His parents coming from a different background/culture disciplined him differently. I don't know where or how it started but, it seems to be so natural to him, it hurts where i am bruised for a week or so...
2006-10-30 03:36:05 · 30 answers · asked by wannaBluvd 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Call your local domestic violence shelter. You can find links here...
http://linsplac.tripod.com/dvsa.html
He doesn't know how to control his anger. No culture teaches men to hit womnen in the head. He needs help and so do you.
You will get in life what you allow others to do to you. That isn't an insult, but advice. Please find support to be strong for yourself. Things can get better.
2006-11-01 03:55:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a guy that likes feeling power, and you letting him do it the first time showed him he can do any time. My boyfriend now hit me and i punched him in his face hard. so he does not try to get physical with me any more because he knows i will fight back. Once they do it and repeat they will never stop. You need to leave him, if you don't want to leave him for good but prove a point to him for what ever reason. The next time he hits you after he does just look at him and tell him do you feel like a man now and walk out the door, don't say anything else. If you have some where to stay for the rest of the day go, do not talk to him the hole Day if he calls you don't answer your phone. The next day when he calls you, tell him you want to talk tell him to meet you some where. Then explain to him exactly how it makes you feel, and what would he do if some random guy where to hit you, if he wants people to respect you he needs to and it starts with him. good luck
2006-10-30 03:45:43 · answer #2 · answered by babygirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to take charge of the situation. By the way, culture or background is not any excuse to hit someone you claim to love.
Be assured that true love never hurts, never ever, as it has respect ingrained in it. So make sure you make him aware of this and yourself too.
Now first join a self defense, martial arts class, give him a good beating so that he never hurts another woman, ever again. Seems he is quite a weakling within otherwise one wouldn't need to hurt another human being, let alone someone you claim to love just because you wants to feel powerful. True love doesn't hurt you as it has respect ingrained in it.
Certainly not the man you would want to be with for the rest of your life. Though make a better choice the next time around.
People only treat us the way to allow them to, it is never too late to change the dynamics of a relationship.
2006-10-30 04:33:22 · answer #3 · answered by Abhishek Joshi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all with reference to the photos of Blake, I consider the 2nd answerer, Poopy Head Jonhson. You boyfriend does no longer seem psycho interior the 1st photograph and interior the third photograph the place you're the two interior the convertible. His eyes tremendously lots scare me interior the final photograph, and his smile seems fairly pretend. even nevertheless, the photograph that concerns me the main is the 2nd photograph the place he's donning the tux. He fairly does, I advise in all honesty, he fairly sounds like a psychopath waiting to be enable lose. He sounds like he's asserting to himself "What the Hell am I doing right here, it is so f***ing stupid". His pitiful attempt at a grin on my own in that photograph, and the seem in his eyes make him appear as if an abusive psycho. you are able to consistently tell a guy by way of his eyes. Now, with reference to why, there is on no account an excuse, even nevertheless that's a danger he ought to o.k. have a ideas tumor. He additionally would have been abused while he became youthful, and that's rubbing off on him. in spite of the reason, kudos to you for leaving. He does choose help. He desires it by way of a psychiatrist, he desires it by way of anger administration, and he extra effective than possibly and maximum glaringly desires it medically. i choose to advise he get an MRI, additionally consistent with hazard examine his family members historic previous for something like this. He additionally would have a ingesting subject even. in spite of the case may be, there is not any excuse for him to hit you, no depend if he's 23 or 40 3, that's inaccurate. yet returned, i actually think of he does appear as if a psychopath, exceptionally interior the 2nd photograph. sturdy success...
2016-12-08 23:50:29 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question you should be asking is why do I let him hit me. No woman should ever have to go through what you are going through. You need to get out of this relationship and get rid of him. Honey you don't deserve to be abused no matter who you are or how much you think you love him. Love is not hitting someone. Get away and get away soon before he hurts you so bad your not here anymore.
2006-10-30 03:54:21 · answer #5 · answered by vernitta16 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He does it because he is a coward, he has been hit and bullied all his life so he thinks its ok, no man should hit a woman, if you really care about him, sit down and tell him the way you feel, tell your male friends to let him know (nicely) that its no way for a man to act, if he does not accept any of this advice , you will have to leave him. its better to try for those you love but you also have to know when enough is enough,, good luck to you.
2006-10-30 03:46:16 · answer #6 · answered by Lumper35 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU NEED TO GET AWAY FROM HIM. there is not reason or excuse, I don't care what culture his from. NO one should hurt you. Leave him please. I was in one too and I am still F@#$ed in the head from it. I didn't know I was a battered woman until I left him. You are a battered woman and you need to tell someone because you probably feel like its OK for him to do that to you, tell someone so that you don't feel alone. You are not alone in this, its completely wrong for someone to hurt you in a any way. One day you will be away from him and you will realize that you didn't deserve it. No one does. Please, please leave him. Stop the chain of abuse, its starts with me, you, us.
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2006-10-30 03:44:03 · answer #7 · answered by jloren 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
CAll THE POLICE. This is not love. Love does not hurt each other. Love is patient and kind. p.s. The bruising you speak of, could possibly be a concussion. He will keep on until he kills or maims you for life. Call the police, honey.
2006-10-30 03:58:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You want a straight answer, he does that coz you are too stupid to allow him to. Yes that is why, if you don't allow him, he will not do it.
Ways of stopping him? Too many to discuss, easiest being dump him and if need be get a legal restraining order stoping him from coming to you and if you know what is good for you, press charges on grounds of physical abuse.
2006-10-30 03:46:08 · answer #9 · answered by kenyanmartin2000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why is he still your boyfriend, maybe he has hit you in the head too many times! Once would be too many for me! Hit him back and dump him! Now!
2006-10-30 04:36:46 · answer #10 · answered by soblueyedgyrl1214 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋