had though that he had passed out and she went into her bed to go to sleep and he got on top of her and proceeded to rape her. Mind you her girl friend was in the other room and didnt hear anything. She said she told him no but he wouldnt listen. When he took the condom off she told him "your not f-ing me without a condom" and he continued to try. She got up apparently later and he got up and left. This doesnt seem logical to me at all. Does this sound like a girl who was really raped? Or is she trying to make it seem like she was when she really just slept with another guy.
2006-10-30 04:00:11 · 34 answers · asked by john 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she did not call the police or said she is going to file charges
2006-10-30 04:06:47 · update #1
she said that he put the condom on before she got into bed, she didnt sound shocked at all when she told me, she even laughed at something then acted real serious this morning. I had to bail from work im such a wreak
2006-10-30 04:11:11 · update #2
Get a police report~
2006-10-30 04:02:29 · answer #1 · answered by Bubbles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She banged another guy willingly and made up this story. The minute he pinned her down, climbed on top of her and tried to kiss her, she should have either alerted her friend or left the house completely. Pinning a woman down would indicate that it was against her will but she hung around there? She couldn't leave or something? And then the guy got naked and got into bed and she got into bed with him because she thought he was passed out? What, there was only one room in this house. and then the basically told the guy, "well OK, but you have to use a condom"??? Instructing him to use a condom is almost like giving consent. Rape? I dunno. If it's rape insist that she go to the cops. If she doesn't want to file charges, I'd be suspicious. Ask the other girl there what REALLY went on. I mean we're talking RAPE. Her story sounds phony.
2006-10-30 04:07:33 · answer #2 · answered by bodinibold 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sad part is, with women who were raped, they don't seem to have any emotion at all when they talk about it. She needs to go to the doctor, and you need to go with her. Forget about IF she was raped or not for now. The doctor can tell you if there are any signs of forced sex. If there aren't, ask her to tell you again what happened. Don't accuse her. Just listen carefully to what she's saying. Think like this, if she WAS raped, you'll seem like a jerk if you accuse her. If you ask her to tell you again, you care. BTW, when you ask don't use a tone other than emphatic. If you sound like you are accusing, that's just as bad. Put your arm around her if she'll let you, and ask her in a sincere I'm sorry voice. If she adds something or misses something keep the same tone, but ask her why she didn't say that before or tell her you thought she said this before. If she stammers, or says umm a lot, she's lying. I just feel if a story changes, she's covering something up. So far though, it could go either way.
2006-10-30 04:13:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exactly how and when did he have the chance to put on a condom when he was suppose to be asleep and why would she not notice? Also why would she go to sleep in that bed knowing he was naked in it? Its a Con. She did something that she probably regrets and is trying to cover it up. If she was raped then did she turn him in to the police? She doesn't act shell shocked about the rape? I hate to not believe someone when they say they were raped but this one is hard to believe. If she is lying she wouldn't be someone you should want to have around. Sounds a little unstable to me to use the rape card.
2006-10-30 04:07:56 · answer #4 · answered by smile4u 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go talk to her and listen to what she is saying! only you know best here about your girlfriend.
i don't know how people think a rape only happened if the rape survivor files a report!
if she was raped, do you think she wants it publicized and have a painful and embarrassing rape exam done on her at a hospital??
people react differently to trauma, especially a sexual trauma.
I'm not saying she couldn't possible be lying. she could be. but from the perspective of your relationship with her, do you think she is capable of lying to you like this. and to this magnitude??
rape is a serious charge. unfortunately, it usually comes down to one person's story against another's.
i really feel for you, for both of you.
Go over to her and talk with her. Find out what's going on. Only you know her well enough to determine when something is wrong with her.
If she was raped and chooses not to report, this is NOT a sign that she is lying. many people want to avoid the added stigma of being labeled stupid, easy or slutty. Many people who answered you have proved my point.
i never realized so may people were so uninformed about the psychological results of rape and how a police report could be another traumatic event for a person already violated.
2006-10-30 05:04:31 · answer #5 · answered by tutor t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That seems like a lie to me it sounds like she was doing it willing and really wanted to but she didn't want u to know that she really wanted it so she told u that she got raped but really she liked it and wanted it...I have been through this i have had ex-boyfriends tell me that they were drugged so the girl took advantage of them which i knew was a total lie bc the girl confessed and told me that he moved on her first and it was right after school in his car...I saw the whole thing i counldn't believe it...or the time i had this one guy say that she kissed him first and he pushed away but then my best friend saw everthing and he confessed later that he kissed back...see there are so many ways people lie and the way that u described her story it didn't sound like a rape if she took her clothes off she was willing and it's so possible for her to fall in love with one of her friends...and ur right it isn't logical at all it's a flat out lie!!! And if he was drunk wouldn't she tell him off or leave...this seems like she wanted a lil somethin...but don worry there are other people out there for u and it's not the end of the world it's her loss not ur's...well God Bless!!!
2006-10-30 04:14:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she does not call the police she is a dirty whore who is just trying to make an excuse for what happened.
Why would she get into bed with a naked guy who was not you?
She is a sad excuse of a woman and is the reason REAL rape victims don't get more sympathy.
2006-10-30 04:10:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay well speaking from experience your not always okay the next morning and why didn't she call you after he took off or go and get her girlfriend?........i mean if i were a guy and something like that happened to my girlfriend i would have wanted her to call me right away despite the hour and why would you climb into bed with someone who is drunk and isnt coherent?...........and in the process how did he have time to put a condom on if he had her pinned down?..........i sorry i really don't think she was actually raped
2006-10-30 04:08:52 · answer #8 · answered by mommabree04 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was really telling you the truth, it would be hard for her that you are not believing her.
But you doubting her means that she is capable of lying to you.
My bf will completely believe me cuz I'm not the girl who would even have a friend who would rape me, and if he did, I'll call the police right away.
Why won't you ask her if she would want to report to the police for a date rape attack? If she starts rejecting that, there might be something going on behind your back.
2006-10-30 04:06:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she did the wild thing, and now regrets it. She's gonna cause a world of trouble for this poor (dumbass) Wade guy. I feel for you, bro. That really sucks. I don't want to judge your girl, but by what you described, she is lying.
And so what? F-ing her with a condom would be ok? And she got into bed with a naked guy? hmmmm.
Sorry bub, I don't buy it either.
2006-10-30 04:06:24 · answer #10 · answered by MoMoney23 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no one knows for sure but those two. But my advice is to watch her words closely for a while. The odd part of the story here is that he raped her but then when he wanted to go again without the condom she managed to get away. I think she slept with him and wanted you to know but also didnt want you to be mad. She was trying to relieve her own guilt.
2006-10-30 04:09:32 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋