I found out that my girl is going into a chatroom and in her profile says what she is looking for. She told me that she filled out a profile and when I asked her if she listed she was "Single" she said "Are we going to play Kids Games now"? I said "Just answer the question" she said "I don't check up on you". The funny thing is, she hasn't changed the profile as of yet after I asked her and a few friends of mine said "Dude, NOBODY is going to stay with her if they meet her, she's a *****". I don't know what to do. I feel like just leaving her alone now but my heart would be lost without her. What should I do? Any advice would help.
2006-10-30 03:53:37 · 30 answers · asked by Patrick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
create a new ID and a new profile with adifferent picture of a guy that look like someone she would like to chat with. then IM her and start talking to her, ask her where shes from and say somethign like "REALLY?" and then say you're from the next town to her or the same town. start chatting with her hitting on her and ask her if she has a webcam (if she does) and see what she does for you. then ask her to meet you, and then (AFTER SHE SHOWS UP) you show up there as him. the girl's not worth it, im telling you. you should get some revealing pictures of her or videos before you do this to be prepared.
2006-10-30 03:59:40 · answer #1 · answered by jextreme_22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had too many friends go through the same thing you're going through. I'll tell you what I told them. She doesn't deserve a guy like you. You deserve WAY better. If she wants to say she's single, why not let her profile tell the truth. Dump her. She obviously doesn't care how you feel about it. She's either planning on or already has cheated on you. She has no respect for you or herself. Find a girl who will treat you better, and don't even give this girl a second thought. I agree with your friends. Let her go and move on. Let her get out of your system before you try to find a girl who'll treat you better because in the end that relationship won't work either. Like I said, she obviously doesn't care about how you feel. Why should you care how she feels? I say get rid of her.
2006-10-30 12:01:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chatrooms are most of the time just that, chatrooms....
If shes going into those, maybe shes bored, or looking for lighthearted fun, no big deal......maybe......
If u guys have a good relationship other than that, just ignore this.
All depends on ur relationship with her, is it alive, boring,,,,what ,,,,u have to analyze it and then you will know if shes serious online or just playing kiddish games.
Its worth having a talk with her, at length. Tell her how much u care & that u dislike her portraying herself as single, its not kosher.
You will know by her reaction how much she cares about u, let her explain it.
If u love her so much, its worth a fight before leaving
Good luck!
2006-10-30 12:01:08 · answer #3 · answered by saltnsaffron 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let her know that if she doesnt change it, then you guys are over. Obviously, she doesnt care about how you feel about it, she is just looking to get with people online and talk to someone else behind your back. The fact that she mentioned "kids games" is stupid as hell. I know old people who still put married on their profile because they dont want people trying to talk to them and get with them. She obviously wants the attention of someone else.
You definitely dont need anyone like that around you. Now, I answered a question earlier this girl know that the taste of your own medicine is the best cure for a relationship.
So, what you need to do is make your own profile on the same site she did and put single and put what you are looking for in a female. See what she says. She will be pissed like hell. Believe me, the same thing happened with my bf and he changed that stuff so fast, it made my head spin. she will definitely change it if she saw your profile. And make it obvious too. Say...hey babe, come look at my new profile. You gotta be chilled about it too, like your not doing it on purpose. As her if she likes it and see what she says or how she acts.
2006-10-30 12:02:21 · answer #4 · answered by yagurlbubblez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you just don't want to be alone. Do yourself a favor and don't stay with the girl just because you want a girlfriend. Be more selective than that. If you don't believe you deserve better, you'll never have anything better. Face facts, it's not you who's playing games, it's her. It sounds like your friends are right. They don't have any reason to give you anything but their honest opinions. Pay attention to your friends. They're looking out for you.
2006-10-30 12:07:37 · answer #5 · answered by Candidus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably should consider leaving her. She doesn't realize what she already has. You seem to be a nice guy who knows what he wants, while she doesn't. When two people aren't on the same path and don't share the same thoughts and beliefs towards certain things, a relationship cannot work. If she was totally happy, trust me, she wouldn't be online looking for JACK. We only shop when there's something we want or need to buy, dear.
2006-10-30 11:57:20 · answer #6 · answered by Hpnotiq 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does she have to do for you to take the hint? She is with you until something better comes along. You can man up and dump her or you can sit around like a little girl worrying about your heart being lost without her. You're already without her you just don't want to know it.
2006-10-30 12:02:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, unless you're married, you're still considered single... Regardless of the seriousness of your relationship... Unless she's online trying to hook up, I wouldn't worry about it... Grilling her will only make her rebellious... I say just love her the best you can and things should be okay... Love her better than any other person could... Make her happy... Don't make her worry about every little thing she does... Support everything with reckless abandon and the love will grow... And there ain't nobody that can compete with deep love... Cheers!
2006-10-30 11:58:25 · answer #8 · answered by theamericandevil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just say look, it really bothers me that you do this. If you don't care enough about my feelings then I don't want to be with you. Leave if you have to. You don't deserve to be treated like that. If you did this to her, you better believe she would be pissed at you. So, switch it up on her and be like if you don't delete it and stop, I am out! Plus, how do you know that she isn't meeting up with people? I say go with your gut. YOu seem like a nice guy, you could get a girl that really cares about you and treats you the way you deserve to be treated. Good luck!
2006-10-30 11:58:24 · answer #9 · answered by kimmypoo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, clearly you two need to have a serious talk about your relationship and where it's headed. Obviously it doesn't sound like you have made a real commitment. Why are you checking up on her in the first place?
2006-10-30 11:56:22 · answer #10 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋