i love my girlfriend and honestly think she's the best i've ever had. she's beautiful and a lovely person, very compassionate and intelligent and funny. we've been together a year and a half.
i'm not perfect i know either but her main bad point is she does get jealous.
i have a best female friend i used to fancy but i dont' now mainly because she could never be trusted and goes after other girls boyfriends and sleeps around. we are just mates.
the problem is my girlfriend doesn't like her. she's not rude to her she's very friendly but i need a place to live and this girl has said i can have the spare room in her flat. my girlfriend says she feels very jealous about the idea of me living there with just her like that cos she doesn't trust the other girl.but it's a cheap flat adn i don't want to live with strangers.
should i move in or should my girlfriend be more understanding./?
2006-10-30 03:54:57 · 13 answers · asked by john d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
good luck
2006-10-30 03:58:30 · answer #1 · answered by Blackdog 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What's very cool here is that your gf is telling you how she honestly feels. She is probably worried that living with this girl will, some night, lead you to the path of least resistance (and it doesn't sound like there's much resistance from your potential roomy). So you get to pick your path here, which would you rather do....put some effort into finding another place to live where temptation is not so available? or can you be sure that living with this girl will not bring on complications/betrayals that you do not need in your life. If you love drama, you might go for #2, but in this case, I'd listen to my gf.
2006-10-30 12:05:01 · answer #2 · answered by Caper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have already given all the reasons why your girlfriend shouldn't want you to live there. Just think how you would feel if she moved in with an old b/f (or other guy she had a crush on). I think she's being understanding by being nice to her. I think it's asking a little much for her to be ok with you living with her.
2006-10-30 12:04:53 · answer #3 · answered by Jan S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't put yourself in the situation to make your girlfriend more jealous. I would probably be jealous in that situation myself. It's one thing to be friends with the girl, but to move in with her? Why don't you move in with your girlfriend? You two could split the cost of living. If not, find a male roommate. Living with a girl who sleeps around would not only look bad but cause problems. What if you come in drunk one night and she hits on you? Your inhibitions would be down and you would likely cheat on your girlfriend. I just don't personally see it as a good idea.
2006-10-30 11:58:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
why don't you and your girlfriend get a place together?
do you have some other friends you might be able to live with or get a place with?
i can understand where your girlfriend is coming from, it's a hard thing to deal with a thing like that. i think your girlfriend needs to be more understanding but that you also need to try harder to find somewhere else.
2006-10-30 11:59:31 · answer #5 · answered by princess-destiny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Given that this other girl has a "reputation" I would advise not to live with her. I can totally understand the concerns of your g/f. If you cherish the relationship with your g/f then don't do it. If saving money is more important to you then go ahead. You may lose your g/f but at least you have a plan B with this other girl.
2006-10-30 11:57:56 · answer #6 · answered by Wibble 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I can see your girlfriends point. I would be very uncomfortable with my boyfriend living with another woman. I think the best thing to do is to find somewhere else to live.
2006-10-30 11:57:29 · answer #7 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your girlfriend has legitimate concerns. If your ex sleep around there is no reason that you wouldn't sleep with you. You need to be more sensitive to your girlfriend's needs.
2006-10-30 12:06:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you f****** kidding me? NO you shouldn't move in with her. You should move in with your GF. The other girl is after you, probably just to prove that she can still have you and if you think anything differently you are just kidding yourself.
2006-10-30 12:04:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just don't know - I don't know how I'd feel if my boyfriend wanted to move in with a female friend. I'd like to think that I'd be okay with it, because I TOTALLY trust him...but if it came down to it - how would I react, I just don't know...
Put yourself in her shoes for a moment, how would you feel if she wanted to move in with a guy friend - would you be totally okay with it? Honestly??
2006-10-30 11:58:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't move in it will seriously ruin your relationship... you said it yourself that your ex goes after her girl friends guys .. so it could be a plan up her sleeve..
2006-10-30 12:00:16 · answer #11 · answered by jack jack 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋