I am a 24 year old, who has never gone down on a man, and my boyfriend kinda wants me to do it to him. Just the thought of it grosses me out:( I mean, I eat with my mouth. I keep refusing but it upsets him, besides he is verrry experienced in the bedroom and that just scares me.
2006-10-30 02:49:11 · 28 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
to me not vary important but to some men they just want to do it for fun not love & get him check for AIDS & HIV because you can never be to careful buy the way tell him you dont want to because it grosses you out he might understand if he is sensetive
2006-10-30 07:04:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, I think he should be understanding and patient with you first of all. I mean if he is forcing you to do it, then it is not going to be very relaxing for you and you might be less likely to want to do it. Your question... "How important is..." should really be asked of HIM and not of us. For some people here they might say that it is not important at all, but it sounds like for him it is very important because you are saying that it upsets him that you won't do it.
From my point of view, if he is used to having girls do that to him, he will become VERY frustrated that the girl he loves (I’m assuming he loves you) won't do something that he probably considers to be a very NORMAL and expected part of making love. If you don't do this, he will probably leave you or might have an affair with a girl who will. I am NOT saying it is right, however that is how (some) people are. If they are not content, they will seek it elsewhere.
Here are some things to consider....
Does he do that to you? Do you enjoy it?
How do you think it makes him feel when you reject him?
How important to you is making him sexually content?
Would you be upset if he went elsewhere for that?
Finally, as a man, I will tell you that oral sex is something that we expect from any girl that we are with. It feels great and if that is not a part of sex, than MANY of us will not be content. My advice.... learn to do it and do it well and frequently. Learn to enjoy the taste and learn to complete the job with a smile on your face. If you can look up at him after he finishes (you know) and you can say, "mmmm delicious" with an authentic smile on your face, he will be sooooo happy with you!
Just my 2 cents worth.
2006-10-30 02:58:59 · answer #2 · answered by Roger S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well isn't experience in bed a good thing. I mean sex is part love and part pleasure ryte!...;o) So if he is experience (not violent) then i think u sure to value that experience of his.
As for the Oral thingy. Well i must admit that guys just love it...can't explain why but its a norm nowdays. Maybe u could consider saving your mouth is by using a "proxy" like flavoured condoms.
2006-10-30 02:55:07 · answer #3 · answered by bananuts 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sexual incompatibility is one reason that people end up broken up.
This doesn't mean that you HAVE to give oral. It just means that your man is really into getting oral.
Oral is pretty common, and isn't as dirty or gross as you think. Just make sure he washes his thingy. If you are worried he has some disease, believe me, if you're having sex already then giving head will not increase the risk of transmission, you jusld have him get tested and if he's clean, then suck like you're trying to suck his nuts out of his sacks.
Just relax hun, oral sex isn't bad or dirty, it's just another "thing" to do. Does he do it to you? I'm sure he does, then it just sucks if you're not returning the favor.
2006-10-30 03:00:25 · answer #4 · answered by MisterO 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
On a scale of 1 to 10....it's about a 493. You have to stop thinking it's gross. What better way to pleasure someone? Oral sex is amazing, and he will thank you for it. Have him give it to you too, hell, I don't know of a single woman that doesn't want to be eaten out. They love it. Same with guys.....it's amazing. If he has had blowjobs before, you better give him some. He will want them again. Make sure it's you that gives it to him.
2006-10-30 04:28:25 · answer #5 · answered by NymphoSeeker 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's only as important as the want for it, but you shouldn't worry about any bacteria or anything like that, your mouth will have more bacteria than down there. you could use something as flavour while doing it, but i don't think there is really a way out of it, just do it for a little bit and then stop n say your done lol, he might not like it but you've done it. Don't worry about his experience though, just go crazy, he'll like it.
2006-10-30 02:55:05 · answer #6 · answered by Aaron 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my ex had never done it before at 29.she thought it was gross too for the same reasons. i gave her oral first even though she was unsure about that as well. after that she was more open to reciprocating but still very wary. there is no right answer , you have to be ok with it. if he loves you he wont make you but it is something that has broken some relationships. talk to him about it
2006-10-30 03:05:25 · answer #7 · answered by Mr Cynical 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey girl ! Men love oral sex , as much as we do & it's an important part in sex. U better start giving it to him & give it good or some other girl will & u will lose him. Hey, i love giving heads & to swallow too & nothing gross about that. It's in ur head only.
2006-10-30 02:56:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel comfortable with this guy, then find another man to be friends with. Not every man is the same. And if you look hard enough, then you will find someone who is more like you.
2006-10-30 03:01:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can only see its importance in marriage. Tell your bf to respect your decision right now. Ask him to give you some space when it comes to oral sex. Having given to him yourself outside from the sacrament of marriage is more than enough for him to celebrate. Do not force yourself.
2006-10-30 02:53:18 · answer #10 · answered by Bleedingheartofagoddess 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋