I'm 17, almost 18 and a Senior in high school. I'm planning to ask this really really shy girl out. We don't know each that much, just a "hey" here and there once in a while. If she does say yes, does anybody have any ideas on a first date for a really shy girl? She doesn't like starting conversations, but when somebody starts talking to her, she slowly opens up and is really nice. Any ideas on a first date that isn't too serious as to freak her out, but nice enough to get the point across and help open up? Any ideas/advice are greatly appreciated. Thanks.
2006-10-30 02:57:09 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Find out what kind of movies she likes and take her to see one. Go get some coffee or something afterwards and break the ice by discussing the movie. If she feels comfortable, conversation should just flow from there.
2006-10-30 02:59:57 · answer #1 · answered by emt42 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her to talk about herself, her family, pets, anything that will give you a better picture of what she is about, what hopefully you both share in common. If you've got classes or teachers in common thats a place you might start, or if you have common interests in music or sports, etc...You may be able to impress her if you take her on a picnic somewhere that's really scenic and unique. But if you do this make sure you bring everything you need along, a blanket to sit on, food, drink, knives, forks, picnic basket, the whole nine. It'll show her you are mature and considerate.
2006-10-30 11:12:30 · answer #2 · answered by deno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My GF is pretty shy. On our first date we went to a quiet restaurant and talked. Find a place that's laid back but not too pretentious, someplace that serves good food so that if the conversation doesn't take off you can cover awkward silences by chewing.
And don't pressure her; just ask questions. Specific questions are better than general. If you find out that she likes folk music, for instance, ask if she prefers oldies like Pete Seeger or newcomers like Andrea Zonn. If she says she has a brother in the military, ask where he went to AIT and what his specialty is.
Asking questions takes the burden off the shy person to make the first move. Asking questions in an area where the shy person is comfortable makes it possible to speak freely and intelligently without fear of sounding like a dork. There's a fine line to walk: you want to make her the focus of the conversation so that she feels like you're really interested in her, but you don't want to make her feel so singled out that she feels like you're interrogating her.
And don't pressure her to do anything she doesn't want to do. If she doesn't want to see the movie you want to see, go to the one she wants to see. If she feels too pressured, she'll close down. Show her that you respect her and that you're trustworthy. Once you achieve that goal she'll open up and you can have a mature, grown-up relationship.
2006-10-30 11:07:17 · answer #3 · answered by nbsandiego 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would say take her to one of your schools football games and talk with her the entire time. so that she knows you care about her, and then take her out to eat. It would start nice and casual at the game and then as yous get to know each other a bit more during the game taking her out to eat would be like a nice low key romantic finish to the date.
I've done this a couple times and the last time the girl, I took asked me out to prom when I drove her home that night.
2006-10-30 11:06:08 · answer #4 · answered by bartathalon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, take her to a nice spot, a picnic, etc. Or take her to a movie, then take her out to eat, but not an overly expensive restaurant that would intimidate her. Keep this one on one so that she is not feeling overwhelmed. Be gentlemanly above all. It will help her relax when she feels you are being considerate.
2006-10-30 11:00:45 · answer #5 · answered by Angie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would go for dinner and a walk, in the park or something. where she has no choice but to open up and talk. dont take her to a movie or anything like that where you 2 cant talk
2006-10-30 11:01:18 · answer #6 · answered by blondie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be nice and hold her hand. You won't have to spend all your time talking. Take her to a game or a movie!
2006-10-30 11:00:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
show her u care by finding out what she likes and take her out ther..like a fav movie of hers or dancing or whatever and then start taslking to her about it.....thats the best way to break the ice and show ur serious about her....
2006-10-30 11:04:13 · answer #8 · answered by coolelectromagnet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go somewhere nice, and quiet where the two of you can really talk maybe she is not really shy when she'll get to know you
2006-10-30 11:03:48 · answer #9 · answered by *~butterfly~* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask her and treat her right. tell her what is on ur mind
2006-10-30 11:00:08 · answer #10 · answered by Sexy_hunter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋