okay, guys u might not believe this but i'm 23 yrs old and i am dating my first boyfriend, it was my first month anniversary yesterday and he didn't even say anything to me, he didnt even give me a card, but the main thing that makes me frustrated is that he never offers me food or a drink when i'm at his house, and when ever we are outside from morning to evening he never takes me out to eat, is that normal and if not how do i deal with the issue in a mature way???
2006-10-30 03:52:15 · 6 answers · asked by freshcalmbreeze 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nothing wrong with waiting until 23. You have some maturity and better judgment than when you were a teen.
You probably need to take a long look at this relationship. Your wish to improve it says a lot about you. Make a list of what is positive in your relationship, and what is negative. I am worried at his lack of caring and concern for your comfort. The "failure to communicate" may not be about you...may just be that he doesn't care enough to bother. If this is how he behaves in the beginning of your relationship, a time when people ususally try to be their best, this is a warning signal. When you evaluate, you may find that you have the wrong guy. You deserve better!
2006-10-30 03:59:22 · answer #1 · answered by Sher 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone better - seriously! Most guys don't keep up with how long - like the one month thing - so thats pretty normal but if he doesn't think about you now he never will. If you've only been together for a month he should be trying to win you over but he doesn't even ask you if your hungry?? Get out while you can!!
2006-10-30 11:56:13 · answer #2 · answered by Scorpio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, the first lesson to better communication:
be direct, don't expect a guy to be able to read your mind...
if he asks you what's wrong, and you say he should know, the whole problem is in your head... (or that's at least what the guy will this, and then he'll be mad at you for taking out your problems on him for no reason)
don't try to drop hints, most men wont get them... if you have to drop a hint, be extreemly obvious about it! and even then, there's men who wont get it...
do not, under any circumstances, start trying to play mind games... at least for me, i'l get rid of you right quick...
as to the other things you mentioned, most men don't think one month is an anniversary at all, so i wouldn't think anything of that one at all... otherwise, he should be offering to get you things to drink or eat while at his house, and he should be taking you out to eat at least once in a while, it's still a new relationship... if you want something to eat or drink, either while home, or out, be direct and ask... just say Hey, I'm thirsty, can you get me something to drink?
best i could say... if it were me, i'd be offering you what ever you wanted if you were with me:) but i'm already in a relationship, and i do my best to take care of her:)
2006-10-30 12:00:50 · answer #3 · answered by Junior1544 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not as hard as you want to think. Talk, tell him you are hungry whenever you are out with him and you get hungry. that should open him up a bit. I think he has a communication problem and without you taking the cue and leading him along, you could end up very frustrated.
2006-10-30 11:59:53 · answer #4 · answered by kombo6m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all the word anniversary means yearly, not monthly. He's not required to get you a gift, nor are you entitled to get one.
You're complaining that he didn't get you a card, but what did you get him?
You need to talk to him about the food issues.
2006-10-30 11:54:26 · answer #5 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesn't sound like a boyfriend. more like an a s s. dump him. he's prob the worst first bf you'll ever have. find someone that will treat you right. there are a TON of guys out there. dont settle.
2006-10-30 11:53:57 · answer #6 · answered by Your_Star 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋